August is Breastfeeding Awareness Month, so people around the world are doing their part to share their experiences with breastfeeding in the hopes of helping to normalize the completely normal and natural act of breastfeeding. Celebrities like Gisele Bundchen have even posted sweet throwback pictures of themselves breastfeeding their children to help promote breastfeeding and talk about how special it is.
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One of the most special moments I’ve shared with my kids was while breastfeeding. That special look you get, that feeling of connection is unlike anything I have ever experienced. I love how #breastfeedingawarenessmonth shines a light on the importance of breastfeeding. Yes, in the beginning it can be difficult, it can hurt (the cracks, bleeding, engorgement), but no matter how challenging, I would not change that experience for anything in this world. I feel blessed that I was able to nourish them in this way. Congratulations to all mamas out there for the effort that we put in, the ones who breastfeed, and those who could not and have had heartbreaking moments trying to. I celebrate all of you! 💕 🤱🏼💗 Um dos momentos mais especiais que compartilhei com meus filhos foi durante a amamentação. O olhar especial que você recebe e o sentimento de conexão são diferentes de tudo que já experimentei. Adorei a iniciativa do #mêsdaconscientizaçãosobreaamamentação, pois esclarece a importância da amamentação. Sim, no começo pode ser difícil, pode doer (as rachaduras, o sangramento, o ingurgitamento), mas não importa o quão desafiador, não mudaria essa experiência por nada neste mundo. Me sinto abençoada por poder nutri-los dessa maneira. Parabéns a todas as mães pelo esforço que colocam , não só aquelas que amamentaram, mas também aquelas que não puderam e tiveram momentos dolorosos tentando. Eu celebro todas vocês!
One father named Paul Spadone even went so far as to write his own essay to honor breastfeeding, which his wife submitted to the very popular Facebook page Breastfeeding Mama Talk, writing, "thought y’all might like it!" And while she thought she was submitting a very pro-breastfeeding message from her husband, not everyone saw it the same way.
He began his post innocently enough writing, "In honor of breastfeeding week I feel like it is important to also share a husband’s perspective on breastfeeding despite the fact that I neither have the proper human anatomy nor the desire to ever have another human latched on to my nipples."
He went on to write that he has supported his wife as she breastfed their three children, and through that process, he has learned that "Women have extraordinary bodies and breasts are forever ruined for me."
If stating that "breasts are forever ruined for me" wasn't bad enough, Spadone seemed to double down on the sentiment as he continued to write.
"The mystery and resulting excitement of seeing your woman’s breasts will forever be gone," he writes, much to the shock of many of the commenters on the Facebook page. "After seeing your wife whip them out 8+ times a day to feed your newborn child, you soon become accustomed to just seeing boobs on a daily basis everywhere you go. Anywhere from next to you on the couch, eating at a restaurant, flying on a plane or riding in the car you will soon become numb to the fact that your wife’s boobs are always out and about," he writes.
He then goes on to write that he has tried breast milk and states that it doesn't taste good and that men and women will both learn to loathe the breast pump. " If it is not for the loud irritating sound of the pump itself or the fact that you have to listen to this constant sucking/slurping (and the occasional farting sound) of your wife’s boobs being milked, then it is the actual visual experience of watching your wife’s nipples being pulled and stretched repeatedly," he writes.
"I will have to leave the rest to your imagination because words themselves cannot accurately illustrate the full experience but you have been warned."
His post honoring breastfeeding isn't quite done, however, and next, he advises other dads that their days of even touching their partner's breasts are over. "It is my advice that you just keep your hands to yourself and consider your wife’s breasts no longer for your pleasure."
After suggesting that dads help out mom by washing bottles and avoiding making their partner mad lest she decides to spray breast milk in retaliation, he then went on to prepare new fathers for what happens to breasts after a woman breastfeeds.
"Sagging will occur!" he writes. "Do your best to burn the image of your woman’s breasts in your mind pre-pregnancy because those hooters will no longer be the same."
He does tell new fathers how important it is to be supportive and encouraging throughout the breastfeeding process, but many of the commenters couldn't help but be offended by the rest of his post.
"So incredibly unimpressed with this arrogant, selfish interpretation. He's lucky his wife lets him touch her anywhere with this attitude," wrote one commenter. "Why on EARTH was this shared here?!"
"I don’t think this is very cute. It’s pretty rude and I hope no one says these things to their wife," wrote another.
"I don’t know what’s worse - this ultra trashy post, or the beaten down wives/moms defending this," was another comment. "I hated this post! It focuses solely on the appearance of her breasts and how they are “ruined”," read another.
There were definitely a lot of posts in support of the post, with many agreeing it was a lighthearted look at how pregnancy and breastfeeding can change a woman's body, but many were put off by the focus on breasts and the generally negative tone of a post that was meant to be fun and positive.
Spadone concludes his post writing, "In summary, your woman is now a cash cow (think about the money you are saving!) and the bottom line is that those boobies, breasts, knockers, hooters, whatever you want to call them, are now the life source to your new child. Protect them, cherish them and honor them because even though they are no longer yours, your new baby depends on them."