We've all unfortunately been in that situation where someone comes out of the blue, in a public place, to give us completely unwelcome parenting advice. Sound familiar? We've all lives it. We were all probably really baffled by it. And in most situations, probably didn't respond the way that we really wanted to. So we go home and let it all process, and then come up with a really good response that we wish we would have said right there on the spot.
That's exactly what happened to this mom in Target. And her wonderful response is going viral for all the right reasons.
Mom, Annie Ferguson Muscato, walked into her local Target to get her baby girl some formula, one that had finally been working for their family and nourishing their little one. She was, of course, approached by someone who should have been minding their own business, and proceeded to explain to her how breastfeeding is better for her baby than what she was buying. Wouldn't the world be a sweeter place if people just stopped this nonsense?
Whenever Muscato got home, she wrote a letter on her Facebook page to this woman that has made such an impact on so many parents.
She started by explaining her struggle, which this person who approached her knew nothing about, saying,"
I know "breast is best" just like you do. But, let me tell you what else I know.I know that my baby began screaming after she ate. Writhing in pain. Inconsolable.I know over the last month and a half I have exclusively pumped and tried slow flow bottles of breast milk, I have tried different positions, I have seen another lactation consultant.I know I have held my child, my baby, while she screamed for hours- one day for eight hours straight.I know we have been to see the pediatrician at least twice a week since she has been born.I know that I tried cutting soy, and dairy, and leafy greens from my diet to make my milk more digestible for her.I have pumped- and I'm still pumping- enough to have hundreds of ounces of breast milk in my freezer even though she will likely never be able to eat it.All because "breast is best."
No one knows the struggles that people are going through behind closed doors. And in this case, how hard it probably was for Muscato to be buying that formula to begin with. At the end of the day, whenever we send our kids off to college, no one has to put whether they were formula or breastfed on the application. You will never stand in a room of adults and be able to point out who was breastfed and who was formula fed. Fed is best.