It's hard enough to run errands with kids in tow in general, but once you have to wait in a long line with them basically anything goes to keep everyone sane and in one piece. Still, try as you might, those kids will at one time or another scream at the top of their lungs throughout the entire wait and you'll have to just let people stare at you because what else can you do?
Dealing with the stares during public meltdowns is one thing, but having someone walk up to you and comment on your parenting skills is quite another. That's exactly what happened to one mama at Costco. After the shaming she was so upset she penned an open, anonymous, letter to the person who thought it wise to confront her at the store, and that letter was later shared on the Breastfeeding Mama Talk Facebook page.
The mom started her letter by explaining what the man said, "to the man at Costco today who glanced over at me on my phone while my babies were fussing and felt the need to say, 'You see these babies? They fuss like that because they want your attention. Maybe you should get off of your phone and give them your attention'". Outraged on her behalf? Us, too.
She went on to sarcastically "thank" him for bringing this to her attention because she was just too consumed with her phone to notice the baby giving the "pre-cry warnings" and her toddler asking for pizza over and over. Then, as if she needed to further explain herself, she listed all the things she had tried to keep their attention during the 15 minutes they had been standing in that line which included "books, snacks, patty-cake, and even took to creepily pointing out items in buggies as customers left the store to entertain them". She also mentioned that as far as she was concerned, the fussing this man was so concerned about was "barely even a 1" on "the meltdown scale".
Then, she opened her letter to everyone in the Facebook world to remind them that if they see a mom out with her kids basically anywhere just "assume she's stressed out". She listed all the feelings moms feel on a daily basis like being exhausted, trying her hardest, managing her own hunger, and just flat out wanting to be anywhere but in that situation, and implored everyone to follow the golden rule: if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all.
She closed the letter to declare that her kids are loved, happy, healthy, and will be just fine if she checks her phone for two minutes while they wait in line.
This mama can't see it, but she's getting a standing ovation from tired moms everywhere (including us)!