Children are known for being emotional since they are young, developing, and figuring out the rules of society. This can mean that children push boundaries and can even act out at times. If your child is acting out that is not them being a bad kid, that is them saying that they need more guidance in life. And sometimes when they act out in an aggressive way, it makes us parents feel like we did something wrong or are bad parents, but that isn't true.
There are times when parents need advice on how to handle a situation. If you find that your child has aggressive tendencies, keep reading to find out 10 ways to help manage their behavior. And, of course, it's important to see a child psychologist if you are really worried.
10 Set Firm Rules
Being a parent is hard and knowing when to give your children the freedom to learn and when to set rules is even harder. But if you are trying to manage your child’s aggressive behavior, then you need to set firm rules and stand by them. Setting firm rules and communicating with your child about them will help your little one know what is expected of them.
This can help with aggressive behavior since your child will start to understand that aggressive behavior is not accepted and that there are consequences to their actions.
9 Kids Need To Be Active
Your little one might be acting in an aggressive manner because they have a lot of built-up energy and they don't know what to do with it. One of the best ways to deal with this is to help them be more active. Have your child join a sports team where they are going to be able to run around and get their energy out.
Joining a sports team will also have your child be around other kids their age and learn what behavior is appropriate or not and sports are great for building discipline in children, too! Even if you and your child can't commit to joining a sports team, make it a part of your day to spend some time outside with them playing and you will slowly see their aggressive behavior getting better.
8 Remain Calm Around Them
When your child is acting out, especially in public, it can be hard to remain calm and handle the situation. But you can't get angry or upset that this is happening because your child is feeling an emotion and is trying to express it.
When you stay calm, you won't add any more feelings or pressures to what your child is already dealing with. You can talk to them with a calm voice. If you think that you're making a scene in public as you try to calm your child down, don't worry. Every parent has definitely been there.
7 Identify Triggers
All of our emotions can be set off from something. Right now, you can probably think of something that can trigger you to feel heated and angry and your little one is the same way. There might be something that happens that can trigger them to behave aggressively. Pay closer attention to your children and see if you can figure out what triggers them to behave this way.
Some kids can act aggressively if they did not have an afternoon map, while others don’t like certain activities. Figuring out the triggers can help you avoid them or help your child through them deal with it.
6 Teach Them About Their Emotions
Humans are complex and at times it can feel like children are the most mysteries humans of all. Children can have a difficult time since they do not know how to properly express or even acknowledge the emotion they are feeling. Teaching your children about all of their emotions besides just happy, sad, and mad can really help your children articulate what they are feeling.
So maybe that aggressive behavior is just because they are frustrated and they don’t know what frustrated means or how to handle that feeling. So teach your kids about complex emotions so they can accurately recognize what they are feeling.
5 Don't Use Physical Means As A Form Of Discipline
If you're trying to find a way to manage your child's aggressive behavior, you shouldn't use any form of physical discipline. Physical discipline is a very old, outdated form of discipline that no parents should use any more.
And if you are trying you teach your child to control their aggressive behavior while you're disciplining them this way, that would be giving them mixed signals. Instead, you must communicate with your child about their behavior and how it is not acceptable in a calm tone and explain what to do in a situation that gets them mad.
4 Give Them Quiet Time
Everyone needs comfort in their lives and your child needs attention and comfort all the time. A good practice to instill in their lives is to have some quiet time together.
This time could be you reading a book to them or working on a kid's puzzle. Giving them quiet time will help your children focus on just one task and will teach them to sit still for longer periods of time. Quiet time is a great tool to use to help shape your little one's brain and teach them more control.
3 Get Them Involved In Crafts
Brainpower is a very powerful tool and if your child is showing aggressive behavior it could be because they are not using up enough of their mind's energy. One way to use their brains is through arts and crafts.
Arts and crafts involve following directions to make something amazing. And with your child staying focused to make their art and crafts, they are going to use up a lot of brain energy. Remember the brain is a muscle and has to be worked out too just like any other part of the body.
2 Praise Good Behavior
If you are just disciplining your little ones all the time because of their aggressive behavior, they are going to continue to act out. You must also make a point to praise any good behavior they have. Praising good behavior will signal something in their brains that will make them feel proud and accomplished and they are going to want to have more of that feeling.
Praising good behavior will also teach your little one what behaviors are acceptable forming their brain away from the aggressive behavior they have been displaying.
1 Be An Example And Control Your Anger
Remember that time you swore after a car cut you off when you were driving or the time you demanded to see the manager at a store after a very bad experience? If your child was with you, they were watching everything. Whether we want to believe it or not, our kids are always watching us and picking up on our behavior and one of their aggressive problems might be because they see how you and other adults act at times.
So make a conscious effort whenever your children are around to remain calm at whatever life throws at you. You are the role model your child needs and sometimes that means watching how you act too.