Now that the school year is winding down it seems that the kids are doing a lot more 'fun' activities during the day. The end of the year normally means field days and field trips, excursions to local theme parks or pool clubs and of course, theme days that can often turn in to theme weeks! While there's no doubt that all these activities can be extremely fun for kids and allow teachers to take a break from the daily monotony of classwork, they can be a pain in the backside for moms. Let's face it, finding out your child has to dress up like their favorite sports figure or movie character is a lot of fun, but it can also be super stressful for the parent who finds out about theme days 5 minutes before your child heads off to school in the morning.
One mom recently took to Reddit to rant about how all these fun things kids get to do for school often become homework for mom, and she's fed up. Although she has since deleted her rant, parents everywhere, especially moms, could totally relate.
The mom began by stating that as a working mother, having to plan for special events at school has become extra work for her every night, writing that "I have to prepare/do something for yesterday, this Friday, next Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday (about 4 different things to remember!) and Friday."
She then went on to explain that while these special activities are fun for the kids and teachers, they put a lot of stress on parents, and let's face it, mostly moms, who need to make sure their kids have everything they need for these activities.
"All of this is bullshit extra homework for mothers - tie dye a shirt. Sure because I have that shit sitting around. Bring in pictures of child. Arrange a snack for the whole class because he's Star of the Week. Wear [special thing] Day. Olympics Day - change the time of dropoff/pickup and lunch arrangements. On and on and on and on. Literally they made up a pretend 'holiday' for every single day in May, with most of them representing Homework for Moms to bring in whatever," she wrote.
She went on to explain that her 6-year-old child is incapable of preparing for many of these events because much of them required purchasing supplies and not many six-year-olds can tie-dye by themselves! She then went on to write how most of the extra work falls on the mom's shoulders, as does the guilt when something isn't done or prepared for.
"Sure, sure they don't say it's specifically for Moms and hearing about all you Dads who are the ones in your family who take care of this is great. But in my family, it's me or not happening. And if something doesn't get done, the school sure as shit doesn't send an email to or call my husband about it. It's always 'Tell your mom...." Meanwhile I'm only trying to you know work full time, be the family breadwinner, take care of the inside and outside maintenance of the house, have a life, etc. so of course a part time job of coordinating the Elementary School Social Club of Daily Fun Special Extra Activities fits easily into my day."
While adding that her family does pick and choose not to participate in every activity she noted that while it was Beach Day the day she posted her rant, she didn't send in a towel since she didn't have time to have hers cleaned and ready to go after the long weekend.
Most people could totally relate to the poster's dilemma, sharing stories of their own frustrations about last minute requests to have their child bring something that needs to be created from scratch in the next day, and even one person whose child was in daycare and was already fed up with "wacky dress days!" Basically, most moms agreed that all this mom homework needs to end because it's simply gotten out of control.
You can read the frustrated mom's full post here.
Let's hope that she knows that mothers everywhere are totally relating to her and hopefully the next few weeks until school is out, goes quickly!