When it comes to insecurities, self-worth and all the things many husbands and wives deal with on a daily basis, it’s not very easy. And while many women like to complain or let it all out with their girlfriends, their husbands usually keep their grievances to themselves. It’s not that they don’t deal with the same issues. Instead, it’s just that they are not as vocal as their wives are about them.

With that being said though, there are many things that husbands wish they could tell their wives about their insecurities without having to forfeit their manhood or their pride for that matter. From their dad bods to their man boobs and feeling intimidated by the other dad volunteer and coach on the baseball field, there are so many things that men gripe about. They’ve just been keeping it to themselves, until now. Here are 20 things that husbands want their wives to know, or are just too afraid to share. Either he doesn’t want to come off as a 'wimp' or doesn’t want his wife to think that he can’t handle another night of pretending to like all of her friends and their spouses (which in most cases is true).

Check it out below and let us know what you think!

20 His Dad Bod

First and foremost, let’s get this out of the way: everyone changes. There’s a good possibility that you and your partner look nothing like you did twenty years ago. And guess what? Your husband has the same insecurities and hang-ups about his body, just like you do. “Yes, I’ve got man boobs,” says father-of-three Dan. “But that’s not what’s stopping me from not wearing a shirt at the pool with my kids. It’s actually my tattoos that I’m more embarrassed over. If only I could erase that period of the late 1990’s, I would do so beginning with my tats.”

19 Other Dad Bods

A lot of moms secretly check out other moms and their figures. Sure, no one wants to admit to it, but we all do it, especially if we see a hot mom who had four kids and can still fit in her Size 4 jeans (is she even human?). Well, believe it or not, dads feel the same way. Father-of-two Jack says, “I like to think of it this way: if he’s got pecks and abs, he must be spending more time at the gym than with his kids at home. There’s no way that any working father can dedicate so much time at the gym without doing the same at home, too.” He's got a point.

18 The Attractive Dad At School

The one thing that husbands do much better than their wives is behaving very discreetly about who they are checking out, and when. In other words, they might know that you are checking out the hot dad during your child’s pre-school orientation, but they won’t point it out right away. “He’s got to be unemployed or have a low-libido,” quips dad Josh. “I mean, it’s almost impossible to have a toddler at home and still look as good as Jon Hamm and that well-rested, too. Trust me, I haven’t had a good night’s rest since my wife gave birth to our first-born ten years ago.”

17 And The Dad On The Field

When your child participates in numerous after-school activities and sports, there’s also a certain amount of pressure to volunteer or coach one of his teams. And as a dad, you can’t help but feel sized up to the other dad who is volunteering on the same team. That’s where a lot of insecurities comes from, too. One person wrote on Reddit, “I survived little league baseball, but nothing is more competitive than dads trying to out-dad each other on the field. You’d think that their kid was trying out for Major League Baseball in the first grade. It’s nuts.”

16 His Snoring

A lot of partners like to poke fun at the fact that their significant others often snore in bed at night. And while it’s a running joke for a lot of couples, it’s also a huge insecurity for many husbands, especially if it has a profound effect on their intimate lives under the sheets. As one Redditer puts it, “My wife can’t sleep in the same room as me if I’m snoring. If she doesn’t kick me out of the bedroom first, she ends up going to the guest room and then yells at me the next morning for it.”

15 What Goes On In The Bathroom

When you are married for a certain amount of years, it’s without a doubt that you and your partner become very comfortable with one another. And yes, there’s a very good chance that you might have heard it all and seen it all in the bathroom, too. One Redditer wrote, “If she’s not making fun of my manhood, then she’s on my case about not cleaning up after myself, the toilet paper put on the wrong way, or accuses me of all the foul smells in the bathroom, as though her poop didn’t stink either. There are two of us sharing that bathroom.”

14 How Much Moolah He Makes

When you are the breadwinner or taking care of the family, there’s a certain amount of pressure, especially when it comes to keeping up with the household bills and providing for your little army of kids. But when your wife ends up making more money than you, that’s when all of the insecurities come out. In fact, a recent study says that many couples lie about their incomes when the wife brings home more bacon than her husband. Why? As Jack likes to put it, “Because traditionally men always see themselves as the family’s provider. They don’t want to be stripped of that pride.”

13 His Title

After so many years on the job, it’s not only hard to move up the corporate ladder (because that CEO seems to have his position for life), but even getting the most menial raise. And for a lot of men who are the sole providers and the breadwinners for their families, it can be super frustrating. “Sometimes I wish I could just sit down and air it all out with my wife,” says one Redditer, "But she’s so busy with the kids, the housework, the volunteering and the homework that each time I bring it up, she listens for just 5 minutes before she’s interrupted by what’s going on in the next room.”

12 His Self-Worth

Just because your husband doesn’t openly talk about it, doesn’t mean that he doesn’t think about it. Yes, a lot of men do think about their self-worth and wonder if they are doing enough or are simply “enough” for their families. One dad named Mike with four kids put it this way, “My girlfriend worries about her hair, her makeup, her weight, and whether or not her chicken pot pie is going to turn out okay later in the evening. I worry about my gut, my hairline, my paycheck, and yes, if that chicken pot pie will be good enough to eat, too.”

11 His Thinning Hairline

Speaking of hair, this is another touchy subject that a lot of husbands don’t like to talk about (but get mocked over almost endlessly). Yes, many husbands want their wives to know that they are well aware of the fact that they are losing the hair on top of their heads. One person wrote on Reddit recently, “Ok, I probably don’t look the same way I did in my senior high school picture, but it’s not tragic. I don’t look like Prince William yet. But I don’t have that handsome baldness that Bruce Willis has either. It’s still a work in progress.”

10 And Hair In Other Places, Too

You probably didn’t think we wouldn’t go there, but here we are. One of the suckiest things about growing old (and especially for men) is that you lose hair where you need it the most, just for it to show up in other places that you wouldn’t otherwise expect. “She hates my chest hair and my back hair and wants me to shave it all off,” says father-of-one, Mario. “But the thing is, I’m Italian. I’m not a Jersey Shore Italian, so that means the hair stays where it is, even if it’s not so much on my head anymore.”

9 His Waning Energy Levels

It seems like each and every weekend, many wives have a never-ending “to do” list for their husbands to complete. It’s not enough that you have a full-time job during the weekdays, but your significant other gives you another part-time one during the weekend, and during your only two days off. One Redditer wrote, “She’s non-stop. She wants me to cut the grass, kill the weeds, wash the cars, pressure wash the windows, reorganize the garage, help her hang her new pictures from Home Goods in the hallway and repaint the master bedroom. All in 48 hours, no less.”

8 And Energy For Other Things, Too

Ok, guys. We get it. Everyone is just as damn tired as the next person, especially if they are middle-aged, have been married for an X-amount of years, and have a few kids they need to feed, protect, love and house every day. Oh, and let’s not forget how that 40-hour per week job (with very crappy benefits) all of a sudden became a 50 to 55-hour job on the weekends. “And yet, she expects me to be Batman in bed,” says one disgruntled Reddit user. “When all I want is for Robin to do all the work for me.” Umm...

7 The Pride Attached To His Car

For a lot of husbands, their car is a symbol of pride, much like their family and their homes. That’s why they are less than enthusiastic about driving around a Toyota Prius or worse, their wife’s Honda Odyssey mini-van. “I would love to drive a Tesla to work every day, but I know it’s not going to happen anytime soon,” says frustrated dad Todd. “My wife drives the monster SUV because she has the kids all day and because her payment is so high, I am left with a modest Toyota Corolla. And it’s beige and yes, I feel embarrassed over it, too.”

6 That He Needs A Break, Too

Here’s one thing that a lot of men would no doubt shout while standing at the highest rooftop: they need a break, just like their wives, do. But with a full-time job, a demanding wife, kids who are non-stop and a bedroom to paint each weekend, it seems almost impossible. This dad said on Reddit, “Sometimes I sit in my car and pretend like I’m taking an important work call before going inside the house. I do it just because it’s my only moment of peace and quiet in the day. The moment I open the front door, it’s loud and chaotic. Just like the office.”

5 About His Man Cave

There’s a reason why men caves were created before the beginning of civilization: even back then husbands knew that they needed their own little corner in the world to just chill out and be themselves. Unfortunately, a lot of wives don’t see it this same way. One person wrote on Reddit, “My man cave all of a sudden became her cave, too. Little by little, she was making my territory a place of her own, too. Let’s get one thing straight: it’s not shared property. It’s a place where I can eat, sleep and watch football in peace if I need to.”

4 The In-Laws

There are probably very few married couples in this world that don’t have a story to share about their in-laws. So, we will put it this way and in the simplest terms possible: if he doesn’t want to spend the holidays with your parents, don’t force him to. One person wrote on Reddit, “I used to dread spending every Thanksgiving and Christmas with her parents, and we would get into the biggest fights over it. I find nothing merry about my in-laws at all, and I wish I weren’t obligated to fake it so much while around them. I just don’t like them, period.”

3 Hanging out with Other Couples

Speaking of “faking it,” there have been plenty of times in which your spouse didn’t want to hang out with your friends and their spouses, too. To put it simply, just because you are good girlfriends, you shouldn’t expect the husbands to get along, too. It doesn’t always work that way. One person wrote on Reddit, “It always feels like high school whenever we do the double, triple, or quadruple dates with people that I barely want to know, or even want to know for that matter. But she insists that we go to some stupid dinner party or the movies with them each and every time.”

2 All The School Functions

If that weren’t enough, every husband feels as though they are obligated to accompany their wives to every single school function, whether it’s a school play, a breakfast with the teachers, or even the annual daddy-daughter dance. Now, every dad likes the daddy-daughter dance as much as the next dad, but let’s face it: everyone ends up doing the same thing. It’s not much of a bonding experience. One person said on Reddit, “The girls dance and all the dads do is sit on the side and stare at their phones. And our wives forced us into this, no less.”

1 Keeping Up With The Neighbors

One of the biggest insecurities many men face is having to keep up with the Joneses, so to speak. A lot of wives believe that they are in some kind of eternal yet silent competition with all of their neighbors to see who has the best or most manicured lawn, who can outdo each other in the holiday decorations, and who can throw the biggest parties on the block. This person said on Reddit, “My wife wants to keep up with the neighbors all the time, which makes no sense, especially since she barely likes them. You wouldn’t believe how she gossips about them behind their back.”

References: Reddit.com