You’ve bathed, fed, burped, and changed the baby, but their crying seems to have no end. In fact, every single time you set them down, they burst into tears. What could be the problem? Well, you could have what’s called a velcro baby. Velcro babies are only happy when they’re safely nestled in someone’s arms, at all hours of the day. While this may sound tiring, the experience could be rewarding as well.
Don’t be too concerned if you think you have a velcro baby as you can cope with them without extreme exhaustion. Whether you have one of these kiddos or not, read on for 10 interesting and potentially useful facts about velcro babies!
10 Some velcro babies want only one person
While some velcro babies are content as long as they’re in someone’s arms, some will only accept one person. As soon as they can recognize and differentiate between family members, which could be as early as two to three months of age, these choosy velcro babies will likely scream and cry when they’re out of reach of their chosen one.
However, they could potentially be distracted, albeit momentarily, by a shiny toy or a nice bottle. With this type of velcro baby, it’s still possible to have alone time. Usually, they calm down enough after a tantrum to accept others in place of their favored caretaker for the time being.
9 Sometimes it’s best to let them cry it out.
While avoiding tears is definitely optimal for any parent, sometimes there’s just nothing you can do other than let them have their tantrum. In fact, it may be surprising for you to know that it’s recommended to let velcro babies be without you sometimes, even if they cry. It may help with their transition out of the phase, and it’ll definitely give you a much-needed break.
Of course, you should never let your baby cry alone endlessly, but don’t be afraid to give them time to release their emotions. Often, they’ll be calmer after such a tantrum, and even be okay with a little alone time in the future!
8 Most of them will be content with being worn
While many parents believe that velcro babies need attention all 24 hours of the day, the fact is that they simply want the physical comfort of being held. Therefore, it may be smart to invest in a babywearing device so that you can hold your child close while being able to live your life as well.
Nowadays, it’s easy and affordable to get the right baby carrier for your little one’s age group. From newborns to toddlers, a wide variety of options is available for your choosing. With such a device, you’ll be free to write emails, type up blogs, and even do chores such as vacuuming or cooking all with your baby attached and content.
7 Picky velcro babies can be spotted from as early as two or three months old
That’s right! Since most infants are able to detect familiar versus unfamiliar faces at three months old, they’re able to pick up on who’s holding them. You might find that the temperament of your baby changes around this time, and they become pickier about who gets the honor of holding them.
While some velcro babies will still be content with anyone around this age, many will demand to be around only their chosen one. This could make babysitting situations more difficult, but you can have an easier time with this by setting up distractions ahead of time and sneaking away without being seen to avoid tantrums and tears.
6 Some people love velcro babies
While most parents have a hard time staying sane with a velcro baby, some actually prefer them! If you think about it, it makes sense that parents would love being needed by their child, even if it is literally constant. In the future, your child will grow up to be independent teenagers and adults who desire alone time and space from their parents.
You can take advantage by bonding with and loving your little one as much as you can during this time as you're the most important figure in their lives.
5 Getting them out of the house may help
Although this sounds strange, taking a velcro baby out of the house may help with their attachment. If your baby is tiring you out, you should try having your partner take them to a park or even just out to the backyard. There’s something inherently calming about nature, not to mention all the new sounds, smells, and sights that will be demanding your baby’s attention.
The new stimulation will help distract your baby from their attachment and give you some time to yourself. Plus, it’ll give your partner (or whoever your helper maybe) a chance to bond with your little one!
4 Velcro babies are not a result of spoiling your child
Over the years, many people unfamiliar with velcro-babies have accused the unfortunate parents of spoiling their child, causing the attachment. However, the development of velcro babies actually has more to do with their inherent personality. Contrary to what many believe, babies are born with certain set characteristics, even regarding their personality.
While it’s true that these traits are mostly highly adaptable, the sense of attachment is definitely not a result of spoiling a baby. Many parents have had both a velcro-baby and a relatively independent child. It wouldn’t make any sense for them to spoil one to the point of absolute attachment without having done the same to the first.
3 Most babies grow out of their velcro phase by the time they’re 3
Whether you’re thankful for this or not, the fact of the matter is that velcro-babies tend to drop their attachment by the time they’re a toddler. Although the exact reason is unclear, there are many theories as to why this is the age they become more independent. Part of the reason lies in the fact that at three, children are mostly able to eat, walk, and socialize on their own, thus depending on their caretakers less.
There are more chances for social interaction with other people and kid when you’re three, which helps velcro babies step out of their comfort zone and become familiarized with new friends. Either way, get ready for some free time, Mom!
2 Velcro babies tend to stick to mom
While this may not be so surprising, it’s definitely a fact that velcro babies tend to prefer mom over dad or grandma. In addition to mom being the food source, there’s a beautiful primal connection between babies and their moms that is the result of thousands of years of human evolution.
However, this may not be such great news for the mom, who’s more likely to be exhausted at the end of the day. Of course, there are actions you can take as a mom to earn some well-deserved naps. Try to be firm with baby, even at the cost of tantrums, and let your partner handle them for at least a few hours out of the day.
1 Velcro babies kick more when they’re in the womb
Our last fact on the list is a little strange, but studies have shown that velcro babies tend to be more active in the womb. Of course, just because your baby is kicking a lot during the last trimester doesn’t mean it’ll be a clingy baby. However, patterns have shown a connection between the two.
Possible reasons behind this may be that velcro babies tend to be more sensitive, and therefore respond to more stimuli in the womb compared to other children. Whatever the reason may be, it’s good to prepare yourself for a velcro baby, whether your belly is moving a ton or not.