There is just no denying how moms take on the brunt of most of the household and child rearing duties. It's silly to even play the compare game since we carry these babies around inside of us for nine months (or longer) and go through an incredibly life-changing journey every single time we give birth. Then there is, of course, the mental load we carry as we try to remember to do one hundred plus things every single day, and remind those around us to their their 100 plus things.

See where we're going here? Moms deal with a lot.

And the thing is that we don't always ask for help because deep inside we feel like our partners should be making the same things that we do a priority - and just do it on their own. But things don't always work out that way. Too many women have unsupportive partners in this world and that needs to change. That's why this dad is calling them all out and has basically written the rule book for how to be a better partner.

Ted Gonder, 29, father of three and married to Franziska Gonder wrote an open letter on Facebook.  Not only did he applaud his wife for all that she's done to carry and birth their babies "like a pro," but he shared things that he would like to tell his 24 year old self - before having kids.

He started with, 1. Wifey carried baby IN her belly for 9 months. So you carry baby ON your belly for 9 months every chance you get. Not only does it help her recover but it bonds you to your kid more than imaginable," which we are cheering so loud for. 

Gonder went on to list out things that any dad who is slacking needs to read and then ended on an extremely epic note.

"5. Take the heat. Hormones are crazy, both pre and post birth. She won't seem like herself every day and sometimes she will say things she wouldn't say if she didn't feel like she was hungover, caffeinated, and on steroids every day. Remember your job is to be her rock through all of this, so toughen up and keep perspective when her tongue is sharper than you know her best self intends. Normal will return soon and you want her to be grateful that you kept it together when she wasn't, not resentful and disappointed that you hijacked her emotions by making her problems yours."

Yasss. All the praise right there.

His wife then responded on her personal Facebook page after his post went viral, opening up that she had received many friend request filled with women asking for relationship advice. To this she responded with a simple, "My message? Behind every strong couple stand two individuals who unconditionally and continually invest in each others’ growth. Love is active, not passive. It's a verb, not a subject."