Fans of TLC's 19 Kids And Counting (before it got the ax) and the new spin-off series, Counting On, already know about the importance of RULES in the Duggar family. Ain't no free spirits coming out of Duggarland! Although they share some of the same values as the "Quiverfull movement," an extremely conservative (and frankly, quite scary) sect of Christianity, the Duggars are Independent Baptists who attend a "home church" to worship among like-minded people (which also doubles as a dating pool). Jim Bob and Michelle expect all of their children to stay true to their old-fashioned, patriarchal value system and they don't tolerate any funny business. Unfortunately for them, maintaining control over 19 children is never easy, particularly when so many of them are already married with children of their own. As it turns out, quite a few of the Duggar's offspring have broken the rules over the years and we can only imagine how Jim Bob feels about it. These kids are really letting their freak flags fly by wearing pants, having unsupervised phone calls, opening up Instagram accounts as singles (GASP!) and giving front hugs out the wazoo! ESCANDALO! When will it end, Jim Bob?!
Here are 21 rules that the Duggar kids have broken (so far).
21 Hello, Pants!
The Duggar girls have always been very serious about the no-pants rule until Jinger Duggar WENT HAM and started wearing pants after marrying her husband, Jeremy Vuolo. Sure, it's probably only because her husband said she could, but it seems to have started a trend within the family that has conservative Duggar fans clutching their pearls! Don't get me wrong, the Duggar girls haven't started burning their ankle-length skirts in a bonfire (although that would be awesome), but at this point, Jinger, Jessa, Jill, Joy-Anna and Jana have been seen rocking those sinful pant legs in public. Sorry, Jim Bob.
20 Hello, Legs!
Believe it or not, Jill Duggar (now Jill Dillard) came under fire after posting this picture on Instagram because she had the audacity to show off what she's been walking with all these years! Many fans felt misled, especially since the Duggar girls have been very public about their own form of "modesty" in the past. Not only were fans upset about Jill showing some leg, but they also had a few choice words about her "vulgar and expensive" shoes. You can't make this crap up.
19 Hello, Regular Swimsuits!
DEAR GOD IN HEAVEN, WHAT IS THIS SINFUL BEHAVIOR?! How a dare mother rock what appears to be a modest, one-piece swimsuit with her children placed strategically around her midsection! I know, I know, this is literally a big deal to no one except the Duggar family and their uber-conservative fans, but in the 2014 book Growing Up Duggar, the girls were very clear about bare shoulders. "We avoid low-cut, cleavage-showing, gaping, or bare-shouldered tops; and, when needed, we wear an undershirt."
Eh, it was a stupid rule anyway.
18 Cheater, Cheater, Pumpkin Eater
A lot of these "Duggar rules" are pretty ridiculous, but the "no cheating on your spouse" and the "don't molest your sisters" rules are pretty mainstream. That didn't stop Josh Duggar from doing both, however. Revelations that Josh had molested five girls (4 of them being his own sisters) between 2002 and 2003 had already given viewers the dry heaves, but then it was revealed that he'd cheated on his wife and was a fully-fledged member of the Ashley Madison website. As you can imagine, the fall out wasn't pretty. TLC officially canceled 19 Kids And Counting and the Washington Post listed Duggar as one of the "15 People the Internet Hated Most in 2015."
17 Front Hugs
In the Duggar family, side hugs are the preferred method of PDA in order to prevent any further temptation or "hanky panky," as described in the show. Duggar law (or...Jim Bob) says that when it comes to hugging people who AREN'T your spouse you have to leave room for the Lord! So what is this I see before me?! A full frontal hug between Jinger and Jeremy Vuolo before they were man and wife? YUP. They're not the only ones guilty of it, either. Joy-Anna and Austin Forsyth were also grilled for enjoying a pre-marriage full frontal hug in a TLC recap. The nerve!
The Duggars have a crapload of rules when it comes to courting (not dating, that's sinful), but the ultimate rule? Don't fail at it.
“There is no failed courtship,” says Michelle (a.k.a. Mama Duggar). “A parent that loves and cares for their children, they want the best relationship for their child. It’s fun to be involved in the whole process of choosing it."
Looks like Josiah Duggar broke that rule when he broke up with his former girlfriend, Marjorie Jackson, shortly after 19 Kids And Counting was canceled. Maybe he blames his older brother, Josh?
15 Being A Single (GASP!) Woman
While Jana is the eldest Duggar daughter at 28, she is the only one of the older girls who remains unmarried. WHAT IS THIS TRAVESTY?! Is she overly picky? Is she shy? Is she a strong, independent woman who don't need no man?! (Calm down, Jim Bob, I'm sure that's not it, either). Regardless of her reasons why, a Duggar woman at Jana's age should have at least four kids by now. How dare she remain a single pringle and not carry out her role as a baby maker and wife? Blasphemous.
14 Unchaperoned Phone Calls
Jessa Duggar Seewald and husband Ben Seewald had a pretty repressed, Duggar-approved courtship, but even they managed to break the rules occasionally. Bear in mind, Jim Bob and Michelle are supposed to supervise every phone call and are even copied on all text message exchanges. Despite this rule, in the book Growing Up Duggar Jessa admits that they ACTED A FOOL by speaking privately a few times.
"These were such special times. We would talk about everything from how our day went, to what we had been learning from our Bible reading, and then just anything else that we wanted to talk about. These calls were not 'chaperoned.' They were private -- just between the two of us."
13 Unsupervised FaceTime Calls
These young Duggars, they're getting out of hand! Taking it a step further than his sister, Jessa, Josiah Duggar and his now-wife Lauren Swanson were caught doing some unsupervised FaceTiming and he didn't even care if he was caught! Josiah even went as far as to post it to his own Instagram account (which is also a no-no, but I digress). It doesn't look like they were engaged in prayer to me! Maybe they were describing how they'd like to give each other a 5-minute, full-frontal hug? Oolala! Either way, it looks like Josiah isn't afraid to do his own thing, and I call that progress.
12 Listening To (And Quoting) Secular Music
If you think you recognize those lyrics from somewhere it's because you do, and it's not a Christian band that sings them. The song is Rather Be, by the English electronic music group Clean Bandit, and it's a SECULAR POP SONG that debuted at number one on the UK Singles Chart and was the third fastest-selling single of 2014. Wuuuuut! But how did this happen, Jim Bob?! In an interview with BeliefNet, Jim Bob made it very clear that secular music was a no-no, saying that "it's not good on your heart and your mind."
Looks like Jinger's got a new rulebook now.
11 Unsupervised Excursions
This here is a picture of Joseph Duggar traveling out of the country (and away from Jim Bob and Michelle) with his now-wife, Kendra, on a missionary trip to Panama without any of the siblings or parents with them. Courting couples are always supposed to have a family member with them, so it's unclear why the Duggar family allowed this to happen (although it's probably because Joseph is a son and is therefore allowed more freedom). I'm sure they were too busy doing good deeds to break any rules, but you never know...
10 Josiah's Instagram Account (Pre-Marriage)
The Duggars do have cell phones, but all unmarried Duggars are only allowed to use them to call, or text. "Young men would have more of a struggle seeing bad stuff, so what we've done with the smartphones is that we've … actually locked out Safari and any Internet search at all, and then we've just had basic apps," Jim Bob Duggar shared an interview with Covenant Eyes Radio.
When Duggar kids get engaged, they earn the right to have a social media account, but yet Josiah Duggar was posting on Instagram and Twitter long before his wife came along. God knows what kind of full-frontal hug filth he saw on his newsfeed. Disgusting.
9 Watching Secular TV Shows
Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar have always claimed that television ruins marriage by creating a distraction from being with one another, so it's no surprise that they don't approve of TV in general (much less secular shows). Duggar kids aren't supposed to watch anything other than Christian media, but yet Jessa Duggar Seewald is not only watching TV regularly, but she also owns a cable package. Jessa recently posted a video to Instagram of her son watching HGTV's Fixer Upper, captioning it with "Glued." Sorry, Jim Bob, your grandson is on the highway to hell.
8 Nose Piercing
Yep, that's a nose piercing, and Jill's fans lost their damn minds over it. Conservatives called her out on her rebellion on Twitter, Instagram, and Reddit (because they literally had nothing better to do), but mostly, people were just genuinely surprised.
“I’m shocked she got her nose pierced considering how conservative they are!” one Instagram user commented.
Same. I can't believe she did it either, especially considering how conservative her husband is, but I'm here for it. She's wearing pants, getting piercings, and living her best life. Now it's time to chase that college degree and hang the diploma on Jim Bob's wall.
"Ye shall not make any cuttings in your flesh for the dead, nor print or tattoo any marks upon you: I am the Lord." -Leviticus 19:28
Jill Dillard doubled down on her IDGAF attitude by posting a pic on Instagram of her hand adorned with a henna tattoo. Sure, it's not a real one, but body art of any kind is definitely not Duggar-approved (or Old Testament approved, apparently). Jinger's husband, Jeremy, is known to have a real tattoo on his arm, prompting rumors that Jinger might be hiding one herself. Who knows!
6 The No-Dancing Rule
In their interview with BeliefNet, Jim Bob and Michelle made their opinions on dancing pretty clear.
"As far as dancing, something that we believe—it's a personal conviction—is that a lot of times, when a guy sees a girl dance, it really can be defrauding to a guy, especially if they're dressed immodestly. The definition of defrauding would be building up sensual desires that you cannot rightfully fulfill."
I'm 100% sure that no one would get turned on by watching Michelle Duggar dance, but it's whatever. Despite the Duggar's strongly worded beliefs, Derick Dillard posted a video on Instagram of himself dancing while hanging out with friends at a bonfire. GASP!
5 Amy Duggar Doing Pretty Much Everything
I know, I know, Amy Duggar isn't technically Jim Bob and Michelle's child, but she's their first cousin and shares their last name so she totally belongs on this list. I've been cheering on Amy's secular, wild ways from the moment I first saw the show, and she's never disappointed. Although she's now married and goes by Amy King, this wild-child Duggar has literally done it all. She's dated, she drinks, she parties, she dances and she and her husband have matching tattoos. She also takes pictures of herself in a bikini and posts them to Instagram like any millennial woman would. AVERT YOUR EYES, JIM BOB!
4 Waiting To Get Pregnant
Given that most Duggar girls get pregnant on their honeymoon, Jinger became the first Duggar woman to celebrate her first anniversary WITHOUT a baby in tow. Jim Bob and Michelle have always expressed their distrust and disdain for birth control, attributing the miscarriage of their first child to the pill. Despite her parents' negative views about contraception, it seems that Jinger and Jeremy were in no rush to get pregnant and took measures to prevent it. You do you, Jinger.
3 Relocating Away From The Family
Jim Bob and Michelle like to keep the Duggar girls close to the family, even when they're married. In an effort to keep them from straying too far from the flock, it's not uncommon for Jim Bob to reward his kids with a starter home upon their nuptials. Jill and Jessa both live in homes gifted to them by the Duggars, but Jinger rocked the boat a little when she moved down to Laredo, Texas with her husband, Jeremy. Rumor has it they're about to move to Los Angeles, but they have yet to announce what their plans are. Goodbye forever, Duggarland!
2 Wearing Sports Gear
While on a tennis outing with her husband, Jinger showed up in a short sleeved (fitted) top and a short tennis skirt. YAASSSSS QUEEN! Lord knows this get-up breaks every modesty rule in the book. Exposed shoulders? Check. Skirt above the knee? Check. Form-fitting? Double check. Although this would seem the obvious (and most appropriate) outfit for the occasion, it's definitely a rule breaker for the Duggar girls. I honestly hope that she's not just wearing this stuff because her husband says she can. Jinger, do it FOR YOU!
1 Not Wanting A Zillion Kids
Duggar Law says that you have to have as many kids as God wants to bless you with, but apparently not every Duggar daughter is up for ruining their down lows. Jessa and Ben have stated on camera that they only want 7 or 8 children at home, which is still huge, but whatever. Jinger and Jeremy recently celebrated her first wedding anniversary WITHOUT A BABY, sparking rumors of birth control, so it looks like not everyone's on board with popping out a baby every year. Sorry, Jim Bob.
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