We always want the best for our children, so when one parent decides not to be fully involved it can cause all manner of issues. Perhaps your child has never met their mother or father, or maybe they just aren't around as much as you had hoped post-separation. Whatever the reason, it can be a difficult thing to explain to the ones who matter the most - the children. It can be a terrifying prospect that leaves you full of dread and worry, but the chances are that kids will one day want to know why their absent parent isn't around. It might seem like a minefield that leaves you tongue-tied, but we've got some tips that can help you navigate these tricky waters.

Reassure your child.

If the situation is new to your child, then it's possible that they may feel abandoned and confused. The younger they are, the more confusing it might be to them. According to Relate, it's important to reassure your child that you aren't going anywhere. When you leave them in the care of others, tell them when you're going to be back and always call ahead if you're going to be late. Keeping to a routine can also go a long way to restoring that sense of normality.

Keep the conversation open.

It can be difficult for you to discuss, but don't shut your child down if they have questions about why a parent left, or why they don't know them. If you're dealing with a situation where the parent has been absent from birth, then it's common for children to ask why they don't have a mommy and a daddy like other children. Saying simple phrases like, "They weren't ready to be a mommy/daddy," lays neutral ground for further discussion as they get older. If you're dealing with a recently absent parent, address any questions they may have and encourage them to discuss how they're feeling. Most importantly, don't speak negatively about the other parent.

Let them know it's not their fault.

Children have a habit of internalizing things that they don't understand, and will often feel like it's something they have done. As parents, it's up to us to let them know that there's nothing wrong with them. Tell them frequently how much you love them, how much joy they bring you and encourage them to talk positively about themselves, too. Boosting their self-esteem will help those bad thoughts go away.

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