When it comes to raising a responsible human, having them help out around the home can play a huge role in that. Although some parents scoff at the idea of paying their kids for doing the necessary, sometimes menial tasks that need to be done around the house, paying them for their contribution also teaches them about money and the value of a dollar while also teaching them to be responsible. Although it can be daunting to introduce chores and an allowance system at home, when it just feels like the right time, consider these simple tips, geared at making mom life that much easier.
Kids can surprise you, they can start doing chores very early on, but when considering the types of chores they are capable of doing, age plays a huge part in that. “The key here is to look at both where your child is showing interest and where they seem to be developmentally ready,” parenting expert Alyson Schafer says in her book. According to the Montessori chart of age appropriate chores for children, youngsters as young as 2 can do things like put their toys away. We suppose it all just depends on the child. Since everyone is different, it may be wise for Mom to evaluate her child's personal readiness before assigning chores.
Sometimes kids drag their feet. If you want chores to be a part of their lives don't allow them to put off today what should be done today. But we do understand that there are some things that can be rather unpredictable, in that set of circumstances, it is important to continue to be consistent.
Remind your little one that if he or she doesn't do their assigned chores they will not be compensated if your family chooses to set up an allowance system. Allowance for younger children can come in different forms than just money.
It can be great to ask your children the types of chores they want to do and feel comfortable helping out with. This will make them feel like they have an even larger role in helping out around the house. Mother and owner of the blog, self-sufficient kids, says that getting the kids involved can make all the difference. "As a family, sit down and determine who is responsible for sweeping the floor, who needs to feed the cat, and who takes out the garbage. Including parents in this list provides perspective on the work that everyone contributes to the family," says Kerry.
Create a chore chart and checklist. The chore chart has to be explicit in detailing the chore the day of the week it has to be done and then allow for the option of your little one to check off the chore once it has been completed.
Parenting experts over at WebMD say that taking a chore chart one step further will ensure an even better outcome. "Clean your room is vague and can be interpreted in any number of ways. Instead, be explicit by saying, Put your clothes in the closet, books on the shelf, dishes in the kitchen, and toys in the toy box," Elisabeth Pently suggests.
Go over the chore and show your little one how to do it several times before you make them responsible for the chore all on their own. No one said assigning chores would be easy, nor did anyone say it would be hands-off work. Actually, Mom, you may find that assigning chores to your little one can actually create quite a bit of bonding time for the two of you. Just remember mom, the time you actually show them the chore is temporary, once they get it, step back and let them take over.
If they do a great job, get excited about it. Try to praise your children when they do well. If they kept their room clean all week show them how excited you are that they are living up to the new responsibility. According to the writers at WebMD, the praise should start almost immediately after your little one gets to work. "Get that praise going right away! Don't wait until the chore is done. Praise and encourage the child while the chore is in progress. You want to build positive momentum, especially with young kids." Makes sense, especially for young children.
Try to remember that these are children we're talking about here. Assigning chores to your little one isn't necessarily to help you, the parent, out as much as it is to instill a sense of responsibility in them and help them develop fun new skills. One way to manage and get chores a thing that really works in your household? Manage your expectations. Also, try to resist the urge to just jump in and take care of the chore yourself. We know it can be tempting since, in the beginning, little Billy may actually be doing more of smearing the mirror than cleaning it, but he feels empowered.
According to moneycrashers.com, the general rule of thumb when it comes to allowance for chores is that a child should earn $1 as a direct equivalent to his or her age. So, for example, a 10-year-old should earn $10 and a 16-year-old should earn $16, the time frame is up to the parents' discretion, either bi-weekly or per week.
Regardless of how much or when you choose to dole out your little one's allowance, be sure to make the fee per chore very clear and it may help to even list it on the chore chart. But if you want all the chores done, it may be wise not to make any one chore worth much more than any other.
In order to teach your little one the full benefit of earning an allowance, you may wish to talk to them about money. What does it mean to save money? To have a rainy day fund? To have a spending budget? Or to allocate funds for future events like class trips or the like. Business writer Susan Borowski suggest using the jar method to teach your little ones about handling their allowance, "A simple three-jar method can be an effective means to help kids distribute their money and watch their savings grow. Get three large jars and label accordingly: spending, saving, and charity."
Charts are just as important for the parent as they are for your child. Keeping track of chores that were not completed can help parents subtract the allowance from what was supposed to be done which will teach children the correlation between effort and money. It may take some time to get the hang of things, Mom. But there you have it the best tips out there to get your little one started with chores and allowance.