One of the hardest parts of early parenthood is coming up with a baby name. Now that we live in a world full of kids with names that more original, parents are constantly on the search for the unicorns of names. But the only problem is, people are rarely as original as they think they're being. One mom is learning that the hard way; she turned to her fellow moms on the website Mumnet, asking if she was being unreasonable for wanting to change her daughter's name. She fears that her daughter's name isn't as original as she initially thought it was going to be and wanted to change it. The problem? Her daughter is already four years old.
As she explains it, when she named her daughter Esmee four years ago, she thought that her daughter would be the only one once she got to school. Sadly for her, that was not the case. There was another Esmee in the girl's nursery school, albeit with a different spelling. But now that her daughter is about to go to regular school, mom has learned that there will be two other girls named Esmee in the class. She is worried that her daughter will be upset by the fact that there are two other girls in her class with her name.
Digging deeper, the mom explains that when she was in school in the 1970s, there were four other girls in her class with her name. She claims that this completely upset her and as as result, she changed her name as soon as she could. She doesn't go into any further details about why it bothered her so much, but if you read between the lines, it seems like she ties originality to a name.
"Am I being unreasonable to change my DD's name before September?" she asks
In short, the general consensus is overwhelmingly yes. This would be a very different situation if the girl was much younger, but at the age of four, she's very aware of what her name is. Changing it simply because of the other girls in the class sounds a little silly to those outside of the story. People had no problems voicing their concerns.
"I don't think it's up to you, surely it's up to your daughter, it's her name now, not yours! She might not care that she shares her name in the same way that you did."
"She is 4 its her name, who cares that other kids have it as well. What will you do when she loses touch with these other kids? Change it back?"
Hopefully the mother comes up with an alternative name or nickname for her daughter. There is no way of knowing that there won't be another with the new name either. Unique names are only so unique, unless you make them up. That's what nicknames are for.