Kids' birthday parties always have great intentions, but we all know that they can sometimes bring on unnecessary drama and stress for everyone involved. There's stress in the planning and there is definitely stress in the gift giving element of it all - on both ends. We're never sure about what to spend, what the birthday child really wants, and as the mom of the birthday child, we worry about other kids feeling left out and if our child should open the gifts in front of everyone. The concern trickles down to so many things.
Well, one mom started a shocking debate about a gift that her child received that she deemed incredibly inappropriate and has the whole internet in an uproar. The gift in question? A toy gun.
Okay, we get it. With so much happening around the world in schools that involves guns, this is a completely worthy debate over this controversial toy. We don't want kids to get the wrong impressions and think right from the start that guns are just toys - when they totally aren't. The mom in question started a thread on a website called Mumsnet where there is a chain of comments going back and forth about this hot button topic.
It all boils down to this: the birthday child's mom doesn't think it's appropriate for another mom to gift her child a toy gun without her consent. But the thing is that it wasn't just one mom or one gift. After the anonymous mom's son's seventh birthday party, he ended up with three toy guns from school friends -- even though she doesn't allow this type of toy in her home.
"Now I know it's up to people what they give and that as the recipient's parent I don't get a say, and I should be grateful that these [dear children] came to his party and brought him a gift (and I am), but I would never give a gun as a gift," she wrote. "I think it's really inappropriate and I'm very uncomfortable with having even toy guns in my house."
And just like any parent, she hates being considered the "bad guy" for taking these birthday toys away from her child. We get it. No parent wants to be in that place.
If you're wondering what type of guns are in question, they actually aren't replica machine guns - they are two Nerf guns and a "pump action 'soaker' water pistol." Even though they don't seem as harsh as the later option, it obviously doesn't mean that she wants her child playing with them still. After all, it's her choice.
She says,"do we have swords? Yes -- but I didn't buy those either and no I don't like them, because they whack each other with them and it hurts," she commented. "I know kids have been playing cops and robbers or cowboys and Indians for forever, but I'm just not a fan of other people buying my kids guns ... Buying them for your own kids is one thing, but giving them as gifts? That's what I have a problem with."
While some people are completely on her side, others are not. One thing is for sure, this is definitely a conversation that parents stand on both sides of and have very strong opinions about.
One person writes, "I would never give one as a gift even though I had several as a child (df in the military). DS picked one from a Christmas market fair stall as a prize spurred on by my MiL (whose own father was shot during the troubles) and he's got a ray gun too."
While another says, "I would never give one as a gift even though I had several as a child (df in the military). Ds picked one from a Christmas market fair stall as a prize spurred on by my MiL (whose own father was shot during the troubles) and he's got a ray gun too."
At the end of the day, we all do what we think it best for our little ones.