These days, it is very common for parents to find out the sex of their baby before it is born, and it is easy to see why. For instance, parents can plan ahead when it comes to things like names and middle names, as well as being able to construct a fantasy in the present which consists of your little baby's face and what they might look like. However, some parents decide not to find out the sex and prefer to keep it a secret in order to avoid gendered toys and colors, such as pink for a girl and blue for a boy. Let's take a look at 10 reasons why you should wait to find out the gender of your baby.
It is fair to say that disappointment is a feeling that will most likely not appear during the act of giving birth, but there might be a pang of some kind of dismay when you realize the gender of your newborn baby was not quite what you expected. For instance, when parents find out the sex early on in their pregnancy, they start picturing the baby's face and begin to finalize names as well as imagining personalities and characteristics. However, what happens when you give birth and it turns out that the baby is not what you thought it was? Sometimes this can be a little disappointing, even if it does last just a few seconds.
One of the worst things about revealing the sex of your baby are the colors that are then associated with it. For instance, if you are having a girl, people immediately start buying pink clothes and pink toys and assume that you are going to paint the baby's room pink too.
The same goes for when you are having a boy; blue becomes the color of your unborn baby's first few months, and you don't get a choice in the matter. By labeling your kids with pink and blue, it can limit their choices in the future as well as creating biases and gender stereotyping. Therefore, if you don't find out the sex, you can remain gender-neutral from the very beginning.
Okay, this might be a bit of stretch (quite literally) but not knowing the gender of your baby can bring that much-needed bit of excitement during an often scary and traumatic time. Yes, everybody knows that giving birth is one of the most painful things a human body can ever experience. Therefore it can be nice to have something to look forward to and take your mind of things. In fact, the last few weeks of pregnancy can sometimes bring in the fear, yet not knowing the sex of your baby can somewhat distract you from thinking about how painful delivery might be or what might happen to you.
One of the best things about not finding out the sex of the baby before it is born is the ability to prevent gender stereotyping. For the last few hundred yeara, children have been given a whole host of toys to play with, yet they differ between boys and girls. For instance, boys usually have fire trucks, Lego, and action figures, whereas girls are usually given dolls, princess clothes, and anything coated in pink.
This kind of gender stereotyping is wrong for many reasons and is actually quite dangerous with regards to your child's sense of self-worth. Yes, gender stereotyping can influence your child's decisions in the future and make them believe that they can't do something on account of their gender. Plus, gender stereotypes can affect cultural aspects such as body image and self-esteem.
For some reason, gender reveal parties are now all the rage and are constantly seen all over social media. However, although they might look like a bit of fun, they are actually a terrible idea for a number of reasons. Firstly, we seriously don't need any more parties for pregnancies, surely? How many parties can one person have to announce the birth of their child?
Secondly, for a split second, some people are visibly quite upset when they find out their baby is not the gender they hoped for. This is not cool when it's caught on camera. Finally, making a huge deal about the gender of your baby is strange and outdated, plus it puts a lot of pressure on your baby's identity before it has even been born!
Not finding out the sex of your baby is great for a number of reasons. However, one great bonus is that you might even be able to make a little money out of it. For instance, why not set up a little pot where people bet if it is a boy or a girl. This idea is actually quite common in a variety of gender reveal parties, where guests put their name into a pot and bet on what gender the baby might be. However, you can always tailor it so it means you win the lot. Think about it? You might not be bothered by what sex it is, but you might as well make a little money from those who are seemingly obsessed with finding out.
So, you have found out the baby's sex, you have told every single person that you are having a girl or a boy, you have chosen a name, imagined its little face, thought about which one of you they will look like the most, created scenarios in your head of what they will be like when they're older, and finally, envisaged different personality traits and characteristics. Then, on the day they are born, you found out that the little person you were expecting is actually a completely different little person altogether. Yes, doctors and nurses have been known to it wrong, and yes, of course, you will still be besotted, but think about all the wasted time thinking about someone who didn't actually exist.
Most of us love surprises. They are a great way to add a little spark to an otherwise boring day, week or month. The best thing about a great surprise is it forces you to experience being in the moment and focusing on the now. Surely, finding out the sex of your baby on the day that it is born counts as one of the best surprises of all time. Plus, it's fun. Yes, pregnancy and giving birth can be a real downer, therefore it is good to add a little bit of excitement to a particularly stressful time. However, there is always the danger that no surprise will ever be as good as seeing your baby for the first time unless you have another one of course.
In this day and age, parents can be extremely judgmental when it comes to raising children and the way that others raise their own children. Yes, some parents love nothing more than to stick their nose into another parent's business as well as offering unwanted advice on how to bring up their kids. In fact, as soon as they find out what gender you are having, they immediately tell you the best way to raise boys and what not to do if you are raising a girl. However, if you don't know the sex, they don't really have much say when it comes to different genders and the things that you should worry about. Try it...it drives people insane.
The world today is rife with stereotypes and labels based on what gender you are. Thankfully, it seems like this is changing, with more and more people leaning towards a gender-neutral route when raising their kids. For instance, gone are the colors of pink and blue and in are the colors of green and yellow. At the end of the day, you don't need to know the gender of your kid, and you don't need to announce to the world what you are having, along with gender-stereotypical colors that can instead do some real damage.