Working in a job that requires walking a fine line between helping a customer or client make the right decisions, while at the same time trying not to turn them away is incredibly stressful.
Take it from me—I also work as a dog trainer and there have been plenty of times where I clamped my mouth shut because I could see my client wasn’t going to listen to a word I say. For example, I told a previous client not to use a prong collar and go for a no-pull harness instead, but they still went out and bought a prong collar after our sessions were over.
Learning how to pick one’s battles is an art, and people that work as pediatricians, doctors that are general practitioners, veterinarians, dog trainers or other such professions have learned that all too well.
Pediatricians, in particular, deal with plenty of eyebrow-raising antics from moms, especially toddlers and they sometimes wish they could screech their thoughts from the top of a mountain in order for them to be heard and understood.
For moms of toddlers that want to make their child’s pediatrician's life a heck of a lot less stressful and easier, the following list will reveal what your toddler’s doctor wishes they could tell you but often don’t, in the hopes of not offending you.
20 Antibiotics Are Not A Cure-All
Parents writes that it makes your pediatrician’s eyes twitch the minute you walk into their office and start demanding that they give your child antibiotics just because they came down with the common cold.
While it’s understandable that moms want their kiddos to feel better ASAP, sometimes antibiotics are not the appropriate course of action unless the doctor is 100% sure that a bacterial infection is at the root cause of your child’s illness.
Sure, it’s annoying to let your child’s immune system fight off a virus, but better than accidentally contributing to the rise of antibiotic-resistant bacteria.
19 Please Don't Demand Alternative Schedules
Demanding more information about alternative schedules for shots has been a fad that has been on the rise amongst both parents and pet owners for a wide variety of reasons. I’ve seen countless groups debate online about whether or not they should go with the traditional schedule or try to see if there’s an alternative one they can use, which always baffles me but then again.
My motto is “If it isn’t broke, then don’t fix it.”
Parents points out that most pediatricians want to shake their heads repeatedly every single time a mom asks them about alternative schedules. It’s best to go the traditional route when it comes to these. That way, if there are any delays, it could put the kiddos at risk for catching something.
18 Being Outside Isn't The Germ Factory You Think It Is
Parents notes that pediatricians thoroughly wish the urban legend that claims being outside is what causes your toddler to get a cold would just disappear entirely from the mother rumor mill, both in person and online.
Allowing your toddler to play outside for long periods of time is not the equivalent of stepping into a germ factory, folks. Your little one is more likely to catch a cold in the wintertime when they’re cooped up in pre-school or daycare with a whole bunch of other kids. Children that age tend to touch everything and the germs infect via touch to the eyes, mouth, etc.
17 Please Don't Skip Well-Visits
Being a mother of a toddler isn’t easy, especially if you are balancing motherhood alongside a full-time job, but Parents adds that pediatricians get very exasperated when moms skip their child’s well visits.
Sure, the work-life-motherhood balance is often busy and difficult when you are the mom of a toddler, but it is still very important to make an effort to carve out some time for your kiddo’s well visit.
It gives doctors the chance to catch any potential issues right off the bat and they also allow both you and your child to get more comfortable discussing things with your pediatrician too.
16 No Q-Tips
This may come as a surprise to some moms, especially if they are Millennials, but Parents writes that many pediatricians wish that mothers would stop using Q-tips to clean their toddlers' ears.
I’ve been using Q-tips since the time I was a wee lass but I had no idea that pediatricians are against the use of this item on toddlers due to the fact that it can actually push wax further back into the ears. This can lead to pain or even a decrease in hearing.
Instead, it’s best to allow a little bit of water to get into your child’s ears when you’re bathing them since the moisture will help remove the wax without you having to lift a finger.
15 Don't Worry Too Much About A Fever
I remember whenever my little sister got sick as a toddler and would run a fever, my mom would get very worried and go into “mama bear mode.”
My mother was definitely one of those annoying parents that ran to the doctor for every little thing, much to the pediatrician’s chagrin.
Parents notes that pediatricians wish that mothers and fathers would stop stressing out about the appearance of a fever. Yes, it’s worrisome when your toddler gets sick, but a fever is merely a symptom to report to your doctor and not the herald of the apocalypse.
Most doctors don’t bat an eye when a parent says their child’s running a fever since they know it’s a symptom like a cough or a runny nose—nothing more, nothing less.
14 Consult With Your Doctor, Not Your Relatives
It is pretty common for moms of toddlers to ask their own mother or other relatives that have either had children before or currently have children around the same age for their opinion when their little one gets sick. However, Parents reports that pediatricians would prefer it if you went to them before you consulted with your relatives.
Sure, it’s reassuring to talk to others who have been through the same things, but the fact of the matter is, unless your relatives are actually pediatricians themselves, there’s a chance you could fall for misinformation and outdated old wives’ tales.
It’s always best to consult with your pediatrician since they studied a long time to get their degree and know best about what might be ailing your child.
13 Stop Getting Testy When The Doctor Arrives A Few Minutes Late
Look, I am one of the least patient people on the planet and I know how annoying it is when a doctor is late, but Reader’s Digest writes that many pediatricians can’t stand it when toddler moms get an attitude when they are five minutes late.
Unfortunately, things happen and sometimes a patient comes in with demands that require a little more attention than usual.
Or, if the appointment is in the morning, the doctor may have had trouble finding a parking spot or they may have left the house late. At the end of the day, your pediatrician is only human, and trust me, it could be worse—my primary doctor works at a walk-in urgent care facility and whenever I get sick, I usually have to wait two and a half hours before I’m seen.
12 Get Your Child A Flu Prevention
ABC News points out that many pediatricians wish that parents wouldn’t hem and haw about waiting too long to get their flu prevention or to take their toddler to get one too.
The Center for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) in the United States notes that this year’s flu has been pretty unpleasant recently. Ideally, parents should schedule an appointment for their toddler to get their flu prevention (and get one themselves) either right before the flu season starts in October or before the first of November.
Sure, the flu vaccine doesn’t cover all the strains of the virus, but it will lessen the symptoms should you or your child wind up catching it.
11 Don't Reach For The All-Natural Remedies In Order To Treat Lice
Babygaga points out that while no one likes hearing that their toddler has caught lice, it is best if moms ignore their friends and relatives’ advice to reach for “all-natural” remedies such tea tree oil in order to combat the scalp itchiness.
Many pediatricians wish that parents would simply call them and make an appointment rather than lose precious time with remedies derived from old wives’ tales.
Tea tree oil doesn’t always work, and it is best to consult with your child’s doctor so that they can prescribe the appropriate medication and treatment that is right for your toddler.
10 Don't Expect A Two For One Deal With Siblings
Reader’s Digest points out that another thing that makes most pediatricians want to scream at the top of the highest mountain is when toddler moms think they can get a two-for-one deal with siblings. For example, bringing the other child along for the appointment of their brother or sister in the hopes of avoiding the scheduling issues.
You might be able to get away with that with a veterinarian if you’re a dog owner—my vet has seen both of my dogs at the same appointment when I’ve been in a pinch---but that usually doesn’t fly when it comes to doctors for humans. Plus, it’s just downright inconsiderate too. Every child deserves a full evaluation and not a quick look-see that will more than likely be rushed.
9 Delaying Treatment Because You Can't Get An Appointment Is A No-No
Reader’s Digest points out that pediatricians get bothered when moms of toddlers delay treatment when their child isn’t feeling well because there are no appointments available that day.
If your child is feeling really sick and you think they can’t wait another day or two in order to be examined by their normal doctor, it is best to call the doctor’s office ASAP and explain your situation to the receptionist.
If you are really lucky, the receptionist might be able to squeeze you in, but he or she might also be able to refer you to a nurse that can examine your little one ASAP.
8 Worrying About The Kiddo's Health Isn't Doing Anyone Any Good
Parents adds that being a hypochondriac and constantly worrying about a child’s health is another pet peeve that makes many pediatricians want to facepalm whenever they encounter a very overzealous mother that is a total worry wart.
I don’t have any human children of my own, but I do own two dogs so I can kind of understand overanalyzing the health of another living being.
I will say this; it does get old fast and it isn’t going to do you any good. Whether you are an overzealous parent or pet owner, just breathe and stop worrying over “what ifs” in regards to their health because it’s just going to cause unnecessary stress.
7 Stop Contributing To Your Child's Feeling Towards Doctors
Reader’s Digest writes that many pediatricians feel frustrated whenever moms of toddlers are the ones responsible for their child's tears or emotional responses.
For example, some toddlers dislike it when doctors examine their ears. Instead of reminding them about how they felt during previous visits by announcing to the pediatrician “Oh, my child always squirms during this part of the exam because they’re fussy about their ears being touched,” it is best to set your child up for success by saying something along the lines of “Okay, now it’s time for the nice doctor to look at your ears to make sure everything is okay!”
Use positive reinforcement to change any lingering negative feelings towards their doctors into happy ones.
6 Don't Interrupt Someone's Private Life To Pick Their Brain About Medical Questions
According to Reader’s Digest, pediatricians really don’t like it when parents try to pick their brains about the little one’s health while they are trying to mind their own business at the grocery store or any other non-work place.
You wouldn’t like it if your boss texted you at all hours of the night about work-related issues, so it’s not cool to interrupt your doctor’s free time in order to ask questions about your toddler and their health. If you have any questions for your child’s pediatrician, it is best to call them during office hours so that they can get back to you in a timely manner when they are at work.
5 Doctors Don't Often Know The Price Of Meds, So Be Reasonable
Reader’s Digest notes that many pediatricians often have no idea how much a medication that they prescribed for a toddler costs. In the United States, for example, prices tend to vary depending on the insurance company and the plan the patient is under.
No one likes going to the pharmacy and being surprised by the cost of a medication, but it is not right to call your child’s pediatrician and blame them for the high price tag.
Since it tends to vary, they often have no idea how much it will cost, but they can easily prescribe you either a generic form of the medication or work with the pharmacy to find another one that is similar but costs a lot less.
4 Decongestants And Toddlers Do Not Mix
Reader’s Digest writes that while it may be tempting to give your toddler some cough medication or a decongestant to ease the sniffles caused by a cold or another kind of viral infection, any good pediatrician worth their salt wants you to keep those items on the counter where they belong.
Many studies on the subject have shown that cold medicines do not work well enough on any child under the age of six.
Plus, there’s always the risk of getting some kind of side effects that will make your child feel even sicker, so it is best to simply call your child’s doctor and schedule an appointment to allow them they can get the age-appropriate treatment that they need.
3 Quit Consulting The Internet For Every Sniffle
I’m not sure when the attitude towards taking one’s children to the doctor for every suspected illness changed. But from what I can observe from my mom friends and neighbors, it seems to me as if every time their kid gets even the smallest of sniffles, they head over to see the pediatrician.
Sure, it is best to be safe than sorry, but Parents writes that rushing to the ER or making a last-minute appointment with the child’s doctor is actually something many pediatricians wish that parents would quit doing.
Instead, it’s best to call the doctor’s office and get their advice on whether or not it’s time to take the kiddo in to be seen or wait it out, which is what my parents’ motto was when I was growing up.
2 Cool It With The Screen Time
Parents writes that another thing pediatricians are dismayed by is the rise in unlimited screen time by parents towards their children—toddlers included.
Sure, it’s pretty neat that there are apps you can download to teach your child new stuff, but staring at a small screen for hours at a time isn’t healthy either.
It is very important that moms allow their toddlers to play outside and amongst other kids as well. Not only is this a great way for your little one to expel some energy and get some exercise, but face-to-face interactions with children of their own age is great for their social development too.
1 Fruit Juice Isn't Healthier Than Soda
Many parents erroneously believe that giving their child fruit juice instead of soda is a healthy alternative, especially for toddlers. Chill Dad writes that most pediatricians wish that they could just silently shake their heads at parents whenever they hear this sort of misinformation because it simply isn't true.
At the end of the day, both juice and soda are full of sugar and having too much can have unpleasant health consequences. In general, drinking both in moderation is a good rule of thumb, but juice isn’t inherently better for you by virtue of being made from actual fruits.