Becoming pregnant and having a baby can be one of the best times of a person's life, especially for first-time moms. However, pregnancy can also be an extremely stressful and difficult time. Yes, from the initial stages of getting pregnant, to eventually giving birth to a real-life human being, the whole ordeal can be pretty tough. Therefore, it is even more important to be respectful and thoughtful to those who are expecting a baby.
Think about it? The last thing you want to do is irritate a pregnant woman. That's right, with raging hormones and emotions running high, it is likely that you will come off worse than whatever it was that you said in the first place. To help you out, here are 10 things you should never say to a pregnant woman.
10 "Do You Have Twins In There?"
Firstly, pregnant women know how large they are, they know that their stomach is bigger than usual and they know that most people can figure out that they are pregnant. Therefore, they don't need people commenting on their weight or letting them know how big and burly they may be.
Yes, the "having twins" comment is one of the most common jokes in the world when it comes to people commenting on pregnant women's bodies. However, if you do say this to a pregnant woman make sure to expect a roll of the eyes and a sigh in your direction. That's right, it's not funny and it never will be.
9 "You Are Tiny, Are You Even Pregnant?"
For some reason, a pregnant woman's body is a target for comments about weight, size, and growth, but would you comment on a person's body if they weren't pregnant? Probably not! That's right, pregnant women are either accosted for being too big or attacked for being too small. Interestingly, a lot of people think that calling a pregnant woman thin is a compliment and that they are actually doing them a favor. However, nothing could be further from the truth. Not only is this extremely insulting but it can also send the expecting mother into a panic.
8 "Was It Planned?"
Firstly, whether their baby was planned or not, it is none of your business, especially if you don't know them that well. Secondly, what do you expect them to say if they tell you that their baby wasn't planned? That's right, not only have you asked an extremely insulting and personal question but you have also dug a major hole for yourself, and nobody wants that. Furthermore, these types of questions tend to lead towards other dangerous questions such as, "how do you feel about overpopulation?" or "do you feel bad for bringing a child into a world full of violence?" No thanks.
7 "You Look Tired"
Whether they are pregnant or not, nobody wants to be told that they look tired. Yes, telling a pregnant woman that they look tired, miserable, sad or exhausted is one of the worst things you could ever do. Think about it? Of course, they are tired, they probably can't sleep, eat or even sit comfortably, never mind the fact that they constantly have to carry around a mini human everywhere they go.
Furthermore, try not to compare them to your other pregnant friend who is currently rocking the most beautiful pregnancy glow in the world and smiling from ear to ear, they will hate you for it.
6 "Let Me Tell You What Happened To Me During Labor"
For some reason, mothers love to tell expecting mothers just how traumatic their labor experience was along with all the gruesome ins and outs and gory details. However, this is the last thing that pregnant women want to hear, especially if they are close to their due date and just about to blow. Yes, pregnant women don't want to hear your horror stories about tears, rips and fecal mishaps. They don't want to know how painful it was and they certainly don't want to know about your placenta. Plus, it is important to know that every woman's labor is a unique experience and will be completely different from anybody else's.
5 "Oh No, Is That When You Are Due?"
"Oh no, they are due during the Christmas holidays? They will always hate their birthday, you will have zero money in December, nobody likes celebrating birthdays at Christmas."
Let's face it, it is near enough impossible to plan the perfect due date. Yes, although some parents might plan for a baby, it is unlikely that they will get the due date that they most desire. As a result, some children are born on days that might make their parents a little bit anxious. For instance, the Christmas holidays, New Year's Eve or even September 11th. Whatever the date, it is advisable that you don't comment on it unless you are being positive.
4 "You Are Eating For Two Now"
"You are eating for two now," has got to be one of the most infuriating phrases when it comes to talking to pregnant women. Not only is the expression idiotic, but it is also completely untrue. Yes, those who are expecting might be tempted to eat twice as much as they usually do, and yes maybe they will have a small increase in their appetite, but this doesn't mean that it will help or affect the baby. Therefore, doubling your food amount does absolutely nothing when it comes to producing a healthy and happy baby, but instead helps pack on the pounds. However, that doesn't mean that you should eat less, just make sure you eat healthily with all the important nutrients that your body and baby can benefit from.
3 "Can I Touch Your Stomach?"
Asking a pregnant woman if you can touch their stomach has to be one of the strangest requests on the list, yet it is also one of the most common. Yes, people all over the world are seemingly obsessed with a pregnant woman's stomach and as soon as they see it they are suddenly desperate to touch it. However, for a pregnant woman, having someone touch their stomach is the last thing they want, especially after they have been lugging it around all day.
Instead, wait until they invite you to, more often pregnant women are happy to share exciting moments such as kicking or rapid movement, just wait until they say it first.
2 "Are You Going To Have Any More?"
Being pregnant can spark a number of questions, most of which have been mentioned in this list. However, even when someone is halfway through their pregnancy, questions about future children are still just as common. That's right, asking a pregnant woman if they want more kids is one of the most stupid questions in the world, especially if it is their first baby. Firstly, they aren't done with the one they are carrying and are likely to be focussed on that and that alone. Secondly, asking about future potential babies can be a little personal and probably the last thing on their mind.
1 "Should You Really Be Eating/Drinking That?"
"Hmmm I don't think you should be eating that, I've heard that can be really damaging for your baby, you shouldn't drink that either it's really bad and can affect your unborn baby's health."
Nobody should be asking a pregnant woman these questions unless they are a doctor or a health expert. However, for some reason, regular people all over the world believe that they have every right to lecture pregnant women on what they eat and drink and how it can affect their unborn baby. Not only is this incredibly rude but it can also worry those who are expecting. Instead, save the judgemental comments and keep quiet.