Moving to a new city can be full of challenges, especially if you're a mom. Moms typically spend most of their time trying to make sure the move is as painless as possible for their kids; they often forget about themselves. Mothers tend to focus on ensuring their children get settled into their new school and sign them up for extracurricular activities that will help them meet new friends without realizing they too could use a few new friends as well.
Moving can be hard on the entire family, moms included, which is why meeting a few new people and forging a few friendships can really make the transition so much better for everyone. It always seems to be easier for kids to make new friends thanks to school and outside activities, but it is possible and necessary for moms to make new friends too if they're willing to put themselves out there and maybe even step outside their comfort zone.
Here are a few ways for moms to meet new friends in a new city that will help make a move a lot less painful.
Moms are amazing, which means they can often do everything themselves without much help, but that doesn't mean they should. When moving somewhere new, accepting help when it's offered not only takes the pressure of mom's shoulders to do it all, but it also allows them the opportunity to forge a new friendship. When a neighbor stops by to see how you're settling in, or a fellow mom at the school pick up strikes up small talk, these are opportunities to meet new people and possibly new friends.
Many moms are overwhelmed when moving to a new city, so it's often easy to spend most of your time in the house organizing, or sit in the car during school pick up. It's hard putting yourself out there to make new friends, but being outside more to meet with the neighbors and getting out of the car during school pick up or drop off will give you the opportunity to connect with others in your neighborhood and school community. Even if you don't end up going for coffee, it's nice to have a friendly face to chat with.
Join A Club
One way moms get their kids to meet new friends after a move is to enroll them in an extracurricular activity or club, but they don't realize they can also meet new friends that way too. Whether it's joining a gym, taking a yoga class, enrolling in cooking lessons or going to a local paint night, finding something you enjoy doing is a great way to meet people with common interests.
Not only will you possibly meet new people who will become friends, but you'll also be doing something for yourself which is important when moving to a new city. Change can be hard on the entire family, so it's important for moms to recognize they need some quality time for themselves as well.
Go To Parent And Child Classes
If your children are younger a great way to meet new moms is to join a class with your child. Whether it's a swimming class, a local playgroup or a mom and tot gymnastics class, you'll get yourself out of the house for a few hours a week, and you may just meet some new people who have kids the same age as yours.
If you meet someone you hit it off you can ask for a post-class coffee, playdate or even lunch together. Lots of moms who join these classes are also looking to connect with other women and children who share the same interests.
Just like single people use online dating sites to find a match, there are now lots of different apps moms can use to find a friend. Mom Life, Peanut, Moms Meetup, Hello Mamas, and Hey! Vina are all apps women can use to find friends after a move to a new city who share their same interests and values.
Whether you're looking for a mom meet up with or without kids, to connect with other women who have children in the same age range or you're simply looking for a new mom friend to share a coffee with, there is an app for everyone.
Apps aren't the only way to use the world wide web to find like-minded moms in your area either. Thanks to social media, it's now easier than ever for moms to find their tribe, especially after a move. A quick search on Facebook will help moms find mom groups and meet-ups in their area. Ask at your children's school if there is a designated hashtag for the school to follow that can help you find other social media active moms, or if there's a Facebook, Instagram or Twitter page for your child's school or extracurricular activities.
This is a good way to identify parents who like to engage socially, and it's also a good way to put names to faces before actually meeting people. Striking up a relationship online is also a good way to begin talking to new moms, especially if you're introverted or shy.
Volunteer And Be Social
Moving to a new city can be daunting, and it can be easy to want to simply stay at home and let everything settle in, but that can also be lonely. A great way to meet new friends who have kids the same age is to volunteer at your children's school. Whether it's offering to help serve lunch, read in the classroom or reaching out to join the parent's association, volunteering is a great way to meet new friends.
If you're new in town chances are you're going to get invited to volunteer at school or for coffee by a well-meaning neighbor or even a playdate by a fellow school mom. While it might feel overwhelming to put yourself out there and meet new people, it's important to accept these invitations as they come because, in the end, you'll end up meeting some great people.
Moving to a new city can be scary, but you don't have to go through it alone. Put yourself out there and open yourself up to meeting new people and you'll find some new friends in no time.