Becoming a parent is one of the most exciting, and life-changing things that a person can experience. Besides the commonplace and everyday anxieties surrounding just how many diapers one will go through in a week, how to adjust one's budget to accommodate the new child, and the stress over the pregnancy itself, one big concern that every new parents has is over whether or not they are going to be good parents.
Luckily, worrying over whether one will be a good enough parent for their offspring is usually a sign that one will be. It can be hard to predict what kind of parent one will be until they are faced with their own child but some things can help predict what style of parenting a person will gravitate towards. By analyzing one's MBTI, one can get a loose idea which parenting style will appeal most to each person. Which may help ease some burgeoning anxieties for new and soon to be parents.
ISTJ types are known for their serious nature and goal orientated nature. The people who belong to this personality type are often fond of traditions and believe that security and established ways of doing things are far more important than addressing emotional needs or finding new solutions to problems. As parents, ISTJ types will be fond of stricter styles of discipline and will favour traditional family roles and rules. These types of parents will seek to create a family dynamic in which the adults are at the head of the household and the children do as they are told.
ENTJs are incredibly assertive and rule orientated people. The people who fall under this personality group are natural born leaders and are known to have little patience for disorganization or chaos. As parents, the ENTJs are likely to see the parent as the captain of the ship and will expect the children to follow suit as they believe that their way is best.
They will see little need to explain to the children why certain rules have been made and why things need to be done in a certain way for they feel as though the leader should not be questioned as they will view their way as the most competent and intelligent way.
The ESFJ type is one defined by its warm-hearted nature and need to put the needs of their family members ahead of their own. These types are likely to see their children, not as followers or someone under their rule, but as equals. As parents, the people under this personality type are likely to believe that the opinions of the children in the family should have equal weight to that of the adults and will ask for their input on decisions that affect the entire family (e.g. moving, planning the annual trip, dinner ideas, what school they want to attend, etc.) and will regard those opinions with the weight that they feel they deserve.
There is nothing wrong with rules and the ESTJ parents show that. These types believe in traditions, organization, and have a clear sense of how things should be. These parents see the adult members of the family as the inherent leaders and the children as the followers who are expected to respect the rules given by those in charge.
Though discipline is not a primary focus for these types, they do believe in proper decorum and the traditional ideas of rewarding good behaviour and punishing bad behaviour in order to teach their children how to behave in our rule orientated society.
The ISFJ typing group is a group who believes that a nurturing and stable environment is one in which all people can thrive. They are incredibly perceptive of the emotions of those around them and seek to create a sense of safety and security around them. As parents, ISFJs will create homes that feel life safe places from an often uncaring outside world. These homes will be oases for all those who enter as they will want everyone who visists their home to know that they are in a place in which they can be and express themselves safely and freely.
ISTPs are defined by their love for figuring out how things work and why they work in the ways that they do. These parents are not overtly concerned with rules but rather the reason why a rule would be made as well as the reasons why a child would feel the need to break said rule. When conflict arises, these parents would be inclined to sit their children down and begin a mutual discussion about the issue in order to see why the child behaved in the manner that they did and how they can avoid a similar issue in the future.
These parents will create flexible rules that will be broken down in simple concepts so that their children will understand their reason for existing and needing to be followed.
INFJ types are sensitive, good at reading other peoples needs, and operate on their own unshakable belief and value system. As parents, these types of people will be most likely to see their children as individuals and will be hesitant to push any of their own ideas, beliefs, or dreams onto their children. Children of parents under this typing will be encouraged to discover their own beliefs and figure out who they are, as individuals, rather than being encouraged to follow a set path or traditional way of life. These parents will encourage their children to express their own needs, opinions, and desires freely while also encouraging the development of their unique personalities and interests.
INFP types are dizzy daydreamers with their heads buzzing with creative and imagined concepts constantly. They float through life on their ethereal cloud and see the world as a magical, wonderful, and full of promise; just like a child. These parents will be childish (not in an immature/irresponsible sense but rather in an engaging and playful way,) imaginative, and engaged with their children's fantasies. These parents will be best suited for playing make-believe and will be incredibly supportive of their children's wildest ideas. These parents are essentially big kids at heart.