The notion that only children are spoiled is a manner of thinking that dates back to the 19th century. A Study of Peculiar and Exceptional Children which was published at that time found that children without siblings are "excessively spoiled." Later research has shown that that is just not the case.
Sure, only children can be particular. And of course they have their own way of doing things. But many of the stereotypes surrounding only children need to be thrown out and ignored. No parent is doomed for having only one child. And no child is doomed for not having any siblings. In actuality, only children have a pretty long list of great qualities that are rarer in children with siblings. Want to know more? Read on.
10 More Resourceful Instead Of Dependent
Only children grow up to be more resourceful multiple studies have found. Many stereotypes say that only children are dependent because they are always with their parents, but the fact that they don't have any other siblings their age to depend on makes them more creative and explorative than other children who can amuse themselves easily with siblings who are already at home.
This translates into other resources as only children grow older when only children have issues they face they often work to resolve them on their own instead of depending on others to help them, like with children who have siblings.
9 Better Parent Bond
Only children were reported as having stronger bonds with their parents than children who had siblings. This is perhaps, in part due to the fact that they spend more time with their parents instead of with siblings who are in the same age groups.
A study conducted by Scientific A. found that 25 percent of only children considered their relationship with their parents positive compared to 24 percent of firstborns, 20 percent of middle children and 18 percent of youngest children also reported very good relationships with their parents.
8 Self Awareness Instead Of Self-Centered
Children who grow up alone have to be more self-aware than children who have siblings who they can self-identify with. The fact that only children respect their space and take more time to get to know who they are as people makes them different than children who have siblings who they idolize or try to imitate. There is nothing to compare oneself to when a child is the only one growing up in the home. This makes children more self aware and more self confident in who they are, not self centered, compared to what the common ideology reflects.
7 Friends Instead Of Siblings
Sure, siblings are amazing to grow up with, and can not be replaced by any means, but the belief that only children are sort of social lepers if they do not have anyone to grow up with, but the truth is, as an only child, they are forced to look outside of the home and learn social skills that other children may not need to learn in order to make friends or socialize easily.
Only children have to go the extra mile to make relationships, which is actually a benefit to them as they grow older.
6 Focused Instead Of Spoiled
The famous blogger, Scary Mommy, discusses in length about how she and her child grew up as only children. She explains that spoiled isn't such a bad thing actually. In fact "spoiled" as the notion has become known is actually just an example of how much parents are willing to work to give their kids the best. Her words. In any case, only children are more focused on taking care of their things and focused on identifying what it is they need and own, compared to siblings that have to share everything.
5 Unique Instead Of Weird
"Only children are weird." We're sure that you've heard such things. In reality, they are more particular than they are weird. Only children have a unique way of seeing things because they are unique in their families. They want to handle things in their own right.
They also want to explore their personalities and independence in ways that children with siblings may not. Being an only child is a joyful experience, that some may eventually wish they had someone to share life with, but it doesn't mean that their ability to stand out in a crowd is a bad thing.
4 Careful Instead Of Unwilling To Share
Children who are raised alongside their parents as their only correspondents tend to be more careful than children who have brothers and sisters. This can make them unwilling to share in the eyes of others. This notion transcends just material objects, in fact, only children can be careful in the information they divulge to others and can be very careful in who they trust. This is because of their lack of constant exposure to others outside of their families, but even children with brothers and sisters can be said to be guilty of this.
3 Independent Instead Of Isolated
How many times have you heard that only children do not work well with others? It's more of independence than it is isolation. Only children are self-reliant and work to create and pave their own paths, this does not make them isolated, instead, it makes them independent.
While it's true that only children often plan and execute things alone because it's all they have ever known isolation is usually what happens when children do not get a lot of social exposure. Science A, says. Parents of only children can work to prevent this form of isolation by planning play dates and constructing activities to surround their children amongst others.
2 Driven Instead Of Always Wanting To Get Their Way
Have you heard that only children are demanding and always want their way? Scary mommy says this just makes she and her only child more driven. When you want something you work harder for it, because, well, why not? In her opinion, the logic behind the only child syndrome is "nonsense." Being an only child is not a bad thing and can open doors to more creative ways to do things as one gets older. It can also push children to grow into more productive adults who work hard to make things the way they see them.
1 Comfortable Being Alone Instead Of Needy
Only children are very comfortable being alone, especially as they get older. Many say that only children are needy because they do not have anyone else to turn to. But the reality is, they care comfortable being by themselves, according to Refinery 29 and child therapist Dr. Newman. "As an adult, I'm 100% comfortable with being alone and not seeing another person all day," she says. "I was used to being alone as a kid, and being alone as an adult doesn't bother me."