A successful marriage depends on a lot of factors. Compatibility, the age at which you get married, your shared beliefs, and how well you communicate and trust each other throughout your marriage all play a factor. Of course, even if you check off all these boxes, it doesn't mean your marriage will last! Marriage is hard, and it takes a lot of work. But a new survey suggests that there's an interesting reason why some marriages may last while others fail. Apparently, couples who marry as virgins are more likely to be content in their marriage.
A team of researchers at the University of Utah, led by sociologist Nicholas Wolfinger, found that couples who have fewer sexual partners before marriage were happier in their marital relationship. According to the survey, women who had between 6-10 sexual partners before marriage were 13% less likely to be content in their marriages. Men who had more than 21 sexual partners were 15% less likely to be happy and satisfied in marriage.
However, 71% of men and 64% of women who only had sex with their spouse reported being happy and content in their marriages. They also found that women who had zero or one previous sexual partners were the least likely to get divorced.
The results of the survey led researchers to conclude that men and women who marry as virgins end up being more content and satisfied in their marriages. The survey also identified a few other markers of marital bliss, like having a 4-year college degree, earning at least $78,000 a year, and attending church services regularly. But what is it about marrying as a virgin that makes your chances of having a successful marriage so much higher? Experts believe it boils down to how much you value commitment.
People who save themselves for marriage are not interested in sex without commitment, and once they actually get married, tend to be more committed to their partner. It could also be that people who save themselves for marriage value their relationships more highly, giving them a higher sense of satisfaction.
It's certainly an interesting theory, but all couples and marriages are different. Waiting until you get married to have sex doesn't guarantee that your marriage will last, just as having sexual partners before you settle down doesn't mean it will fail.