Getting married is one of the most exciting times a person can go through, especially if you're the blushing bride to be. There are bridesmaids dresses and bachelorette parties to plan, flowers to pick and venues to look at - but it can also be stressful. Guest lists can be hard to navigate, and there's the age-old problem of the seating plan that needs to be tackled at some point, too. These days, more and more people are opting to make their big day an adults-only affair for a variety of reasons. Kids can be noisy, messy, and difficult to control when some couples really want to be able to focus on their big day without distractions. If you're in this camp, then you may be struggling on how to tell your parent-friends that their children aren't invited to your big day. It's a sensitive subject that can be difficult to discuss but don't worry, we've got you covered with these tips.
Blame it on the seating. If you don't have the heart to tell guests that you don't want children at the wedding for personal reasons, then there are a few things you can do to bypass the awkwardness. Explain that there is limited seating at your venue and rather than picking out certain children to attend, you feel it would only be fair to have adults only so no little ones end up feeling left out. Yes, it's technically a lie, but if you feel like it would make your life easier and save people from getting offended, what's the harm?
Be upfront and honest. This isn't for the faint of heart, but those near and dear to you will understand your reasons - although you might run the risk of offending those you don't necessarily know as well. Some couples opt to print a line in bold on their invitations that simply states, "Adults Only", while others spread the word by contacting people. If you want to be direct to avoid misunderstanding, be sure to be short and sweet. A simple, "We were hoping for a relaxed atmosphere," will do. Be polite, but don't go overboard.
Consider making exceptions for "babes in arms". For parents who have a newborn baby, they may not feel comfortable leaving their child in the care of someone else to attend your wedding, or might not even have anyone they could ask. Usually, babies are easier to manage than older children at events, so consider making exceptions for newborns or "babes in arms". Otherwise, be prepared that your guest may not be able to attend.
Be tactful. No matter how you announce you'd like an adults-only wedding, there will be some individuals who will probably have a grumble or two behind your back. That can't be helped. Be sure to be careful how you bring the subject up and don't say anything along the lines of "We don't want to worry about screaming kids all day," no matter how close you are to your guest. Some parents may think you're saying their children badly behaved, and no one wants that animosity. Keep it plain, simple and polite, and you can't be blamed for any offense taken.