Becoming a woman is one of the most exciting things that anyone will go through, and some people are so excited about that final destination that they find themselves racing through everything in between in order to get there. As a mom, that can be overwhelming and stressful, but one does not always want to be the bad guy, and there are some issues where the two opposing parties can meet in the middle. One of the biggest questions considering the "how soon is too soon" process of helping one's child grow up into the adult they dream of being is when should they start wearing makeup. Know that every child is different, so the answer will vary on a case by case basis, but this article can help questioning moms understand what their child is feeling and how to make the best choice for their family.
10 Understand Why They Want to Wear Makeup
Are they struggling with any specific insecurities, like acne, that can be remedied with makeup? Are they trying to appear older or attract the attention of someone older than them? Are they trying to keep up with their friends? Or do they simply love the artistic angle of makeup and seek to explore the art on their own? The reason for the child wanting to start wearing makeup is the most important factor in making one's decision whether or not to support this goal of theirs. If they want to wear makeup for other people, it might be best to wait. Yet, if this is something they want for themselves, then compromises can be made.
9 Teach Them About Makeup Safety
It's important to teach a child who is new to the makeup world the importance of makeup safety. That sounds a little silly, but it is important to ensure that they are taking care of their face and keeping things hygienic. Basic rules such as do not share any products that touch the eyes, do not share a lipstick or liner from a friend with a cold sore, wash brushes regularly, and remove all makeup before bed, and warning them of the ill-effects of poor makeup care are all important to discuss.
8 Find Age Appropriate Makeup Looks
Though the Instagram Glam Makeup trends can look absolutely beautiful on the screen, these extravagant designs may not be the best thing for a young tween trying out makeup for the first time. These looks can be fun to play with at home but could lead to negative attention out in public, a feeling that they aren't enough without such heavy makeup, as well as the simple fact that not all schools allow visible makeup. Research age-appropriate looks—if such things are a concern—that will address their need to wear makeup without overwhelming them.
7 Set Rules, If Needed
If makeup has become a bit of a debate in the house and the mother has concerns about their child taking it a bit too far, it can be prudent to set certain rules and boundaries for the makeup. This can help the child feel like they are being given the chance to take that next step without overwhelming the parent who does not want to see them grow up so quickly. Such rules can include things like "no makeup at school" or "colorful makeup is for the weekends only." These rules can allow both parties to feel in control, to a certain degree.
6 Explain The Attention They Might Get
As much as we want our children to believe that no one is looking at the insecurities that they carry around, it is important to note that tweens pick up on differences between them and their peers, and some kids will notice if one of their peers arrives at school one day with a full face of makeup. The makeup can also make the child appear older, which could lead to negative attention from older people. It is important to prepare them for the attention that they might receive so that they don't blame themselves if things go awry.
5 Find A Compromise
In every debate, there is a middle ground where both parties can meet and find a solution that works for them. Allowing one's child to wear makeup does not mean that they will go from plain faced to full glam overnight. Set boundaries that allow both parties to feel a sense of comfort with the changes. Note that the child may push against the boundaries, especially if their friends do not have similar restrictions and they will, most likely, sneak the makeup into school and apply it before class, usually removing it before they return home. Decide whether or not this is an age-appropriate act of rebellion or something that should be addressed.
4 Teach Them How to Apply It Well
Few things are more embarrassing than looking back at old photos and marveling at what one used to think looked good. Though learning how to apply makeup well is easier than it has ever been due to the availability of guides and tutorials online, it is important to ensure that they are using the right products for their skin and blending things well. It is a skill, and it takes time to hone. Helping the child learn how to apply the makeup in a way that suits the style they are trying to achieve/emulate while also creating a flattering look can be a rewarding bonding experience between the parent and child. This can help them feel like they are not opposing forces in the makeup debate.
3 Find Affordable Starter Palettes
Let's be honest, makeup is not cheap, and some mothers might not feel comfortable shelling out the big bucks for their child's first palette. This could lead to some friction in the relationship, as some modern children have sought to get into makeup after watching their favorite creators expertly craft beautiful looks online. The majority of these creators have their own makeup lines/palettes which tend to retail at $60USD a piece. Though the child may be upset that their mother isn't buying them the latest and greatest palette hailing from the online beauty community, a simple palette from the drugstore is just as good if not better.
2 Teach Them How to Care for Their Skin
Children have amazing skin. This is, in part, due to the nature of human aging, as well as the fact that their skin has not been exposed to years of use, chemicals, and the sun. Some mothers may be hesitant to allow their children to start wearing makeup due to the fact that they want to protect their child's lovely skin for as long as possible. However, there are ways to wear makeup without damaging the outer layer of their face. Clean foundations that do not contain harsh chemicals, a good skin care routine that involves a gentle cleaner, and teaching them how to cover up spots without caking their face can be wonderful ways to protect their skin.
1 Try Out Different Looks Together
The decision on whether or not to let one's child start wearing makeup does not need to devolve into an "us vs them" situation. This can be a wonderful journey into adulthood that both mother and child take together. Choosing makeup together, exploring and experimenting with looks online, and having a makeover day at home can be wonderful ways to bond during this transition; even if both parties do not agree on every single element of the compromise/decision that has been reached.
In the end, it is important to allow one's child the space needed to explore themselves and to grow. However, it is the responsibility of the parent to look out for the child's best interest and ensure that they aren't pushing themselves into growing up too fast.