Motherhood changes you in so many ways. It changes you right down to your core. Once you have a baby, your life is really never the same. It's amazing, don't get us wrong! But it's a completely life-changing experience. Motherhood is physically, mentally, and emotionally demanding and you'll hardly recognize yourself after you become a mom. One of the biggest and most recognizable changes is what happens to your body. Pregnancy, childbirth, and postpartum recovery can do a real number on your body, and while it's definitely all worth it, it can take some time to get used to it. There's absolutely nothing wrong with postpartum bodies - they are perfect and beautiful. You had a baby! You created and carried life inside of you, delivered it to the world, and have sustained it afterward. We should all get a medal and a crown, to be honest.
Loving your postpartum body can take time, but it's so important to know and see your worth and beauty after having a baby. Kristyn Dingman is a body-positivity blogger who shares her message of self-love and acceptance with her followers. Being open about loving your postpartum body, however, brings out some hateful people. Luckily, Kristyn knows just how to respond to trolls, and we are loving it.
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One of the biggest ways I stay motivated is by a constant stream of inspiration flowing my way. I find my best inspiration from other women who are on a similar mission toward self love and happiness. _ I love chatting with other moms or body positive strangers who share a similar goal of empowerment toward changing societies vision of beauty. Empowerment drives me to continue to better myself esteem and mind set to think positive and inspire others who may be struggling. _ I’ve been talking to so many others about this same issue of empowerment. So many times I see women putting down other women for their bodies. Don’t we have enough issues as it is?!? I received one particularly nasty troll comment a few weeks back that is just sticking with me and I have been trying to shake it off but I’m having trouble. _ I didn’t respond or comment on this message. I didn’t get angry or cry. I just simply deleted and blocked the women who left it. But, I just can’t seem to forget what she said to me. Of all the feelings I have toward this message, it’s that I feel sorry for her. I wanted to give her a hug and let her know that the more we put each other down, the worse off we will be. We can’t grow or be united as a strong sex if we are constantly at war. Empowered women empower women and that’s what I plan to do. _ We rise by lifting others. _ #empoweringwomen #empoweredwomen #empoweredwomenempowerwomen #empower #internettrolls #inspire #bodypositive #effyourbeautystandards #effyourbodystandards #selflove #postpartum #thisispostpartum #ilovemybody #curves #iambeautiful #allbodiesaregoodbodies #confidenceissexy #blog #blogger #kdmamablog
When you share your journey on the internet, you're going to get hate. For whatever reason, people love to hide behind the relative anonymity of the internet and use it to insult and put others down. When Kristyn shared a photo of her postpartum tummy on her Instagram account (scroll right for photo), she got a comment from someone that was way out of line. Kristyn says she didn't respond, she simply deleted the comment and blocked the messenger. But it stuck with her, and she knew she wanted to continue using her platform to empower and inspire other women.
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When someone’s asks me when I will get my body back post pregnancy I say that I never lost it. Pregnancy by definition is a life changing event. With such a drastic change comes drastic changes to our mind, body and souls. _ One of the hardest things for me to understand is why people feel the need to bring others down. Internet trolls main mission is to fill their miserable lives and crawl under the bridge (social media platforms) and roll around in the muddy comments underneath. _ What blows my mind even more is that 97% of the negativity I have received has been from women. What are we doing?! How are we supposed to feel like strong confident women when we are tearing each other down? We are on the same team and bullying isn’t something I stand for. _ My time and energy can’t be waisted on Trolls. I have so many reasons to be happy and the negative words that get thrown at me will never bring me down. Don’t let my body image be your outlet to throw your trash. _ Don’t listen to their hatred or let it change your mission. Trolls want people as miserable as Trolls. _ #bodypositive #selflove #hatersgonnahate #internettrolls #negativepeople #positivebodyimage #confidenceissexy #iamenougb #iambeautiful #instagoodmyphoto #positivemindset #loveyourbody #curves #effyourbeautystandards #womenirl #postpartum #postpartumbody #blogger #instablogger #fabuplus #motherhood #yougotthis #motherly #allbodiesarebeautiful #allbodiesaregoodbodies
Kristyn truly believes in empowering other women, and using our platforms for good. You can't keep trolls from coming in and trying to disrupt your space. But you can use their words and turn them into something positive. She acknowledges that it's never easy to read comments like the one left on her post. But rather than let them hold her down, she uses them to empower and inspire even more women. It's so hard not to feel down about yourself, and we all get into the vicious cycle of comparing our bodies/lives/selves to others we think have it better. But women like Kristyn help us remember that while we're all different, we are ALL amazing.