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For All The Women Who Can't Breastfeed: 20 Reasons It's Okay

Breastfeeding has become such a controversial topic lately. If a mom breastfeeds in public she is bound to get some weird looks, and if she formula feeds her child in public, she might get schooled by other moms on how she's not doing her best and should give her child breastmilk.

The thing is, people will always have opinions and they will always find the negative side of everything, which is why moms should try to do their best and not let anyone get to them. Today we're focusing on those moms who can't or simply don't want to breastfeed - because they deserve to know that their choice is okay.

Every mother is still allowed to have full control of her own body, and can freely decide what she wants or doesn't want to do with it. Which is why we decided to look at the pros of not breastfeeding - a.k.a: giving your child formula because guess what: that is totally fine and should be completely socially acceptable. We do after all live in a world where people get to decide how they want to live their lives freely.

Now here they are, 20 reasons its okay to not breastfeed, in fact 20 reasons that might even make a mother happy not to have to breastfeed.

20 Formula Is Pain-Free

A great benefit of feeding a child formula free is that it is completely pain-free. A lot of women experience chest pains while breastfeeding, and women who decide to go for formula instead of breastmilk don't have to deal with that problem. And pain is probably one of the main reasons women choose not to breastfeed because, for some, it's honestly just unbearable. And while no one has the right to judge their decisions anyways, especially not in this case! A woman's body is their own, and they have the full right to choose what they will and won't do with it.

19 The Child Will Still Be Just As Healthy

A quite common misconception is that formula fed children won't grow up as healthy as breastfed ones. But honestly, there is pretty much no reliable no scientific proof of that theory, and children who eat formula are generally just as healthy as breastfeed ones. Being breastfed doesn't mean that one will grow up healthy, just as being formula fed doesn't mean one will have health issues later on. A lot of this is individual and genetic, and as long as the child is fed a good and age-appropriate kind of formula they will grow up to be just fine.

18 You Don't Have To Worry About Meds

Moms who decide to breastfeed often need to be very careful with what kind of meds and supplements they take. And this can honestly be quite frustrating if one gets sick and needs antibiotics or just needs a painkiller for a headache. There are meds, in particular painkillers and supplements, that can be taken even when breastfeeding. However, some moms are often doubtful about how accurate those claims are and they wouldn't want to risk being affected by it; so, instead, they end up not taking them. Of course, with formula such a worry doesn't exist, and moms are free to take whatever they need.

17 Dad Can Feed The Baby, Too

One of the greatest things about not breastfeeding is that anyone can feed the baby. Breastfeeding is something only the mom can do, but feeding a baby from a bottle is something any family member or friend you trust can do. In particular, formula allows the baby's dad to bond with them during feeding times, which is something breastfeeding doesn't. And because the mom doesn't always feed the baby she also ends up having more free time. And nobody can deny that sometimes a bit more free time as a mother of a newborn is not only great but also necessary.

16 You Won't Have To Worry About Weaning

A big problem with breastfeeding for a lot of moms and their babies is the fact that weaning off can be quite a hassle. Sure, some kids stop breastfeeding without any problems, while others do actually struggle with it quite a bit. And not to mention that this process can also be frustrating and painful for the mothers, as they still produce milk which they generally need to pump, and they go through quite bad chest pains. If you're giving your child formula, it won't really be that difficult to stop, because you can easily substitute it with something else you bottle feed them.

15 Breastfeeding Requires A Big Time Commitment

Breastfeeding is a huge time commitment, and while some moms are up for it, others are not and should not be judged for that. Breastfeeding is generally done every few hours and can take, on average, around half an hour, which means that quite a few hours per day are spent on it. Of course, no one is saying this time is wasted, as the mom does get to spend it with her child, but formula feeding is definitely way more efficient and faster. And some parents need that efficiency to make their day-to-day life work; using formula for that reason is totally fine.

14 You Get To Be Less Restrictive With Your Meal Plan

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Another thing that moms also don't have to worry about if they are formula feeding is what they themselves eat. Breastfeeding moms have so many food restrictions and they need to pay attention to what their baby likes, and what they don't because everything the mom eats ends up in the milk in some way. Which is why they often can't eat very spicy food or certain foods their child might seem to be allergic to. Not to mention that the moms aren't free to drink coffee or any caffeinated drinks, as well as alcoholic beverages. Breastfeeding moms don't have that freedom.

13 Getting Your Child Used To Day-Care Will Be So Much Easier

If the mom needs to go back to work or school soon and day-care is the only available or the best option, having a formula fed child makes this transition so much easier. The child still gets the same food, it just has to get used to someone else feeding them. And while it's true that breastfed kids can also get their regular food since moms can pump out the milk beforehand, they still do have to get used to being fed from the bottle. Which is why, in general, formula fed babies take this transition way easier than breastfed ones.

12 You Don't Have To Worry About Exposure And Privacy Invasion

While it has become way more accepted to breastfeed in public, it is still somewhat of a taboo and people still do give you weird looks. Obviously, there is absolutely nothing wrong with breastfeeding in a public place, it's a totally natural thing and no one should be weirded out by it, but some people still are, and a breastfeeding mom never knows what kind of reaction she may encounter. Another thing is that some moms just don't feel comfortable breastfeeding in public and they want some privacy when doing it - which often isn't easily found. These are all obstacles formula feeding moms don't come across.

11 Self-Care Is Okay

A lot of moms breastfeed even though it is painful for them, makes them uncomfortable and prevents them from taking meds. They do so because they want only the best for their kid. However, in a world where good baby formula food exists - one that is just as good,  if not more nutritious than a mothers milk -  moms really shouldn't have to force themselves to breastfeed. No mom should ever feel guilty for wanting to take care of herself, and if anything her own child would definitely want that as well. Self-care is always important, no matter at what life stage one finds themselves.

10 You Won't Have To Worry About Possible Infection

Most women manage to get used to breastfeeding (and the pain that comes with it) quite quickly, but sometimes women end up with quite annoying and sometimes painful infections. Infections happen within the tissue of the chest when bacteria from their baby's mouth enters the tissue. It also happens when the milk ducts aren't drained properly and often enough, and it can cause a very hard and painful chest. Sometimes the infection goes away by itself, but in certain cases, medical care and antibiotics are a necessity. Another thing that moms who feed their kids formula food don't have to deal with.

9 There's No Need For Supplements

Often there's a requirement for breastfeeding moms and babies to take some supplements. Moms take them to increase their milk supply if necessary, and the baby takes them to get all the nutrients it needs. Generally, the most common supplements a baby takes are iron, vitamin D, vitamin B12, and omega-3. The reason is that often the breastmilk doesn't contain the necessary amount of those, so they need to be supplemented. With formula, there is generally no need for additional supplements, as any good kind already contains all the necessary nutrients in the right amounts for the baby's age.

8 It Will Be A Lot Easier To Return To Work

Moms who have decided not to breastfeed have a way easier time going back to work or school. They don't have to worry about their child not eating enough or rejecting food, and they don't go through the pain of weaning off, which can be very difficult for breastfeeding moms. Not to mention that when you stop breastfeeding your body goes through a lot of changes and your hormones are all over the place. This physical change can heavily affect how easy your back-to-work period goes by, and for moms who haven't breastfed adjusting to this change comes way easier.

7 Breastfed Babies Need To Eat More Often

One major difference between breastfeeding and formula feeding is how often the baby needs to be fed per day. A newborn is generally breastfed 7 to 9 times a day, because babies digest their mother's milk way faster, making them hungry more often. As formula takes quite a bit longer to digest, the babies also eats less often, which adds to the efficiency of formula feeding. While breastfeeding is a great way to bond, it does take a lot of time in a day, and when formula fed the child can also bond with its dad in a very similar way.

6 You Won't Have To Worry About Your Baby Not Getting Enough Food

Formula is very straightforward and easy, since all you really need to do is follow instructions and the measurements the package provides. Breastfeeding has no instructions and measurements, which makes it really difficult to asses whether the baby has eaten enough. Sure, most babies will cry if they are still hungry, but even if they don't their moms will still worry whether their child had enough milk for a meal, or if they should have some more. This is a worry that formula-feeding mothers do not have, as they always know exactly how much their child should eat and is eating.

5 Breastfeeding Isn't The Only Way To Bond

There is so much attention given to the time that mother and her baby spend while she breastfeeds them. And while that time is very precious and special, and they do indeed bond, it most certainly isn't the only time and only way mother and child can have an intense and beautiful connection. They can bond in many other ways, and feeding your child formula is still a wonderful way to bond. But in general just holding the child close to you, talking to them, caressing them can be just as meaningful as breastfeeding. No one should think that if they don't breastfeed they won't share special moments with their newborn.

4 You Can Deal Better With Your Postpartum Depression

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Postpartum depression is a very common and serious problem for mothers, and they often do need to go see a professional and potentially get on some meds for a certain period of time. A lot of mothers who breastfeed cannot actually do this, as the meds affect their breastmilk negatively. And while breastfeeding is a great experience, one should never insist on doing it if it also affects their health negatively. With postpartum depression taking care of yourself should be just as important as taking care of your newborn baby.

3 Breastfeeding Doesn’t Actually Work For Everyone

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A very obvious thing we tend to often forget is that everyone is different. And that also 100% applies to breastfeeding. Some moms can't do it for different reasons, others simply don't want to do it - and guess what, either way it's totally fine. Sometimes the baby doesn't latch on and drink the milk, and no matter how hard the mom tries it just doesn't work out. The point is every mom and every child are different and for some formula just works way better than breastmilk. At the end of the day, the journey of motherhood is very individual, and there is no perfect guidebook.

2 Other Options Don't Define You

While women are often judged for breastfeeding in public, it isn't that uncommon that they are also judged for formula feeding in public. People often find it's their right to comment on issues that don't really concern them; which is why it's not unheard of that another mom will come up to a formula-feeding mother, scolding her for not breastfeeding. The thing is, people can be so insensitive and they often don't realize that there must be a reason a mom chose not to breastfeed. And that should be respected, which is why it's important to now judge harshly on this matter, as well as to not let others opinions define your decision.

1 You're Not Less Of A Mom Because You Chose Not To Breastfeed

You will always be your child's mom, whether you decide to breastfeed them or not. And as we already mentioned, breastfeeding is great, but it isn't the only way to achieve a personal connection with your child. And what others think is completely irrelevant for this. Once your child grows up, they definitely won't hold a grudge against you for not having breastfed them, and that is all that should really matter to you. Breastfeeding is and always will be a mother's choice, and not something she has to do under any circumstances. It should always be optional.

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