A dad who recently offered to "'help" discipline other people's children by offering "free" spankings for their little "crybabies" has sparked quite a heated debate online. The now viral Facebook post has caused people who both agree and disagree with whether corporal punishment should still be used on children to flood Dwayne Stamper, a father of five's Facebook page with their opinions on his post.
Stamper posted a photo on his Facebook page that shows him sitting at a lemonade-style stand offering 'Free A** Whoopins!' for anyone in need. "Parents, your kids need a whoopin?" he wrote in the caption. "Summer can't end fast enough? Stop by, I'm set up! No kids over 13.... They may whoop me," he added.
The post has garnered over 34,000 reactions, almost 10 thousand comments and close to 200,000 shares since it was first posted just two months ago.
Many of the comments on Stamper's post were positive, with commenters calling him the "real MVP." " I know a hero when I see one! #MVP," wrote one person. Others heaped praise on Stamper's way of discipline writing, "guys like him keep kids from killing each other and blowing up world trade centers." Others felt that spanking is needed sometimes. "Some parents need whooping for raising spoiled brats that has no manners or respect for others!!!!" wrote one enthusiastic commenter.
Many others didn't find Stamper's "joke" post quite so funny, especially after finding out what had prompted the picture. Stamper had previously posted about a run in at a local restaurant with a mother whose child who was crying while waiting to be seated. Stamper was annoyed by the child's crying (and possibly annoyed that a 5 year old was holding a blanket, since he felt the need to point that out) and offered to 'take care of it' to the mother.
"I had to put my 2 cents in and tell them a good crack on the ass with a belt will fix the problem trust me!" Stamper wrote in his post. "My parents never let me cry in a store and especially if I was crying because I didn't get something I wanted! Parents if you let your child act this way, you're the problem with our snowflake society today! You don't have to beat your child but you do have to show them others in this world don't wanna hear their crybaby little ass!"
Many were upset not only that Stamper felt the need to be exactly that kind of annoying know-it-all who can parent better than anyone else, but that he felt that offering to spank another person's child was a legitimately acceptable way to confront a stranger and her child in a restaurant.
"How did he know if the kid was having a meltdown or if he had a neurological issue? If anyone had "offered" to spank my child when she was 5, they would either be laying on the floor themselves or I would have called the police for threatening to batter a minor," wrote one commenter. "Sorry, violence begets violence!" wrote another. "Just because your parents were not good parents doesn't mean you need to maintain the status quo! If you want your child to respect you, you need to also respect her/him!"
It seems that Stamper's 'free a** whoopin' post was meant to be a 'joke', but after looking in to his past, Fatherly has found allegations of abuse surrounding Stamper. The website spoke to Stamper's ex-wife, Stacey Marlow, who has claimed that stamper was abusive with both her and their daughter, Presley Marlow.
Still, it seems that Stamper is proud of his now viral status, telling Fatherly; “If you google ‘ass whoopins for kids’ I’m on number one, number two top picks,” he said. “I mean, there’s a lot of people that support it, and there’s a lot of people that’s against it. But if you read what I said, you don’t have to whoop your child every time they make a mistake.”
Whether you find Stamper's post funny or tragic, there is mounting evidence to show that corporal punishment can have devastating effects on children. Perhaps the Dwayne Stampers of the world should leave the punishment to parents who can decide if they want to raise their own "snowflakes" or not.