Manipulative Toddlers: 15 Signs They May Be Brilliant, and 5 Signs That Might Require An Expert's Guidance

From the moment their child is born, every parent likes to think that their child is special. Moreover, they like to think that they are extraordinary; that they have a little Einstein on their hands. Before everyone runs out to get a Harvard 2035 application, there are actually some early signs that may help identify if a toddler will have a much higher intelligence. Gone are the days of traditional screening methods to identify whether or not a child is gifted. Want to know if a toddler has the potential to be a future physicist, engineer, or the next great innovator? Check out these early indicators to see if they will be highly intelligent and gifted and see if these signs ring some bells. However, while there are several indicators used to determine whether or not a child is gifted, there may be times when a child’s behavior raises more alarms and red flags then bouts of praise in which it may be important to seek a professional’s opinion. Remember, it’s always better to be safe than sorry. So without much further ado, here are 15 signs a toddler is a brilliant child, and 5 signs that might require an expert's guidance.

20 Excellent Memory.

This first sign might seem like a no-brainer at first, but it’s actually quite important. Do you know how some people have a memory like an elephant? Well, if your toddler can give an elephant a run for their money, then they just might be a brilliant child. Being able to remember past events, recognizing faces and locations, or even where a toy was hidden, these are all very good indicators of a great memory and a gifted child.

19 The Look

No, your child is not is throwing shade or giving you a dirty a look. It’s actually something much better than that. It turns out that if your little one gives you a look like that, it might actually mean that they are flexing their focusing skills. You’re probably wondering how you can tell if your kid is just staring or actually concentrating. Well, toddlers absorb a lot from their environment and they will often know a lot more then they appear to be letting on.

18 Making Informational Links

Adults make informational links all of the time. For example, if you see someone get on a bike, you have to assume that they are going to go somewhere. While you may never give something like that a second thought, because it seems so obvious and predictable, this can actually be a very big deal for toddlers. For toddlers, being able to make these sorts of informational links or being able to predict actions is often associated with high intelligence.

17 Hanging with The Older Crowd


I did not see this next one coming, but apparently, this next one is a great indicator. If your toddler tends to excel in environments with older kids, or even grown-ups for that matter, then your toddler may be quite gifted. I guess this makes a lot of sense the more you think about it. Kids who are the same age might not be intellectually stimulating enough. Moreover, these gifted children not only feel more comfortable around those who are older, but they are also learning from them.

16 They’re Conversationalists

It’s important for this next sign that you determine whether your toddler is really talking or whether they are just babbling because there is a very big difference. Especially when it comes to determining whether or not they are gifted. Language skills play a very important role in determining high intelligence in kids. Furthermore, an abundant use of language is quite typical for extremely gifted kids. So there just may be something to all of that jabber coming from your kids’ mouth.

15 Can’t Sleep Well

Wait a minute… Are you telling me that if your toddler doesn’t sleep well that it means that they could be gifted? I guess that means I’m extremely gifted. If only I was a toddler… but I digress. I understand how hard it must be to have a newborn or toddler who can’t sleep, but it seems that there may be a positive for this negative. It turns out that gifted children are poor sleepers because their brain is too stimulated to sleep.

14 The Life of The Party

This next one actually came as quite a surprise to me. I would tend to think that being more introverted would be seen as a sign of high intelligence. Think about all of the important figures that have been introverts. Albert Einstein, J.K. Rowling, Warren Buffett, Nikola Tesla. Those are just some of the famous introverts. However, if your toddler is lively at a young age, that may very well indicate high intelligence. A developed sense of humor and advanced social skills at a young age are signs that your kid may be gifted.

13 They Have A Lot of Empathy


Is your toddler very sensitive? Does your toddler cry about crushed bugs or do they try to comfort crying babies? If so, that could be a great sign of them being gifted! It just so happens that having empathy, and not to mention a big heart, can be linked to a big brain. Highly intelligent children are much more emotionally intense than other kids. Moreover, they have a greater sensitivity to others’ feelings and show a tremendous amount of empathy.

12 They Shake, Rattle, and Roll

Yes, I completely understand that little kids have tons of energy that is just wanted to be burned off, but in this case, being a mover and a wiggler is a different story. If your toddler has been a mover and shaker since they were born, they may very well be gifted. Why you ask? Because mental and physical stimulation is a sign of intelligence. So if you happen to notice that your toddler is constantly changing positions and if they get bored easily, they might be quite gifted.

11 They’re All About Hobbies

Do you ever notice that your little one is also particularly focused on a specific subject? Do you ever notice that they love learning about certain topics? Well, it just so happens to be that your toddler may be very gifted. Talents, such as artistic ability, or being great with numbers are a dead giveaway for high intelligence. This means that there just may be more to your kid’s hobbies that you previously thought. I think it’s time to break out the easel and calculator.

10 They’re Bookworms

Do you know that old stereotype about how it’s always the bookworm/nerds that are always the smart one? Well, I hate to break it you, but it turns out that that old stereotype may not be so far off. In case you haven’t guessed it by now, kids that show an interest in reading before they are in school, and those who read for fun, are observed to be very gifted. Looks like it’s time to dust off that old library card.

9 They’re Musically Inclined

There have been several studies done that show a correlation between being musical and being intelligent. *Cough* Mozart *Cough*. In fact, researchers believe that children benefit a lot in school when they receive a music education. So while having a musical ability is a great indicator for intelligence, it’s still important to expose kids to musical training regardless of talent. Many researchers believe that musical training has a profound impact on the brain and opens up the ability for creative thinking.

8 Reaching Milestones First

Is your toddler ahead of their time? Moreover, are they ahead of all of their peers when it comes to reaching certain milestones? For example, are they/were they able to sit up on their own before most other babies? Were they grasping things right after the half year mark? If you answered yes, then you may just have a little genius on your hands. Reaching these types of milestones earlier than their peers is a great indicator of high intelligence.

7 They Have A Strong Will

Gifted toddlers can often get upset when someone stops them from doing something that they’re trying to do. Moreover, they may even have temper tantrums because they might feel humiliated or even misunderstood when they are stopped from doing what they feel they should be doing. In fact, you may even notice that your toddler is so determined and so far beyond what experts say they should be doing at their age. So the next time your toddler throws a tantrum after you stop them from doing something, you might want to think twice about it.

6 They’re Problem Solvers

Have you ever noticed that your child is excellent at solving problems? And no, I’m not talking about math problems. I’m talking about real world challenges. Do you ever tell their child they’re not allowed to have something or do something but somehow, they are able to find a workaround to it? Do they ever stack books in order to stand on them so that they can reach something they want on a higher shelf? If so, you may be dealing with a very gifted toddler.

5 Expert Guidance Needed: Problems Paying Attention

I know what you’re thinking. Isn’t it usually the kids who don’t pay attention in class that are the ones who are smart? It’s sometimes believed that when kids are very gifted, they don’t usually pay attention in class because they are too bored with the work. While it totally understandable that it might seem that way, this is not always the case. Problems paying attention might be something to keep an eye on. It might even be something that might require an expert's guidance.

4 Expert Guidance Needed: Inappropriate Responses

This next one might come as a little surprise to you. You would think that a child with an inappropriate response in school or in a social situation might be funny, but it might be a red flag. It’s important to understand the distinction between being inappropriate and having a sense of humor. While being lively and having a sense of humor can be a great thing, being inappropriate in school and socially can be a sign that it might be time to seek an expert’s guidance.

3 Expert Guidance Needed: Problems Remembering Things.

Just like before, when it was said that having a great memory was a sign that your toddler was gifted, it turns out that having a hard time remembering things may be a sign of caution to look out for. Sure, it’s perfectly normal to forget something here and there, but if this seems to be a common occurrence, then this might be something that you definitely want to get checked out. Remember, it’s better to be safe than sorry.

2 Expert Guidance Needed: Impetuous Behavior

While it may seem like children are making quick decisive decisions, this may not be as good as it appears to be. I’m talking more about acting or doing things quickly without much thought or care behind it. Impulsive behavior is related to your toddler’s inability to put on the mental breaks before they act. Moreover, kids with this impulsivity issue don’t stop to think before they act, and this could be a sign that it’s time to seek an expert’s guidance.

1 Expert Guidance Needed: Problems Communicating

If your child continuously has a hard time putting words together, distinguishing between different sounds, articulating words or simply does not want to speak, there may be an underlying issue. It’s important to observe your child as early as 2-years-old to see if they can say the names of colors or put words together. If your 3-year-old can only use single words, you might want to seek an expert’s guidance. There is nothing to be embarrassed about. It’s always better to get it checked out than to miss a problem.

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