Parenthood is stressful. There's no simpler nor easier way to honestly put it. Each childhood age bring a new phase; a new set of tasks, worries and overwhelming moments. Parenthood is a constant struggle to find the best way to address issues while keeping calm, yourself, as the parent and/or guardian. When things get hard, it's important to calm down and keep level-headed. It's imperative to reassure yourself that everything will be fine. Because, it will.
In order to assist you with some coping mechanisms along your parenthood journey, we've listed ten simple and quick affirmations to repeat when things get rough. Even if things feel pretty darn dandy, it's a nice thing to wake up or go to bed by repeating gratitude and positive affirmations to ensure a happy, mindful state.
10 "I AM DOING MY BEST"
In every moment of every day- you are doing your best. The realization to this may come with time, though it may resonate with others already. As a parent, you are simply juggling so many tasks. You are managing not only your own time but potentially many other individuals within your life, too. Positive affirmations work the more you say them. They begin to "hit you" from time to time, when they need to most. By accepting yourself for you are in that very moment, it's a beautiful thing to do. You are, indeed, doing your absolute best. Even when you don't think you're doing (or are) enough.
9 "TOMORROW IS A NEW DAY"
This simple affirmation can give you the hope you need to carry on the day without falling apart. It's ok if you feel like you're at your wit's end, especially as a parent. Parenting is not easy. It will test your limits in numerous ways. So, it's important to understand that the moment will fade and tomorrow is coming. Though it's incredibly important and beautiful to live in the moment, it's also ok to look forward to a brighter and lighter day; especially if you're not enjoying the moment you're living in at this very second. Repeat, "tomorrow is a new day," until you feel a bit lighter.
8 "THIS IS JUST A PHASE"
As cliche as this sentence may be, this affirmation is a gentle yet incredibly strong reminder that these moments are fleeting. And by "fleeting," we do not mean you will miss the young days. Do not feel guilty if you're a parent who falls more in love with you child the older they get- and you simply do not miss the younger stage.
Of course there will be moments that hold sentimental memories; however, it's ok if you don't feel as rewarded or uplifted as you thought you would. "This is just a phase," is something you can repeat to yourself when times get tough. Because, it's true.
7 "I AM A GREAT PARENT"
This affirmation may seem silly; especially when you may not feel like you're doing an amazing job more often than not. But, you are a great parent. If your child is thriving, well fed, happy and loved, you're an incredible parent. If you are trying that simply shows you're doing your absolute best and providing in emotional and mental ways; the best you can. "I am a great parent," is a great reminder of who you truly are even when the bad days arise.
6 "I LOVE MY CHILD'S ABILITY TO____"
Again, parenting is not easy. There will be moments where we may not like to admit it, but we can feel a slight feeling of anger, resentment and frustration to our children. By using affirmations that remind us of the amazing qualities that they do obtain can help us forget the sorrows we may have faced in our rough days. By repeating affirmations that show gratitude towards the incredible attributes your child has is a great way to switch our perspectives and feelings.
5 "I AM SO GOOD AT____ "
Choose a thing that you're incredible at. Good at. Mediocre, if anything. Whether it be cooking, choosing your son's outfit for the day or remembering to brush your children's teeth every day, morning and night, remember how good you are at something... anything. By reminding yourself of your bonuses and what you are great at will boost your energy and your appreciate for self. When you love yourself, you will be able to show much more love to others. Affirmations that assist in boosting your ego will help boost your life all around.
4 "I AM PROUD OF MYSELF FOR DOING ___ TODAY"
This specific affirmation will pull out a certain activity or goal that you may have achieved in the day that you may not have thought you'd be able to.
It could be as simple as making your bed, not yelling at your kid or remembering to take your multi-vitamins, ensure you're proud of yourself each and every day for something you've accomplished. Again, it can be incredibly simple. As long as you appreciate yourself for the big and small things.
3 "I AM PROUD OF [MY CHILD] FOR DOING ___ TODAY"
In contrast, it's important to show yourself the appreciation you have for things your children do. They too can be big or small. It could be witnessing your son help his sister with her shoes, or noticing him tidy up his play area before dinner. Noticing the things that make them a great kid, a great person, is imperative. By using these examples in an affirmation, it will allow you to grow love and reflect on the beautiful moments you share with your children.
2 "IT'S OK TO BE VULNERABLE"
This affirmation is incredibly important. By becoming a parent, you will experience emotions that may not have been felt for quite some time. You may experience some that you've never encountered, and that can be scary. It's important to hold space for your emotions and show your feelings. It's ok if your chid witnesses your strong emotions from time to time- it shows them it's ok to feel. Frankly, it's rare to find many people who wear their hearts on their sleeves, now a days. Repeating to yourself, "It's ok to be vulnerable" is not only empowering, but it's a beautiful realization we hope everyone, from parent to child, understand at some point in their lifetime.
1 "I AM BEING AUTHENTIC"
The best part of parenthood is it often lessons your shame. It allows you to often discover the authentic individual you've always meant to be, unless you've been her/him/them this entire time. Repeating to yourself that you are, indeed, authentic, is a good reminder of how far you've come and how incredible you truly are. By using this affirmation, you will likely continue to live without shame, without judgment, for as long as you remind yourself of its importance.