The back-to-school season is not only stressful for many kids, but for many parents, too. That’s because they deal with all the stress, pressure, and even anxiety that kids face when it’s time to get back to the routine of waking up, getting ready for school, and doing the work that needs to be done in the classroom.
If that weren’t enough, many parents also worry about their child being away from them for the very first time, especially if they are just beginning pre-school or Kindergarten. Luckily, there are a few ways that you can lessen the back-to-school anxiety.
10 Prepare Early For Schedule Changes
Certainly enough, not only does your child have to get ready for the back-to-school routine, but so do parents, too! A few weeks before the first day of school, it would probably be a good idea to start heading to bed early and waking up about the same time that you would on a school day.
Because let’s face it, when mama’s tired then the entire family is tired and nothing gets done. Get all of the rest you can get because you will need it by the time school comes around. And yes, load up on all of that coffee, too!
9 Stay Active
While the first day of school is often off to an exciting start, it’s not until the third or fourth day that you will find yourself moaning and groaning about your new fall schedule. That’s why it’s best to ease into the school routine.
And if possible, get yourself involved by volunteering at your child’s school as well. Give a helping hand where it’s needed.
8 Talk It Out
Because so many parents focus on their children’s well being and mental health, the more often than not forget about their own. Of course, it shouldn’t be this way. If you find yourself having extreme anxiety issues about seeing your child go back to school, talk it out with a friend, or better yet another parent from your child’s class. Many parents often find that there are other moms and dads that have the same worries and concerns that they do. Now, this doesn’t mean that you have to commiserate together. Instead, show your fellow mom friends the love and support they need in order for everyone to get through this together.
7 Try To Remain Calm
When mama is calm, everyone is calm. With so much on our plates, it’s all too easy to freak out about it and have a meltdown session of our own (with the kids watching us, no less). If you find this to be the case, then try some de-stressing activities.
After you drop off your child at school, do something for yourself to help ease your calms, whether it’s an iced coffee, breakfast with friends or heading to your local gym. Remember, moms need to take care of themselves first and foremost. Also, try some breathing techniques or anything else that might help ease your anxiety.
6 Get Together With Your Mom Friends
As mentioned above, the best way to ease some of your worries is to of course, talk things out. And if there’s anyone who knows how you might be feeling, it’s another mom or parent who just dropped off their child for their first day of school. To put it simply, that separation anxiety that everyone talks about is real! Try starting a mom group, join the PTA or stay in touch with the parents of your child’s friends if you are lucky enough to get along with them. Remember, you are not in this alone. There’s power in numbers.
5 Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff
This might be easier said than done but try not to sweat the small stuff, especially if you don’t have much control over them. Plus, if your child sees you freaking out about certain things, there’s a good chance that you might give them a reason to stress out, too.
And you certainly don’t want to do that, especially if it’s their first day or if they are going to a brand new school. Sure, many of us might have a fight-or-flight response imbedded in us but step back, reassess the situation and then proceed accordingly. Not every detail is worth the headache.
4 Trust Your Child’s Teacher
This is perhaps the most important thing to remember: trust your teacher. Know that your pride and joy is in good hands and that more often than not your child’s teacher will treat them like their own. There are so many incredible educators out there who truly do a fantastic job of taking care of each and every one of their students and paying attention to all of their individual needs. Your child’s teacher might be one of them. Instead of worrying about them, trust them. Know that they are in their position for a good reason. That’s because they are passionate and most importantly, they love their job.
3 And Most Importantly, Trust Your Child
Sometimes we don’t give our children the credit that they deserve. You’d be surprised to find out how many kids out there truly are resilient and both willing and ready to tackle and face new challenges, regardless of where they are or what they are doing.
Trust your child. If you have open and honest conversations with them, trust that they will also make the right decisions when it comes to their school work, their teachers and how they treat their peers. Know that your child is learning every day and that the two of you will get through this as a team.
2 Try Some Stress Busters
If you are still having some doubts about your child going back to school or are worried sick about it, try some stress busters. You can talk to a professional about specific breathing exercises that will help calm you and re-center your mind.
Stand up, talk a walk or go for a run or do anything that will get your mind off of things. Also, know that there are others who feel the same.
1 Face Your Own Fears
Face your own fears or in other words, imagine difficult situations before they occur. Tell yourself what you would do. If possible, try to put all remote possibilities out of your mind and focus on the things that you can control rather than the things you can’t control. Facing your fears in a direct manner will certainly help you manage your anxiety before it gets worse.