If you're the youngest in your family you now have some serious bragging rights to hold over your siblings. While you probably always thought you were the favorite child in your family, a new survey is now confirming that is probably true.
A survey conducted by parenting forum Mumsnet and their offshoot Gransnet surveyed 1,185 parents and 1,111 grandparents and asked if they had a favorite child or grandchild. While the question is touchy at best, 23 per cent of parents answered that they had a favorite child, while 42 per cent of grandparents agreed, according to iNews.
Of the 23 percent of parents who agreed they have a favorite, 56 percent said they preferred their youngest child. For 41 percent of the parents who answered, the consensus seemed to be that their favorite was “the easy one,” with their siblings labelled more as "demanding" or "tricky." The same percentage also stated that their favorite child reminded them of themselves the most.
Not surprising, 39percent of the grandparents surveyed preferred their eldest grandchild. Still, according to The Independant, more than half of those who use both Mumsnet and Gransnet feel it's "awful" for a parent or grandparent to have a favorite child. The survey claims that many feel having a favorite isn't just damaging for siblings in the household, but for the child labelled the favorite as well.
The survey also found that one third of the grandparents who had a favorite noted that the child in question often reminded them of their own son or daughter, with an overwhelming majority of both parents and grandparents agreeing that their favorite child was "unstintingly loving and affectionate." Approximately half of parents and grandparents claimed their favorite child was the one that made them laugh more.
While we all tend to love our children equally, it's not unusual to have different feelings towards them, as they are individuals. Youngest children tend to be "easier" because parents are more accustomed to parenting, while older children can be labelled "difficult" because new parents are learning as they go.
Mumsnet and Gransnet founder Justine Roberts noted that having a favorite child doesn't have to be toxic, and it can help other parents to share your opinions on the matter. “Favouritism is one of the last taboos and can provoke a lot of guilt, so it’s important to say that feeling a greater affinity for a particular child – often, whichever one is willing to put their shoes on – is fairly common, and doesn’t have to be disastrous. Toxic favouritism, where siblings become aware of being treated unfairly over the long term, is a whole other ball game. The distilled Mumsnet wisdom on this issue is that lots of parents like their children differently: the crucial thing is to love them all wholly.”
Is this true for you?