Children's birthday parties are supposed to be a fun way for a group of friends to celebrate a momentous day in the birthday child's life. They can be stressful for parents to organize and attend but are often made a bit easier when the party is hosted out of the house where kids can play or make a craft and then have a fun gift to take home with them.
One mom recently thought her daughter was in for a fun birthday party being held at a local Build-A-Bear store for her friend who was turning 6. In a now-viral Reddit post, the mom, who brought her daughter to the party and even chipped in money for her daughter's stuffed animal, was shocked to learn that the children who attended were expected to give their stuffed creations to the birthday child at the end of the party!
In the post the mother, who goes by the username namenerd77, explained that she and her daughter went to a local Build-A-Bear store for a school friend's birthday party. She even said she pitched in $30 since she knows how expensive these parties can get. After the festivities at Build-A-Bear, the children were then told by the birthday child's mother that they need to hand over their stuffed creations to the birthday child!
Obviously you now have 8 very upset children on your hands, since they just spent the time to create their very own personalized stuffed animal and now they are told they need to give them to the birthday girl!
"Cue the upset and angry kids," the baffled mom writes. "They all disappointingly handed over their animals, and friend wasn’t even being nice about it either. Another little boy didn’t want to, and friend ripped it out of his hands. I probably should have said something, but I didn’t. The other parents seemed pretty baffled too."
The mom took to Reddit to ask if this was normal birthday party etiquette or if she was right in feeling a bit upset.
"I’m just wondering if this is totally normal and I should have expected this, or am I being an entitled parent?"
Needless to say, many of the commenters were just as outraged as the poster that the children were forced to give their creations away. Many pointed out that not only did the birthday child more than likely receive a gift from each of the children at her party, now she received their stuffed animals as well!
"This blows my mind, but, what blows my mind even more is that all the parents accepted this and gave their kids bear to the birthday girl," wrote one commenter. "There is no way I would be doing this. The birthday girls parent can be mad at me all they want. In all honesty, the parents of that girl can go F themselves, my kid is leaving with the bear they made."
Another pointed out that something like this will put the birthday child in an awkward position socially, as many of her friends may not want to ever go to her birthday party ever again. "I had a BAB party forever ago. I did not do this at all. I got my bear and everyone kept theirs. That’s the worst party ever. It is almost like gaslighting... I can’t exactly put my finger on it. It’s definitely how that kid loses friends. Who wants to do this again next year?"
Another even reached out to Build-A-Bear themselves who stated they would be happy to work with the kids who had to give away their stuffed creations.
Hey Jeff! Thanks for looping us in, we're happy to work directly with these parents if they reach out to our Guest Services team!— Build-A-Bear Workshop (@buildabear) April 16, 2019
Namenerd77 updated her post to let followers know that she did ask the mother of the birthday child about the odd party, who stated that, "well I didn’t have enough money for each of the guests to make their own, that would get pretty expensive!" She even got snippy when the poster mentioned that she had contributed her own money for what she thought was her daughter's Build-A-Bear. "If you want your money back I’ll see about getting it back to you. I don’t really see the problem though," the woman replied.
The poster thought it was odd that the mother of the birthday child said the party would have been expensive, yet had no trouble paying for 8 bears for her own child! While she says she thinks the issues has been resolved, she also wrote that she's not sure she'll let her child play with the birthday child in the future after she witnessed her behavior at the party.
"Anyways, I guess we sort of worked it out, no ones fighting, so I’m not sure I’m going to mention it to her again," namenerd77 wrote. Hopefully the kids will at least receive an invite back to Build-A-Bear where they can make their own creations they get to actually keep!