There are so many social pressures that people face to meet all life's important milestones, especially women. Once you reach a certain age, any time you talk about dating someone, no matter how new the relationship, the conversation ends up being about marriage. If you're not married by a certain age, the word single gets branded on you and can feel like a massive failure...even if you don't actually want to be married in the first place. The thought that a woman could actually want to be single is an idea that escapes most.
That's why "Self-Parternered," a phrase coined by Emma Watson, best known for playing Hermione Granger in the Harry Potter movies, is like a breath of fresh air for women who feel this pressure every day.
In a recent interview with British Vogue, the 29-year-old actress talked openly coming to grips with turning 30 in April 2020. She told British Vogue: "If you have not built a home, if you do not have a husband, if you do not have a baby, and you are turning 30, and you're not in some incredibly secure, stable place in your career, or you're still figuring things out... There's just this incredible amount of anxiety."
The actress goes on to say that it took her some time to get to the place that she's at but that she's happy being single and that's why she prefers to refer to herself as self-partnered to show that being single is a choice for her rather than a failure to be in a relationship.
So many women can relate to what Watsonis saying and that's why re-appropriating the term single with self-partnered may help to liberate women. In addition to women who end up feeling as if they're not doing well in life if they haven't reached certain milestones by a certain age, you also have women who rush into things like buying a home that they can't really afford, marrying someone that they don't really want to be with, or having kids that they're not ready to have, just to feel as if they're keeping pace with their peers.
It can end up becoming a vicious cycle where everyone is doing it because everyone is doing it but at the end of the day, nobody is really happy.