There's a lot to get used to when first-time moms welcome their baby into the world. They have to care for this newborn 24/7 while also finding the time to do things every adult needs to do. Finding time to shower in peace is hard enough as it is, so how do new moms stay connected to friends and family members when there's barely enough time in the day to make a sandwich?
Although being a new parent isn't easy, technology has made communication easier and faster than ever before, making it easier for new moms to stay in touch with their loved ones with the help of a button. It's important to remember that while friendships are important, it's a two-way street. Your friends should be trying as hard as you to keep your friendship afloat or else it's not worth the effort. Here are 10 ways to stay in touch with friends after becoming a mom.
10 GIRLS NIGHT ONCE A MONTH
If you live in close proximity to your friends, finding a night once a month to get together is a fantastic idea. Think of it as a date night with friends.
There are thousands of specialists out there who recommend parents go on weekly date nights to keep the flame alive and to have a break from being a mom and a dad, so why not keep the same mindset for friends? Getting together weekly may be too much to ask but once a month is totally feasible. Grab some dinner, a drink, or head over to a local coffee shop to reconnect.
9 A WEEKLY PHONE CALL WHEN BABY GOES TO BED
Babies and toddlers have to go to sleep sometime, right? As soon as they hit the sack and you have all your ducks in a row, take a seat and call up a friend.
You don't need to sit on the phone for hours but calling to talk about your days or to vent about a situation is therapeutic. It's almost like your friend is in the same house as you. Even reminiscing about old times is enough to brighten the end of your day before you, yourself, hit the hay.
8 YOU DON'T ALWAYS NEED TO FIND A SITTER
Most parents feel like they need to find a babysitter when they hang out with friends but that's not always the case. If you're heading over to your friend's house to watch a football game, have a BBQ, or just to hang out, bring your kids along.
If you want to find a sitter because you and your partner need a break from being mom and dad, that's totally justifiable; but there's no need to get a sitter if you don't need one. Most friends love seeing their friends' kids. It's a chance to reconnect and bond with little humans that will forever be apart of your life.
7 MAKE WEDDINGS A PRIORITY
If you're at an age where friends of yours are still getting married, use that wedding as a getaway. Even if the wedding is local, drop your kids off at a relatives house or find a baby sitter for the weekend and go have a nice time with your partner and friends.
Everyone deserves time to let loose and what better time to do that than at a wedding? It's a chance to reconnect with your friend group where everyone gets dressed up — plus, there's an open bar! Everyone has a good time at weddings, so parents should try to utilize them.
6 SOCIAL MEDIA IS SUPER EASY
Some parents view social media as a hindrance; something that takes up way too much of their time. However, social media is also a great way to keep connected with friends. Whether you make a private Facebook group with your friends to share information with or you post frequently on Instagram — everyone is connected through social media.
You can post, comment, send videos, direct message... Social media is eternal and is a great relay of information. When life gets busy, there are many friends out there who turn to social media to see what their besties are up to with their babies.
5 FACETIMING OR SKPING TAKES NO TIME AT ALL
When people talk about FaceTiming, they act as if they don't have time to do something so personal, but it doesn't need to take long.
Just seeing your BFF and their kids for five minutes is enough to touch base and feel connected. Skyping is another way to stay in touch and is super easy to navigate (and free!).
4 APPS GOOGLE-HANGOUTS
You know the saying, "There's an app for that"? Well, it's true. We have an app for everything these days and we're thankful for them. As a new parent, if group chats and social media are too annoying for you, maybe Google Hangouts will be a better fit.
You can call, message, send videos, video call all in one app. Plus, everything is easily transferable from phone to tablet to computer, so you're never going to lose those messages of videos.
3 FRIENDS AND FAMILY VACATIONS
While going on a kid-free vacation with your friends sounds ideal, it's not always realistic. It's sometimes easier and cheaper to bring your kids on vacation with you. But instead of keeping it in the family, do a group vacation with family and friends.
Tell everyone to bring their kids and make it a party. Go away for a few days where everyone and their kids can mingle. Make it more personal and inviting by renting an Air BnB instead of being separated in hotels. Everyone will feel included, get their fix of gossip and friendship, and hopefully make it an annual thing!
2 YOU'LL STAY IN TOUCH WITH FRIENDS YOU ACTUALLY CARE ABOUT
While we're on the subject of friends, we should note one very important thing. You should only feel compelled to stay in touch with friends you actually care about. You don't need to give equal amounts of energy to all of your 200-something Facebook friends.
Stay in touch with those who want to stay in touch with you. Friendship shouldn't feel like a one-way road — it should be equal. When both parties are invested in making this friendship last, it'll be easier for everyone.
1 Invite Friends Over If They Don't Have Kids
This may come off as selfish but it really does make the most sense. If you're the only person in your friends' group to have kids, it'll be much easier to have everyone travel to you instead of the other way.
A child typically behaves better in their own space and mom or dad knows where everything is. They don't need to pack 12 bags, a car seat, and a stroller just to see friends for two days. And if you have good friends, they won't mind making the trip to see you and your home.