There are so many different parenting philosophies about what is in the best interest of our children and for every argument for one way to parent, there’s an equally convincing argument for doing something the complete opposite way. Even worse, no matter what you choose, there’s always someone there to tell you that you’re doing it wrong. If you formula feed, you’re a monster for not breastfeeding and if you breastfeed, you’re creepy if you breastfeed past whatever someone’s random and arbitrary opinion of what the right age is at which you should stop breastfeeding is. If you’re a stay at home mom, you find yourself defending the question about what it is that you do all day and if you work outside of the home you always seem to be worried about whether or not you're spending enough time with your kids. This type of constant judgment that moms face is called mom-shaming and we all experience it, even celebrities.
Bachelor in Paradise alum Jade Roper recently took a stand against mom-shaming for both celebrity mom and non-celebrity moms alike. Jade Roper, mom to both a 2-year-old and a 3-month-old and reports that she’s had a constant slew of criticism about the parenting decisions she makes from fans, followers, and trolls since becoming a mom.
On a recent “Bachelor Happy Hour” podcast, Roper says “We already as moms already have enough guilt.” She goes on to say “We’re already trying to be a perfect parent for our kids. … Roper goes on to list the parenting issues that she’s been questioned, criticized and judged about and it is extensive.
She continues the podcast explaining, “People parent differently all over the world, culturally. Even my next-door [neighbors] parent differently than I do. It’s just what’s best for our family, but people like to bring that in and try to put it on top of you.”
Carly Waddell, singer, fellow Bachelor alum, and also mom to two children under the age of 2 was quick to jump in and support her friend Roper in her stand against mom-shaming. She also talked about how well Roper was able to shut down the shamers in a politically correct way that didn't result in her stooping to their level.
From the outside looking in, the life of a celebrity looks so picture perfect. To a certain extent, this is understandable because the interviews that we see and Facebook and Instagram feeds are curated to be perfect. So when we’re looking at the pictures of a celebrity mom and her kids its hard to remember that she’s at her core still a mom and suffers from the same mom guilt and insecurities that we all are. Just like any other mother you know, life as a mother is already hard enough and mom-shaming only makes it that much harder.
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