This mother spent over $5,000 on plane tickets to attend a wedding, just to find out that kids aren’t welcomed at the event. As a matter of fact, this mother was given 12 months notice about the wedding, but wasn’t told until the very last minute that her baby wasn’t welcomed.
The unidentified mother took to her NetMums account under her user name Lucy B to make her complaint. The British mom says that she had already many plans for her, her partner and their 5-month-old baby to attend a cousin’s wedding in Australia. She claims that the cousin sent her an email with the date, but no additional information. As she was pregnant at the time, the new mother assumed that it would be OK to pay for her family’s tickets in advance.
But it wasn’t until three weeks before the wedding date that the cousin finally reached out with an invite that said no children are invited to the wedding. To make matters worse, the mother couldn’t find a last minute babysitter to watch her breastfed 5-month-old so she and her partner could still attend the wedding.
She wrote, “When we got to Australia my family mentioned maybe I could hire a babysitter, I researched online but couldn't find anyone (they live in the suburbs) Everyone I knew in Australia, was attending the wedding. Am I being unreasonable to think its a joke they cant make an exception for a breastfeed baby flying from England?"
She added that her cousin was being unreasonable as he refused to make an exception for her baby, even though she’s already spent so much money on tickets and accommodations in Australia.
The mother further said, "If couples don't want children at their wedding that's absolutely their prerogative but they need to make it clear in plenty of time for guests to make arrangements for childcare or decide not to go. Failing to mention this 'minor detail' until you were committed to going is extremely thoughtless.”
Many critics on the forum agreed that the groom was being unreasonable and that he could have made an exception for his cousin. Then again, others state that the mother should have reached out to either the bride or someone else in the family to clarify if children were allowed to attend the wedding prior to the purchase of her tickets.
Etiquette experts agree that putting a note on your wedding website would help clarify whether the ceremony and reception is adults only or family friendly. Furthermore, experts also suggest that you put a note about how many guests are expected to attend on a “save the date” card as well. Otherwise, make sure that everyone is on the same page before making any travel plans, especially if they are overseas.
So far the disgruntled mother hasn’t said whether or not she still plans on attending her cousin’s wedding in Australia.
What would you do?