It's bound to happen: your child has a moment of self-doubt. We all do. We are humans, and at one point or another, we will have self-esteem issues. Some experience this much younger than others; considering school, social events, and the dreaded internet. But, as parents, we are here to form their minds and their confidence from day one. We can do our very best to condition our child to know their worth, and remind them on the day-to-day how incredible they truly are.
Read bellow as we have compiled 10 ways to raise your child's confidence to avoid self-esteem issues. Or, to at least help resolve them when they occur.
10 DAILY AFFIRMATIONS
Daily Affirmations are proven to boost confidence. Whether this is used for your own parenting techniques or used in a daily ritual before your child's day begins, the more you say a sentence or idea the more the brain believes it. If you notice your child's confidence drop, it's important to find some keywords and terminology that resonates with your child. Allow the child to pick their own affirmations once they understand the idea of it. From there, you can understand how they view themselves by their use of words.
9 COMPLIMENT THEM
It's important to be the child's main source of support and confidence, as parents and/or guardians. Without our constant support, they would not be able to thrive comfortably. If we are there to keep them confident and assured, they will feel safe, which will translate into a confident individual in their future. If you have the habit of complimenting their positive traits, and we're not talking about physical traits, they will be confident, young people.
8 ASK THEM HOW THEY VIEW THEMSELVES
Children love to be asked how they feel. It's also important to have some insight on how they view themselves as people. The world can get you down, even at an early age. With the influence of social media, television, magazines and other peers, children can have some self-confident issues. So, in order to assist in boosting this in your children, you have to get a grasp of they feel about themselves on a personal level. Then, address the issues from there. Have more open and transparent conversations. If you have an open relationship with them, they will feel safe knowing you're there for their support.
7 ASK THEIR OPINIONS
When you ask your children how they feel about a situation or scenario, they believe you value their opinion. This is incredibly important in order to boost their creativity, independent thought, and curiosity. They will feel validated more than ever once they know their parents want insight on how they feel regarding (truly) any matter.
6 ASK THEM QUESTIONS
This touches back on the relationship you have with your child and/or children. The more questions you ask them, the more they appreciate how much you want to know about their lives. Not the lives that you know so well, because you raised them after all, but the lives they live outside of the home.
The lives that influence their day-to-day when you may not be around to have their back. Reassure them that you do, in fact, have their back no matter where you are no matter what they're doing. Ask them questions to reassure that you're there, always.
5 CONSIDER THEIR INPUT
When you consider your child's input in any situation, this will boost their confidence. This can begin as early as they can communicate. Even if it has to do with the fruits you purchase from the grocery store. Every opinion matters. And, the more you practice this behavior, the more confident and independent your child will likely grow.
4 REMIND THEM OF THEIR ACCOMPLISHMENTS
When you recognize your child's accomplishments, you allow them to value their own abilities. Many children want to impress and make their parents proud. When they do, this does not go unnoticed. Celebrate even the small things, like passing a hard test or scoring a goal in their first soccer game.
Every little, positive change is one to notice and one to celebrate. When you are proud of them, they will become proud of themselves. It's important to remind your children of their accomplishments so they never forget how special, unique and important they truly are.
3 ASK THEM WHAT THEIR GOALS ARE
When you show true interest in your child's passions and hobbies, they are validated with the fact that these potentially seemingly pastimes are meaningful. And, if they are sparking joy or creating happiness, they sure are meaningful. It's important to ask your children what their goals are to bring them confidence into fulfilling those said dreams. The more they visualize their goals the easier they are to obtain. As you to be their number one fan, this will boost their confidence immensely.
2 ASK THEM WHAT THEY'RE PROUD ABOUT
As mentioned before, it's incredibly important to tell them what you're proud of as their parents. But, it's even just as important to ask them what they're proud of themselves for. It's important to see self-value. Even at a young age. So, early on, ask them what they're proud of in themselves. They may surprise you. Even if they answer in small examples, every single moment counts. This will build over time and they will be able to appreciate the big and small things they accomplish in life, which will form a confident human being.
1 REMIND THEM OF THEIR POTENTIAL
Remind your children of their potential. When they have moments of self-doubt, remind them how well you know them, from their core. You were the first to experience their personality traits; they're essentially instilled in us from day one. Over time, our environment molds just into the people we become; we begin having political views, unique styles, and tastes in food. But, overall, our authentic, genuine personalities begin at birth. Tell them how much they have ahead of them. Remind them of their worth and their value. This will assure a confident mindset for the days and years to come.