With the year coming to an end, everyone is looking forward to 2021 and starting new and fresh. While a lot of the challenges we are facing now won’t be completely gone, we have hope that the next year will be better. Many people are starting to think of new year's resolutions, and they have had a hard year go by to reflect on what they need to improve in their lives. However, as adults get ready to make some changes, it can make us questions if children should also be making resolutions.
According to True Sport, children are capable of making resolutions, but it is age specific. Younger children may not be capable of “changing” themselves in the way an adult does when they make a resolution. However, they may be able to set goals. It is advised that parents wait until their child is about 7 before introducing a realistic resolution.
Children who are 7 years old have not formed firm habits, and they are also old enough to understand what a resolution is and how they can make one for themselves. However, it is still advised that parents guide them in their decision. When it comes to younger children, it may be best to advise them to set goals instead of solutions. According to PBS, children who are younger can have “resolutions” like making sure they brush their teeth every day, or they are going to make sure they clean up the playroom. These are more realistic and attainable resolutions for a younger child.
Dr. Benjamin Siegel is a professor of pediatrics at Boston University School of Medicine told PBS that this should be done as a family activity. That the parents should go first and give their resolutions as a model for their children. It should be highlighted as something that everyone wants to do to feel better about themselves. It is also wise to make a resolution for the whole family to take part in. Things like going for more walks and hikes, playing board games one night each week or just talking more are all wonderful examples of family resolutions.
It is also wise to guide your child to a goal that fits their needs. If you have a child who is known to have a messy room, this would be a good idea to encourage them to set a goal where they spend 10 minutes a day tidying up their space. Parents need to be involved in the goals, because the only way they are going to be motivated is if they get praise from their parents. Adults like to achieve their goals, when they have that sense of accomplishment and pride.
Children are also capable of feeling this, and they learn this from getting praise from their parents. If you notice your child actively trying to achieve their goal, even if they don’t quite get there, make sure you notice it and let them know how well they are doing. Adults know all too well how some resolutions don’t work out, but the fact that they try is a teaching moment, and the process of making goals and sticking to them is the importance of new year's resolutions for children.
Sources: True Sport, PBS