20 Things Kids Will Experience In School No Parent Can Prepare Them For

Every parent wants their child to succeed in school, and they will do whatever they can in order to prepare for it. From hiring the best tutors to make sure that they pass the SATs with flying colors to trying to give their toddler a head start by enrolling them in the best preschool, there are plenty of moms and dads out there who will go above and beyond the call of duty in order to set their child up for success so that they can potentially go to college and become successful adults.

Even the best plans and attempts to set a child up for success will not work with the hurdles that can crop up during their school years.

For example, Family Circle points out that as much as parents wish that they could shield their child from feeling the hardship of rejection, it’s something they will go through at some point or another when they are growing up.

Whether it is their crush declining their offer to go get some coffee after school at the local café or the coach of the sport of their choice telling them that they didn’t make the cut for the team, rejection is a part of life. There’s no way to really prepare for it, and it’s something everyone has to learn to resolve on their own.

Parents who are feeling overprotective, underneath is a list of all the hurdles a child will have to go through at school that there is no way to prepare them for.

20 Having A Teacher Who Isn't Nice

Every parent hopes that their child will be lucky enough to have teachers that are truly kind and compassionate souls that make learning fun.

The S. Mommy site points out that this is not always the case and the odds are good that students will wind up having a teacher or two that is either not so good at their job, doesn’t have a nice personality, or if the student is really lucky, some combination of both. Unfortunately, there’s always going to be a few bad apples in the bunch when it comes to teachers, and there’s really no way to prepare a child for this since it’s all based on the luck of the draw.

19 Peer Pressure

Some parents believe that peer pressure is inherently negative and they wish that they could shield their precious child from it the minute that they set foot in school.

Kids Health points out that there can be positive types of peer pressure, such as when a child gushes with his or her friends about this cool book they just read and that inspires everyone in their social circle to read it, so there’s no need to try and shield them from that. But Kids Health also adds that there isn’t any way to shield a child from the negative form of peer pressure because it’s a situation they have to learn how to navigate on their own.

18 Struggling With The Effects Of Puberty In Junior High And High School

Parent Map writes that it can be really tough for children to handle the effects of puberty when they are in junior high or high school because even all the education in the world on the topic can’t hold a candle to the stress of having a noticeable pimple develop on their forehead before a dance or having to go bra shopping in the adult women’s section instead of simply picking out a training bra from the tweens area in the store.

The only thing you can do is educate them and lend them a friendly ear. Remind your child that they’re not alone and this is a process that everyone has to go through.

17 Dealing With The Fact Their Crush Turned Them Down

Everyone deals with being turned down by their crush at school in different ways and Family Circle writes that the only way to ease your child’s pain is by focusing on their positive attributes and reminding them that they are still a catch for any person.

In the first throes of being turned down, your child isn’t likely to listen to your kind words as they attempt to navigate the confusing world of romance and try to rebuild their confidence on their own. But when they are finally able to look back and laugh at this period of time in their life, they’ll be grateful for your gentle words of support.

16 Juggling Schoolwork And After-School Activities

Nowadays, it seems as if every child is juggling multiple extracurricular activities alongside their schoolwork. I’m honestly in awe of how my neighbor’s children manage to keep track of their lines for drama club while still being on both the basketball and soccer teams for their school. Plus, they’re good students, but I really don’t know when they have the time to study.

Romper notes that as much as you wish you could teach your child in advance how to juggle copious amounts of after-school activities and their schoolwork, that’s really a personal journey they have to take. You can’t do it for them; they have to learn their own personal limits on their own and make their own decisions about what activities to keep and what to drop.

15 Improving Communication Skills Amongst Peers And Adults

Understood writes that while some parents will try to go above and beyond the call of duty in order to help their child improve their communication skills with both their peers and the adults around them, the fact of the matter is that it is really based on trial and error.

Sure, you can do things such as balance the positives and negatives when you see your child clearly struggling in a situation and you sit down to discuss it with them or you can try to give some helpful tips, but this is one area where age and experience matter.

14 Having To Take Responsibility

Care writes that many parents try to teach their children the importance of taking responsibility for their actions by letting them help you with household chores from the time they are toddlers or give them consequences if they do not remember to do things like put their toys back into the toy chest after they are done playing with them.

That’s all well and good, but school is a different ballgame entirely. Your child might do chores with no grumbling but might be tempted to slack off on studying one day. They simply have to learn the hard way that if they slack off on their studies, then their grades will not be as good as they could have been.

13 Trying To Fit In With The Popular Crowd

One of the most common tropes used in popular culture about schools is the trials and tribulations of trying to fit in with the “cool crowd.” From Clueless to Mean Girls, each flick examined the pros and cons of hanging with the popular clique in their own way.

Kids Health points out that even if your child is raised from a young age on movies and television shows with this common motif in the plot, it’s still not enough to prepare your child for the real thing. After all, the characters in popular culture usually wind up living happily ever after, while real life is a bit more complicated than that.

12 How To Report Unnecessary Teasing To Teachers

Very Well Family notes that there isn’t much in the way of preparation skills that you can do in order to ensure that they will be able to identify unnecessary teasing from their classmates and be able to report it to the teacher.

It might take a while (or even a few years) for a child to grow confident in their personality and to not fret over what people will think of them if they become a so-called tattletale to the teacher about what is going on behind his or her back in the classroom or during the lunch period.

11 Getting Their First Detention Slip

Sweety High points out that no one likes getting handed their very first detention slip and some children can kick up a fuss about it because it’s not something that they are used to. Plus, there’s (usually) no way that their parents can get them out of it either—if you get a detention slip, you have to sit there and get it over with, no matter how much folks try to tell you that it’s no big deal.

I know that I was feeling really irritated and unjustly treated when I got my first-ever detention slip in junior high school because I forgot my textbook three times in a row. I was so upset with myself and I started to fret about what happened, but after about 10 minutes passed and I was feeling really bored in detention, those feelings went away. I realized it wasn’t so bad and I was really just bored, although it gave me an opportunity to finish all my homework so I could just go home and relax afterwards.

10 Struggling With Challenging Subjects

Raising Children adds that can often feel disheartening for children to realize that there is a subject or two that is incredibly challenging and they might need some extra help to master it. When I first started to clue into the fact that I was never going to be a math whiz, I had my head in the sand because I kept hoping that maybe it was just the teacher and I’d have a better one next year.

Needless to say, that didn’t happen and my grades kept slipping until the universe opened my eyes in order to come to terms that it wasn’t my teachers, but me. Thankfully, I managed to get a good math tutor that helped me overcome those hurdles and improve my grades, but I had to make that decision on my own—no one could force it from me.

9 Picking Out A Wardrobe That Follows The Dress Code

Meadow Primary writes that unless your child is lucky enough to attend a school where there are required uniforms, it can often be difficult to pick out a wardrobe to wear to school day in and day out.

Not only do they have to make sure that they thoroughly read over the dress code so they aren’t reprimanded for not having items in accordance with the regulations, but there’s also the peer pressure to fit in and wear the trendiest items. Often, these two opposing forces clash and your child has to go by trial and error to find the right balance that won’t wind up with them getting some serious side-eye from the popular crowd or a detention slip from their teacher.

8 Staying Focused In Class

Raising Children adds that it is pretty common for children to struggle to develop their listening skills and develop good focus in their classes. I’ll be honest, I had to work hard to keep my attention on the teacher when I was in high school because after about 30 minutes, my mind would start to wander and I’d end up doodling cartoons in the margins of my notebook.

It’s such a bummer that there are no classes that parents can sign their kids up in order to turn their child’s lack of focus as sharp as the eyesight of a falcon that is looking for a tasty meal; it would make everyone’s lives a lot easier.

7 Having A Bad Day In School

Every parent hopes against hope that their child will always have a great day when they are at school, but as Raising Children writes, the fact of the matter is that there will be good days and there will be bad days—just like with anything else.

While it is important to not coddle your child or be dismissive of their feelings when they come home from school feeling a bit glum or irritated after the day’s events, they have to figure out the best ways to handle the rougher days at school in the manner that works for them and in their own time.

6 The Fact They Didn't Make The Sports Team Of Their Choice

Family Circle writes that it is nerve-wracking for children to even make the effort to try out for a sport’s team and that is why they take it so personally if they wind up not making the cut.

Telling your child that it’s no big deal or how they can improve after experiencing such rejection is going to go in one ear and out the other. Children need to figure out for themselves how to work through their feelings, although it is good if the parents praise them for taking a risk and shares with them a time when they overcame what they felt was a hurtful snub as a way to show solidarity.

5 Fretting Over The First Day Of School

When I was growing up, I always disliked going back to school even well into my teenaged years because I knew I would always come down with a gnarly case of back-to-school jitters and I’d feel as if I had 12 cups of soda when I walked into the school building.

Today points out that pretty much every child will experience the back-to-school jitters at some point or another in their life. There isn’t much for it because it is simply a part of growing up, although parents can be supportive of their child by encouraging them to express what they are afraid of when discussing the upcoming event.

4 Learning How To Regulate Their Emotions

Understood writes that another common struggle that is pretty much a rite of passage for children that has been handed down from generation to generation is learning how to control their emotions, especially if your child is younger and they're starting school for the first time ever.

For example, I was always a very emotional child and I could go from feeling happy to feeling upset in the blink of an eye. I had to learn on my own and in my own time how to keep myself from feeling irritated if a snarky teacher made a comment to me about my grades on a recent pop quiz when they were handing them back to the students.

3 Dealing With Distractions In School From The Class Clown

When I was in seventh grade, there was this one classmate of mine that decided it was time to become the class clown, and he spent pretty much all of his time keeping the rest of us in stitches and exasperating the heck out of our teachers. I found it quite funny at first, but then I started to feel that the disruptions were a bit annoying, especially if I was trying to concentrate on the lesson.

Edutopia points out that learning how to deal with a class clown is something that all children will have to face at some point during their schooling and there’s no way to really prepare them for it because it’s a rite of passage that all students go through from generation to generation.

2 Navigating The School Building

Meadow Primary points out that it is easy for parents to prepare their children to walk home from school on their own or take public transportation home by practicing the routes they are going to use in their own free time.

Navigating the school buildings is a different kettle of fish entirely because there’s no way for you to go with them to practice and memorize the quickest route since schools tend to only give out schedules on the first day back. That means your child has to figure out which routes to the different classrooms are the fastest either by trial-and-error or by asking their friends for advice.

1 Time Management Between Hanging Out With Friends And Doing Homework

Very Well Family adds that as children get older, it often becomes more difficult for them to figure out how much time to spend doing their homework or studying versus spending time with their friends. Both are equally important for different reasons, but it is also pretty common for teachers to assign more homework as students move up a grade each year.

It’s not easy for anyone to figure out how much time to dedicate to their studies and how much time they should leave for leisurely activities with their buddies. I know I often felt frustrated until I found the right balance between trying to make sure I didn’t turn in any late assignments and still trying to have a relatively active social life as a teenager.

Sources: Romper, Kid's Health, Meadow Primary, Raising Children, Understood, Very Well FamilyCare, Edutopia, Parent Map, Family Circle, Today, Sweety High.

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