A man on Reddit is getting his ass handed to him for switching out his wife's clothing tags to make her think she lost weight. The man, who is going by the username u/lurkandsmirk29, posted his dilemma on the AITA subreddit (find the original post here). He explains
"My wife has gained some weight over the last year, and keeps beating herself up over it. She’s always sadly talking about her sizes and calling herself too big. She lost her excitement with shopping and a few months ago I guess I made a step to change that.
She’s always asking me to get things for her while she’s in the dressing room, new sizes etc. She told me to get a pair of jean shorts for her in a size 6 (this size is too small for her now by a lot. She’s kind of in denial about this and always asks for a size 6 and then gets very upset when it won’t fit at all. She’s more of a size 10 or 12 now. )
I don’t know... I got a bigger size and changed the sticker on the jeans so it said size 6. When it fit she was so happy and kept showing me and saying she’s so proud. She said she must have lost weight but doesn’t know what she did. She bought them feeling very confident with herself. When we got home, I cut the tag off the shorts."
While this may seem like a sweet gesture, it's a little on the strange and manipulative side. I get that he is coming from a good place, but it's still a little cringe-inducing. Either way, this man's plan backfired on him hard when she found out. He goes on to explain:
"I didn’t mean to but a few times after that I did it again. I guess it was part wanting to see my wife happy and part not knowing how to deal with the same meltdown happening every time. She looks really beautiful even if she gained some weight. I kept doing this and only recently did she realize that the tags on her clothes are missing. She asked me about it and I said I didn’t know, maybe the store doesn’t use them, but she googled the store and proved they did.
I had to come clean and now she’s furious. She keeps saying I’m an asshole and treating her like an idiot, lied to her, stuff like that. My heart is broken too. We haven’t spoken in days."
The post blew up on the popular forum, and has amassed approximately 2,000 comments. Many of them feel that the mans wife's anger is misplaced, and that the original poster was just trying to do her a small kindness. Still, others felt that this move was doomed to fail from the start. When does a lie ever result in a happy wife? As many users pointed out, she may have felt embarrassed and ashamed that she did not lose weight after all. One commenter pointed out that she might have told others that she had lost weight, putting her in an embarrassing position.
Still, because it is a Reddit thread, many of them comments were mean or downright nonsensical. The original post has been updated with the original poster feeling conflicted about wanting to delete the thread due to it's popularity and the fact that he is getting such nasty feedback. He did write that he would update the post as the story develops.
Although this man was trying to be nice, the fact that he straight-up lied to his wife regarding something she was already sensitive about was probably a really terrible idea. He mentioned that he feels she is beautiful and just wanted her to be happy, but this seemed like an unfortunate way to communicate that. Maybe when she gets over the shock of her husband lying to her, they will end up on speaking terms again. Until then, at least u/lurkandsmirk29 has the company of thousands of internet strangers on Reddit.