Naming your baby is one of the biggest responsibilities you will do as a couple. Names are so personal, and often one partner will love one name that the other will hate, and vice versa. For many couples coming up with the perfect baby name involves a lot of compromise, but in the end both parties end up loving the name.
One new mom to-be however is considering divorce because she and her husband simply can't agree on a name for her unborn baby. That may sound a bit extreme to you, until you hear her out. It seems that this woman's husband is determined to name their baby daughter after his ex! The anonymous Reddit user recently asked for advice after sharing her naming dilemma with readers, pointing out that her husband and this particular ex dated for a long period of time and she was the one he "loved the most."
The anonymous poster revealed this ex had caused troubles in her relationship with her husband, but now that the ex had moved away, she assumed the troubles had too. That was until her husband insisted on naming their baby after this ex! "Now he made it clear that he wants the baby to have that name and I can name the second child," she wrote.
"When I asked him why does he want that name so badly he said just because he and his ex dint work out doesn't mean he doesn't want something to keep reminding him of her. He doesn't understand how much its affecting me and keeps saying its just the hormones. Is he still in love with the ex or its normal that he wants to name OUR child like that."
Thankfully, the commenters came through and let the poster know that this is a real problem. "I'm more concerned about his lack of respect for you as his partner, his number one, his wife. You might try relationship counseling but I suspect his disrespect extends beyond the baby naming issue," wrote one commenter. " I hope you get out of this disrespectful marriage before you start believing this is all you’re worth," wrote another, which echoed the sentiments of many of the comments on the post. "Definitely agree with this, he is not even considering your feelings and just blurting it out like it’s really no big deal, but it really is a huge red flag," wrote another. "We all deserve to be with someone who loves us entirely and doesn’t think that there is the one that got away somewhere else."
What's perhaps even more shocking is the amount of commenters who were named after an ex and who suddenly despised their names after learning that one of their parents' exes inspired the name. This one commenter basically said everything we were thinking when reading this entire thread. "Why is this so common?? I keep reading story after story about dads who named their kids after their exes! CREEPY, DUDES." I think it's safe to say that if you husband insists on naming your unborn child after his ex, you need to take that as a red flag that he's definitely not over her. And no matter what you do, do not let your husband name your child!