Turns out, routines may be the key to having a healthy, happy family, and keeping stress and disorder to a minimum at home.When you become a parent, it can feel like the world is just spinning out of control and you're just trying to hang on. A baby can completely disrupt your routine, which can be really hard to get used to! Everything is done on their time and at their pace, and we just have to get used to it.
But as our kids get older, we start to fall into a new routine, one that works around our kids and to their benefit. We hear all the time how important it is to have a routine when you have a baby, or a toddler. But having a routine can be equally, if not more, important when your kids get older. Kids with routines tend to be more self-disciplined and feel more secure, and having a routine at home can even help your kids do better in school. Let's take a deeper look.
Kids With Routines Have Better Social-Emotional Health
A study in 2014 found that kids who had family-centered routines at home had better social-emotional health, which can be an indicator of good emotional and social skills. Researchers examined the family routines of 8,500 children and found that the kids whose families regularly participated in some family routines (eating meals together, reading together, or playing together a few times a week, for example) were more socially and emotionally advanced, which led them to do better in a classroom setting.
Kids With Routines Feel More Secure
But perhaps more importantly than that, routines can help kids feel more secure and improve their overall self-discipline. The world is a scary place for a kid, and there's so much uncertainty and so many unknowns. Additionally, kids' lives are constantly changing; their bodies change as they grow, their friends change, they get new classmates and teachers every school year.
When everything in their life is influx, having a stable routine they can count on at home can help balance that out and make them feel secure and in control, which means they're less likely to act out in frustration or fear. This isn't to say that routines can't be broken, or not having a routine is harmful to your child in some way. But when things feel unfamiliar or out on control, having that sense of security in their most secure place can help.