When it comes to raising children, there is a lot at stake, and parents want to make sure that they raise their children to be the best kinds of people. We want them to be kind, generous and smart with a great sense of humor. Traits that we want to see in our children we often have to model ourselves. We have to model kindness and tolerance to our children if we expect them to grow and act the same way.
When it comes to raising children that are emotionally stable, and in order to do that there are things that parents need to do to make sure they give their child the best advantage they can. We are going to cover the things that parents do that reflects in children who are emotionally stable.
1. Let Their Children Make Mistakes
According to VeryWell Family, it is important to teach your child that it is OK to make mistakes and to let them make mistakes. No parent wants to see their child fail, so they tend to step in when they see their child struggling with something. They want their child to have a relatively easy childhood, but when you think you are being kind, you may actually be hindering their ability to learn. At one point they will go on to live their own lives and mistakes will be inevitable. If they have skills on handling mistakes from their childhood, they will already be ahead of the game.
2. Encourage Self-Talk
There are so many instances in life where a person is reminded of their flaws and their fails. Adults are faced with this every single day, but they are better able to handle it if they are emotionally stable. A parent who encourages a child to have positive self-talk will allow them to navigate feelings of loss and defeat when they are older.
3. No One Likes Being Uncomfortable
Much like letting your child make mistakes, it is also important to let them feel uncomfortable from time to time. If they are bored, let them feel bored and encourage them to find solutions to the problem. Parent’s don’t want to automatically jump in every time they see their child struggle, even though every nerve in us is telling us to. While we can support and guide them through it, letting them face their own struggles can help build strong mental health.
4. Watch The Censoring
According to Psych Central, children are naturally curious and they will point out any inconsistencies they see. Sometimes, these “omissions” are considered in poor taste, but they should not be silenced. While it may not be “nice” to point out how their grandma walks, it is important to handle it in a way that doesn’t silence the child. This could cause them to become fearful of their own perceptions and less likely to be open and honest.
5. Respect
Respect seems like such a simple concept, but it is not always that easy. Parents tend to have a “boss” mindset when it comes to their children. Parents who raise their children a more of their “equal” will raise emotionally stable children. That does not mean letting your child get away with anything, but it does mean listening to them and taking their thoughts and feelings seriously. Turn to feeling statements instead of criticism. Instead of telling a child that they are “naughty” for doing something, tell them how it makes you feel when they do that action.
6. Take A Study Course On Your Child
It can be hard to remember that our child is their own unique person. They may be young and tiny, but they are their own person, with their own likes, dislikes and skills. Remembering this and getting to know the person your child is can help you raise them to be strong and healthy children, according to Parents With Confidence.
Getting to know your child will also help you navigate their needs at any given time. If you can pinpoint where they are in their journey through child development, you will be able to pull on the different strategies that may work best when it comes to parenting them.
We are learning more and more every day how it is possible and beneficial to raise children to be seen more as our equals then something that we “possess.” By raising children to know how to fix their own mistakes, solve their own boredom and how to compliment themselves, you are on the way to raising an emotionally stable child.
Sources: Parents With Confidence, Psych Central, Very Well Family