Raising kids in 2019 can be a pretty daunting prospect. This is the social media age, full of flawless selfies and Kardashians. When it comes to teenagers, the water is a little different to how it was for millennials growing up. Back then, we wanted to play with our Tamagotchis and text on our pay-as-you-go Nokia 3310. While the prospect of wearing make-up eventually reared its head, these days its everywhere you go. YouTube stars like JoJo Siwa make a living off of being "fabulous", so it's hardly surprising that kids are wanting to wear make-up younger than ever. Deciding when to allow your child to start experimenting with cosmetics can be a tricky process that raises a ton of questions, like "How young is too young?" or "Other moms are letting their kids wear make-up. Should I?" Here are a few things to consider before buying that Sephora gift card.
Don't compare yourself to other families. Kids are great at letting us know what little Lizzy from across the street is allowed to do, but it's important to remember that every child is different. Consider how old your child is, and how appropriate it would be to let them wear make-up on a daily basis.
You don't have to go from zero to 100. Your child might be inching to get their hands on the latest contouring kit they've seen on Instagram, but if the thought sends shivers down your spine, then consider reaching an agreement. Starting out small with a little lip gloss and blush might be enough to appease your son or daughter, even if they'd rather be allowed free reign. As they mature and grow, let them know that you'll be open to the prospect of relaxing some of the rules.
If you're dead against it, be clear about why. Some parents simply don't want their kids to wear make-up and that's okay. According to an article published on SheKnows, one mother of two put a blanket ban on make-up of any kind until her daughters turned 16. "I want them to grow up with confidence in their natural beauty and not feel that they have to hide behind or change their appearance with make-up," she explained. If you don't want your children to wear make-up, then give them a positive reason as to why. Simply saying, "Because I said so," or "You're not old enough," may incite rebellion.
Ask yourself what difference it will make. Family therapist Carrie Krawiec suggests asking three simple questions when making the decision: Will wearing make-up affect my child's health? Will this affect my child's grades? Will this cause hurt to other people? If the answer is no to all three, she says, then it might be time to run with it.
Remember, there really is no set age. Some people you know may have started wearing make-up at 10, while others never really got into it. Every one is different, and each family has their own stance on the subject. Make your decision carefully, and start slowly if you decide to move forward.