Many times, moms don't get credit for all that they do‚ but one dad pointed out that sometimes the fathers don't get their rightful shout outs either.
In a viral blog post, New Zealander Adam Clarke said that he is tired of people asking his wife how she "does it all." She's amazing, he admits, but that sexist question has a lot of assumptions in it that really doesn't give dads their due these days.
Adam and Nikki Clarke are co-owners of the athleisure brand Cadenshae, which is named after one of their kids. Adam says that he and his wife are partners in every sense of the word, yet people assume that she does the bulk of the work at home and the office, especially since their company is focused on women's clothing.
So basically, Adam gets the wrong end of both stereotypes — and he wants people to know that the truth is that his wife can "do it all" because she actually doesn't do everything; he does more than people might expect. "Together WE do it all," he posted.
The secret, he said, is that they don't divide tasks by gender. Instead, they work together to parent their kids, and they try to do the household chores that they enjoy more than others so that the labor is more enjoyable for them both. For example, he makes dinner and puts together the kids' lunchboxes, and then she cleans up afterward.
They take turns spending quality time with their four kids, and of course many times they spend family time together.
Adam's the one who usually handles bed time, and he's a lighter sleeper, so he's usually the one who gets up with the kids at night. That's usually something that moms get the credit for, but that isn't the way it works out in their family, and that's OK.
Nikki told the Daily Mail that while the expectations are high for working women, she has the benefit of having a lot of help in all that she does. The truth is that in a modern family moms and dads often share the burdens of home life, and her family is better off for it.
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