Motherhood is a huge step, and while it's a big change for everyone, it can be even more daunting for introverts. Suddenly, you're forced out of your comfort zone and into new areas of social interaction, from birthday parties to PTA meetings. If you're not the most confident person in large groups of strangers, then it can take some getting used to. In fact, some moms are so anxious about being in uncomfortable situations that they'd rather avoid it than embrace it - and who can blame them? We're not all built to be social butterflies. If you prefer your own company then don't worry, we have a few tips that can help you survive the schoolyard.
When your child first starts going to school, drop off can be a little scary. It seems like everyone knows each other and you're the odd one out. If making friends instantly isn't your bag, then it can feel like an impossible feat - but the best thing you can do is start small. Make a comment to another mom standing on her own about how excited you are to see your little one start school. Before you know it, you've made an ally that you can at least say hello to in the mornings. If they don't want to carry the conversation on, don't take it personally. They're probably just as nervous as you are.
Say yes to invitations.
It won't be long before a birthday party invitation is slipped inside your child's book bag, and while introverts aren't known for their love of big social events, do your best to attend. Your little one will follow your lead, so if you're throwing yourself into the fray despite feeling slightly uncomfortable, then you're setting a good example. Do your best to make conversation, but don't be afraid to set up camp in a quiet corner.
Stock up on alone time.
If me-time is what makes your heart sing, then it can be difficult to keep your sanity between work, the kids and a busy home life. Try and carve out an hour or two each week to just be you, instead of mom. Take a bath with the door locked, stay up half an hour later than you usually would and read a chapter of your book. It will be worth it.
Don't feel guilty.
Most of all, don't feel like you have to be an all-singing, all-dancing super-mom that has to be at the forefront of every occasion. It can be easy to compare yourself with others that take to this whole parenting thing like a duck to water, but preferring your own company to that of others doesn't make you a lesser being. It takes all types to make the world go round.