We don't need to have kids to understand how stressful being a parent is. Just watching or own parents running around trying to keep all their ducks in a row was proof enough! However, somewhere down the road, we began judging the very same parents we looked up to for so long. We're no longer looking at a parent with fresh eyes who's doing everything in their power to get their kid to school on time. We're now looking at them and wondering why they do the things they do.
The real kicker is that none of us are qualified to give a mom or dad advice on how to raise their kids. From food to pregnancy to after-school activities — there are a lot of haters out there who have too much time on their hands.
Knowing how busy and time-consuming being a parent is, it's time to stop judging parents on these 10 things. If it doesn't concern us, why get involved, right?
10 HAVING A JOB
It's crazy that in 2019 some women have to defend themselves for working while they have a family. Life is expensive—especially with kids!—and if mom wants to (or has to) work, then that's her prerogative.
As long as she's not leaving her kids alone all day with no rules or babysitter, there's no harm in a mom working. Being a working mom is empowering and sets an amazing tone for her kids. Women can have it all, even if they feel like they can't.
9 ...AND NOT HAVING A JOB
Surprise! People are as upset with mothers who don't work as they are with mothers who do work! Is nobody pleased? Some moms are in an amazing position where they don't need to work right away. Whether they have an extended maternity leave or they simply choose to raise their child instead of working, they get so much one-on-one time with their little ones.
Mothers who aren't working truly detest when people ask them if they want to go back to work or if they miss working. And the truth of the matter is, it's up to the stay-at-home mom to figure it out — no one else's!
8 BREASTFEEDING VS. FORMULA
Choosing to breastfeed or formula feed is probably the biggest topic up for debate when a woman has her baby. It's also one of the first overbearing questions she hears from other people. As always, the decision on how a mother chooses to feed her child is her own.
That's amazing that Anne from Starbucks breastfed all three of her children and that Sarah from yoga believes "breast is best," but if you feel comfortable feeding your child formula, then do it! Likewise, if someone is uncomfortable with you breastfeeding, then tell them not to look!
7 WHAT THEY PACK THEIR CHILD FOR LUNCH
Kids always seem to want what other kids have. So if one mom packs her son a healthy sandwich with veggies as a snack, he's probably going to secretly want to have Sam's chicken fingers and potato chips. That's how kids are.
The last thing a parent should do is confront another parent for how they're feeding their kids. Just because they see a kid eating a hamburger for lunch doesn't mean they eat junk food all the time. And guess what? Even if they did snack on junk food, they're not your child, so why are you judging?
6 THE ACTIVITIES THEIR CHILD CHOOSES TO DO (OR NOT DO)
We have many parents out there who judge other parents for not getting their child involved with sports or other activities. Getting your child into activities while they're young keeps them focused, helps them meet new friends, and allows them to become team-oriented.
Kids who choose not to do sports can just as easily obtain similar attributes through other things; it's just up to the family to find out what would stick with their child. Judging any child for playing too many sports or not playing enough games is just unbalanced.
5 AND FOR NOT ATTENDING EVERY ACTIVITY THEY PARTAKE IN
Have you seen that one Modern Family episode where Claire and Phil decide to skip their son's soccer game because he never plays? Well, in the episode, Claire decides to go to the game for a little bit and she ran into other parents who made comments about her being late.
While the scene was done with humor, similar moments have happened in real life about parents who don't show up to their child's practices or games enough. News flash: life is busy! With multiple kids, jobs, and errands to run, mom or dad doesn't always need to sit and watch the game. And if they have the time to do so — that's their time!
4 GOING ON CHILDLESS VACATIONS
There is absolutely nothing wrong with taking a vacation without bringing the kids along. Bringing the whole family on a vacation typically means more money, more packing, more planning, and no time for parents.
Family vacations are great and needed, of course, but parents shouldn't be judged for hitting the road without their kids. Every parents needs a little getaway from time to time and shouldn't feel bad for doing so.
3 TAKING CARE OF THEMSELVES BEFORE THE KIDS
When flying on a plane to another destination, the airline will prepare passengers for what to expect in case of an emergency. They blatantly state that parents should take care of their oxygen masks first before assisting their child's. Why is this?
Because it's impossible to help someone else if you haven't helped yourself. How can a mom or dad help their child breathe if they themselves can't breathe? Everyone has those small things they do every day that helps them feel like themselves; they shouldn't be ridiculed for continuing to do that with kids.
2 HAVING A MESSY HOME
Celebrities who showoff their homes on TV or social media are bombarded all the time in regards to the shape of their home. Kim Kardashian is judged for keeping her home too clean while the Duggars are judged for keeping their homes too messy.
The kicker is if you're not physically living in that home then why do you care if it's clean or messy? If the kids are healthy, happy, and taken care of, the cleanliness of their living room should have no importance on anyone's life but the family living there.
1 FOR THEIR POST-BABY BODY
Similar to breastfeeding or formula feeding, so many people want to know when mom is going to "get back into shape." Um, she just had a baby, can you give her a minute? A woman's body just produced the most precious thing it'll ever be able to do; the last thing on her mind is when she'll be able to run a 5K again.
Similarly, if fitness is a woman's first love and she can't wait to get back into shape again, then that's fantastic! As long as she's being safe and is given the go-ahead by her doctor, she shouldn't be looked down upon for trying to get her pre-mom body back.