Today marks a very special day for so many parents! August 22 is Rainbow Baby Day, a day where parents celebrate and honor their rainbow babies. The term isn't one all parents know, but the meaning behind rainbow baby day is one everyone can take a moment to honor. A day for celebration and reflection and to give thanks for the beauty after the storm.
What Is A Rainbow Baby?
The term Rainbow Baby is used for a baby that is born after a loss from miscarriage, stillbirth, or neonatal loss (specifically in the first 30 days of life). The term is meant to signify the happiness after the storm, or more commonly the happy life of a healthy, living child, after the trauma and grief of a child gone by miscarriage, stillbirth, or neonatal death.
When Is Rainbow Baby Day?
National Rainbow Baby Day started last year in 2018 by What the Fertility, a site dedicated to navigating the struggles of fertility. They started the movement and encourages parents to celebrate the life after struggle and to show the world our rainbows.
Rainbow Baby Day: How To Celebrate
There are so many ways grief parents and rainbow baby parents cam help celebrate the happiness of getting their rainbow after the storm. The biggest way parents are particiating is through sharing their rainbows. Parents are coming together all over social media using the hashtag #NationalRainbowBaby to brighten our day with their beautiful babies, share the stories of their children who are no longer here, and bring the conversation of loss and healing into the conversation today.
The reality of parenthood is not always straight forward. For so many of us, that means struggling with infertility, miscarriage, stillbirth, and all the stress and grieving that comes with it. For so many of us, the rainbow baby is a fight to get through that grief. To push back the fears that we're holding on to from our past pregnancies. To navigate through anxiety and fear and anger that our baby has been forgotten. Then to be hit with so much love when you're able to look your rainbow baby in the face and realize that there is bright and happy in the world again.
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“Everyone wants happiness, no one wants pain; but you can’t have a rainbow without a little rain.” -Unknown Today is #nationalrainbowbabyday sending lots of love to all the mamas and papas out there who have experienced loss. And, we want to celebrate all the rainbow babies! We also want to send our love to all those waiting for their rainbow babies to come! 🌈You got this mama! ❤️
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Just a sneak peek into my heart. This is my rainbow baby and today for National Rainbow Baby Day I wanted to share a different kind of post. . . I think sometimes when we talk about the hard stuff, it can come off like we don’t appreciate the good—or that we’re ungrateful. I will openly share my struggles. I will tell you about the difficulty of motherhood, but none of that negates the overwhelming love I have for my baby. This little guy came into my life and transformed me. The journey can be difficult, but there are so many amazing moments. . . I live for his hands wrapped around my neck. He’s learned to say “mommy you’re cute” (which melts my heart instantly). I fill up with joy when he reaches up to hold my hand. Lately, when I lay him down for a nap, I stay a bit longer and just study his face and take it all in. When he talks I love how he puckers out his lips when he says “truck” and I just wish I could capture it all. . . See, so much of the time I fight to stay in the moment and try not to wish for the future. We can love so hard and care so much, but also struggle. It’s normal. It’s okay. It doesn’t make us crazy—it makes us human. . . Do you have a rainbow baby? Tell me one of your favorite things about your babe👇🏻 . . Also this photo was taken by the talented @maliabphoto and if you’re local, I highly recommend her ❤️
Rainbow Baby Day Can Be Painful, Too
As mentioned, the path to parenthood can be very complicated for people. This also means that despite wanting to always have our happy ending, or the rainbow after the storm, this doesn't always happen. Today, we honor and hold place for those parents with empty arms still wishing for their turn. We support you and are here holding understanding for you.
If you or someone you love is struggling with grief after miscarriage, stillbirth, or neonatal death, check out UnspokenGrief.com for support.