We can’t always keep our kids close to us. In a matter of time, they’ll eventually have to join another family apart from their own—a school, that is.
School may be the second place your kids will spend time the most. If you do the math, a person could spend about 16,000 hours in a lifetime at school. It’s also a place where they will continue to learn in every aspect, mostly without parents’ supervision.
When the time comes for your little one to go get an education, it’s best to be fully aware of how they thrive in their second home. And for this matter, no one could help you out more than your kid’s teacher. To make sure you’re fully conscious of your kid’s development, here are some questions you might want to ask your child’s teacher.
10 How Is My Child Progressing?
Knowing how your child keeps up at school could be helpful in parenting them at home. This helps you determine if they need a little more guidance or if they’re progressing on the right track for their age.
Keep in mind, though, that you should not be comparing your kid to others since they are all different in one way or another. All kids develop in various aspects at their own pace. Some may be ahead in logical or mathematical reasoning, others in linguistics, while a few can be ahead in practical life.
9 What Areas Does My Child Need To Improve On?
Our children won’t be in our sight for the most part of the day. It helps to know what aspects we should focus on, so we can address any potential difficulties that hinder their development. Ask all aspects there is to know—academically, socially, or behaviorally—and assess what you feel is most needed for immediate improvement.
With this, you can also figure out if you’re missing something as a parent. No parent is perfect and omniscient. Sometimes, all we need is another set of eyes to gauge what we may not be doing enough.
8 How Is My Child Doing Emotionally?
As parents, we only wanted our children to be emotionally healthy. While we have all the time to make that happen at home, we still wanted to ensure that our kids are as emotionally sound when they're in the classroom setting.
The question should also not just focus if your child is happy. Ask how your kid handles joy, fear, anger, excitement, and sadness. Keep in mind that even though some of these emotions are negative, they can still be considered healthy. After all, this mix of emotions, good or bad, are what make us human. What’s important is that our children know how to effectively express their feelings and act according to it.
7 Do You Notice Any Red Flags I Should Be Aware Of?
Who your kids are at home will not necessarily reflect who they are at school. Humans are naturally inclined to change their behavior based on who they interact with, and this is completely normal as they grow older.
Even though you do not notice anything unusual with your kid at home, it’s best to ask the teacher if they notice any to assess if your child is having any problem. This concerns either their health, studying habits, socialization, or behavioral patterns.
As parents, we should always be far-sighted and ready for any of these. Expect there are a few to come as they grow, but know that it can be settled as long as you identify the root cause of the problem and nip it in the bud.
6 How Well Is My Child’s Moral Development Doing?
Apart from academics, it’s important for children to develop a moral compass that will eventually help them navigate adulthood. It’s not enough for kids to be bright and clever. What the world needs is a generation of morally upright children who knows how to do good things, not only for their own benefit but for others as well.
Kindness is a value that can take them a long way. Ask your children’s teacher how they interact with everyone around them. Is your child kind to people regardless of appearance, race, ability, and socio-economical standing? Is your child gentle and compassionate to everyone, including those they disagree with?
5 What Values Do You See As My Child’s Strength And Weakness?
Knowing your child’s strength and weakness at school will help you know how to guide your child even better. Like all humans, we can’t force our children to be perfect kids with straight As and chest-full of recognition. We can’t also push them in becoming whoever we wanted them to be.
But what we can do is assist them in being who they want, in the best possible way they can. Gauging your kid’s strengths and weaknesses will help you in molding them—into who they’re meant to be. As you learn what their interests and dislikes are, you can guide them efficiently. This makes parenting a little less hard.
4 How Can I Be Of Help To You?
They may not say this outright but teachers need occasional help. They are extremely busy taking care of dozens of kids at a time, their schedules are mostly tight, and the help they get from their peers are little to none. They are given such a huge responsibility in raising a bunch of kids as functional individuals of society.
Most of the time, they are overworked and are left only with a little time for themselves and their families. Though this shouldn’t be our problem in the first place, for teachers, just the thought of offering assistance would mean a lot. This lets them know that they’ve always got support behind their back.
3 How Do You Approach A Child Who Struggles?
It’s important to know the strategies your child’s teacher use in helping students cope with struggles. Every one of us has their own ways to learn; the same way goes in terms of guiding.
Being in sync with how you and the teacher do guidance can be easier for children. This eliminates confusion in the kids’ minds that still don’t comprehend well. If you don’t agree with the teacher’s approach, try to explain why and find ways to work together. The guidance doesn’t necessarily need to be the same. It can be complementary.
2 Can You Suggest Ways To Continue Learning At Home?
Learning doesn’t end in the four corners of a classroom. Although a school is where a child formally acquires knowledge, we must not forget that our homes should still be the very foundation of learning. A child should learn not only from teachers but from us, parents, more importantly.
Ask your child’s teacher what activities should be prepared to keep your little one’s interests going. You can also ask what areas of knowledge are keeping your child alive. Do they love writing, drawing, sports, or taking care of pets? Don’t be just caught up with the “how was school?” cycle.
1 What Should I Expect From My Child At The End Of The Year?
Although teachers cannot fully predict how a child turns out after a year, it’s great to have a set of expectations to gauge how much your child has developed from the beginning of the school year.
This can include what concepts they should learn, or some values that they should gain in the course of a year. Asking this could also give us a little reality check of what we can expect from our kids, because sometimes, we may be expecting a little too much from them. In other words, it reasonably guides us with our expectations based on our child’s capability and willingness to learn.