Did you think the hardest part of raising a little human being was changing his or her diaper and cleaning up his doo? Well, moms, that may be wrong. As little ones grow, they're full of curiosity and they are all about constantly asking questions. They will ask exhausted parents why she's their mom, or why were they were born (or rather, how?!), or why the sky is blue. They have a great way of making moms scratch their heads and wonder themselves, why is the sky blue? Their little brains work overtime to come up with some pretty complicated questions that she'll have no clue how to answer, but she will! Kids will bombard her with questions. It's as though they would love to know everything about the universe all at once.
Fun fact: A study reveals that kids ask 73 questions a day! That's the minimum on the spectrum, by the way.
But as a parent, it may get them wondering how anyone deals with so many questions from kids. Perhaps the next Chicken Soup title should be, 'Chicken Soup to Answer Your Kids' Questions'. It would be helpful to have some sort of reference to help parents give their babies the answers in a gentle way without going into too much detail. Everyone agrees it can be very challenging. But, after all, they are only curious kids who just want answers to some of life's perplexing questions. So, if mom has a child who has just begun to learn how to talk, she better brace herself, because someday, very soon, he or she is going to embarrass their mother or make her feel awkward by asking some of these questions. But, chalk it up to being a parent to a little sponge who wants to absorb everything about his or her environment.
20 The Question Will Come... Where Do Babies Come From
Jeremy L., 38, father of four-year-old twins narrates this story: "I was at the OB/GYN with my pregnant wife for a checkup where we got to see the baby on an ultrasound. On the way out, one of them asked, 'OK, but how did the baby even get in there?' The whole waiting room burst into laughter which made him burst into tears."
Now, this girl may have seen a pregnant woman and really wondered how does the story of a baby inside a mom's tummy match with babies getting delivered to the doorstep of chosen parents by storks or birds. As a parent, 'the talk' will eventually have to come up when your children grow to become more and more aware of the process of birth or about their own physical attributes. It's all about breaking it down into simple terms that a child at that age may want to know.
Questions about babies, birth and where they are from keep coming up very frequently.
Dr. William Sears shares this: "For better or worse, with each generation, children are becoming more sexually aware at a younger age. When a five-year-old patient of mine asked her parents, 'Where did I come from?' the flustered couple embarked on an in-depth account of baby-making — only to discover that all the girl wanted to know was where she was born: Cleveland!"
However awkward or embarrassed the baby talk may get you feeling, the key is to not let the child detect your discomfort. There is nothing to be ashamed of and you certainly don't want your child feeling that way.
19 Does This Question Even Have An Answer?
"If dad dies, will you get married again?" - Rosie, 6 (Note from mom: "I was like, 'Dude, you are six. And we are in the cheese aisle at Kroger'").
Being asked this by your school-aged kid may come as a bit of a shock to you. Let's face it, as humans, we are somewhat wired to avoid talking about or discussing things that upset us, make us feel uncomfortable, embarrass us or may even be taboo. Death is one such subject that might fit all of those categories. Even children, who haven't experienced the death of a close relative, could have questions about dying. Kids see a ton of stuff on TV or online. Without realizing it, they may already have had quite a bit of exposure to the mystery surrounding death. Child development psychologists suggest that it is pretty normal to be honest about it with your children by saying, "I'm not sure myself about that" or "I don't know the answer." You may actually be surprised at how well kids respond to your honesty and connect with you on that level. It may start a really important talk between the two of you.
Another tip: using positive body language goes a long way to assure your children that you are going to be there for them.
18 Eye Rolls That Go So Far Back, She Can See Her Own Thoughts
"Is that a boy or a girl?" Sarah R, 34 talking about her five-year-old who asked this of a cashier. "We were checking out at the grocery store when my five-year-old took a long, hard look at the cashier and asked, 'Excuse me, are you a boy or a girl?' I honestly could not tell either so I just said, 'Shh, that's not polite.' He looked at me, very confused, and then said, 'But I was very polite! I even said excuse me!' Sigh."
That woman has a stache of her own!
Pink colors are for girls. Boys like blue. Girls have long hair. Boys don't. Girls wear dresses and boys wear shorts. But, beyond these basic identities of he and she, your child may surpass the stereotypical gender identities in certain cases and ask you bold questions, like Sarah's child did. A Common Sense Media study showed that gender roles, from entertainment sources, even have consequences on kids self-esteem and relationships. The study suggests that kids between age two and six, learn stereotypes about activities, traits, toys, and skills associated with each gender and begin gender-typed play (girls "clean the kitchen," boys play with "race cars"). As they grow into adolescence, the idea of gender roles slowly evolves to physical attributes and the like.
17 And There It Is, The Question They've Always Wondered
"Why that big lady got a mustache?"- Renee W, 35, while talking about her son. "My son was just about three and sitting in the grocery cart in the checkout line. A large woman with hormone issues came up behind us. My son says, 'Mom, why's that lady got hair on her lips?' I tried to quiet him but he got even louder and more forcefully said, 'Mom! I said, why that big lady got a mustache?' I felt so bad. I replied with the only thing I could think of, 'Because she didn't shave'."
Does your kid ask you "why?" 70 million times a day? Have all your explanations fallen on deaf ears or been ignored? Kids are overly curious about every little thing around them. They will incessantly be bugging you with a "why?" for every statement you say. But, it may also be to just get your attention. Dr. Rebecca Palacios suggests, "When your young child is asking a “why?” question and you know that he or she needs to know and needs to know RIGHT NOW, my advice is simple: you should try to provide an immediate, direct answer that’s either short or detailed, depending on what you know and what your child can understand."
So coming up with an ingenious answer to every "why?" of theirs is not what you are expected to do. But as parents, you should be careful of what you may answer because your kid might remember what you said and use it later, even if it is nasty! Imagine Renee's three-year-old going around looking for women who don't shave their mustaches!
16 Time For The Loo, Or An Epidural?
Everything inside a tummy that's big is not a baby and everything you feel like getting out of your tummy might also not be a baby. This was a simple, logical explanation that Charlotte Anderson was trying to give her four-year-old daughter when she thought she was pregnant. "During church, my baby was insistent on asking me something. 'Mom where does the baby come out again? I need to know where babies come from now!' Then it got worse when she said: 'I think I have a baby in my stomach! And it needs to come out!' Everyone around us was cracking up. I leaned over and asked her if she wanted to go to the bathroom, more as a way to get her outside than anything. Her face brightened and she answered, "Oh, yes, let's go to the bathroom! You're right! It's not a baby ..."
Oh, thank goodness for that!
It's not a baby, let's go to the bathroom!
Kids love to give their own rationale for things and it's often hilarious. For instance, seven-year-old Anika, when traveling on a subway with her dad, threw him off guard by asking, "Is time real or is it something we measure for the sake of measuring with a clock?"
15 Questions That Leave Moms Scratching Their Heads
"Why do Grammy and Mema believe in God but you don't?" - Uma, 8
How do you talk to your eight-year-old about God? Or, why you may not believe in God at all. Questions about the existence of a higher power or those pertaining to religion, belief, customs, and traditions are bound to come up quite often, during the very inquisitive, formative years of a child. If you take your little one to your place of worship, sooner or later you may be hit with a barrage of questions: "Where is God?" "Why don't I see him?" "Why are my wishes not coming true?"
Rather than ignoring these questions, it might be best to give kids a generic understanding of creation, the existence of several religions and how it is not absolute for them to follow something in particular. But, as a parent, it is your call when, if and how to introduce your child to religion.
When Monica Parker, an author and actor, decided to ask kids between the ages of four and twelve about who they thought God was, they came up with some of the most amazing answers. Abby, a nine-year-old from New York said, "God needs someone to take his picture, so we'd know what he looks like. Maybe he could do a selfie?" While on the other hand, nine-year-old Gabby felt that God had giant ears so he could hear everything we were saying! Make this more fun and ask your own kids to think hard about who they feel God is and ask them to share that with you.
14 Why's There A String Here?
"What's that ... ?" - Three-year-old Lucy asked, wondering about menstruation and how a tampon fit into the scheme of things.
Imagine telling Lucy about getting a period. There are some things that need to be delicately broached with a three-year-old -- including the use of tampons. A lot of times, kids ask questions because they are just curious about having discovered something new. And, even if your answers make absolutely no sense, they may not care and even if they do make sense, they may not understand them.
Some moms may like being straightforward and honest, so they may talk to their babies about that time of the month.
A lot hinders on the personality and maturity of the child. For instance, one mom called period gear "adult diapers or mommy diapers." Another mom let her two-years-old think tampons were candles because the kid answered her own question. You can always tell your child, "let's talk about that when you're older." Toddlers are usually appeased with the explanations their moms give them and have a way of forgetting about things until the next questions arise.
13 Just Waiting In Life To Exchange This Mom For That One
"Your mom is nicer than my mom."
Marie H, 31, from Seattle could not help but laugh when talking about her three-year-old muttering such a bold statement: "I took my kids on an outing to a local museum. We were waiting in line to go into an exhibit when my three-year-old daughter noticed the goth teen in front of us, fully decked out in a studded jacket, giant boots, chains, torn pants, black makeup, the works. 'Why does he get to wear his pirate costume out of the house?' she demanded to me. 'I guess his mom said it was OK,' I answered weakly. Then she marched up to him and said, 'Your mom is nicer than my mom, she won't let me wear my pirate costume here.' "
If your preschooler has friends whose moms and dads love giving away cookies, hosting big playdates, takes them on cool adventure trips or buys bigger toys, you're in for trouble. The child in question may feel inferior and start comparing you to other kids' parents. It could be about the rules in the house that you set. Or the dress you didn't let your daughter buy. Or about healthy eating habits. How would you react to such a statement?
12 Eventually... Everyone Gets There... SANTA?!
"Mom, why didn't you tell me that Santa isn't real?" - Six-year-old Emma
You know what the best way is to tackle a question about Santa? Ask your little one what he or she thinks about Santa. You'll almost be able to see the little wheels turning as they tell you about what they think Santa is and what he means. It's a wonderful way of talking about the spirit of giving and kindness.
Vicki Thompson Paris shares, “I’m a parent of four kids, but also a Grade 4 teacher. Every year, there are questions at school about Santa. My standard response for these nine and 10-year olds is, ‘If you believe in Santa, he believes in you.’ It seems to work. And it’s something they can say to a friend who might try to spoil Santa for them.” At the end of the day, what matters for kids is to let kids be kids and to believe in Santa as part of the magic of the Christmas season, right? As a parent, you will know when the time is right to have the 'Santa is a spirit' talk.
The conversation is bound to happen.
After narrating a happy-sad tale about Santa and the spirit of giving that one should continue during the season, Selma Altis, who calmed her weeping little one said that her child simply hugged her for "telling the truth about Santa."
11 Time To Distract The Kid With Some Food
"Do kids die?"
Discussing a child's death with your own four-year-old child can be a real concern. As a parent, you may think it would be best to brush it aside or ignore such a random question. But, your child might be able to pick up on this and consider that talking about death is shameful or is an unspoken taboo. It might unintentionally create anxiety for your child about the future. You need to acknowledge children for being so brave and asking these types of questions. And, like every other question, this subject can be dealt with gradually, in phases.
Child psychologists have studies which show that "preschool children mostly see death as temporary, reversible and impersonal. In stories, they read or watch characters that will suddenly rise up alive again after being totally destroyed." By the time they are 10, children see death as a very confusing concept and relate it to images such as skeletons. Only during the adolescence stage is when they fully begin to understand death as a concept related to something as a part of the living. In a nutshell, give yourself and your child ample time to deal with this question!
10 That Awkward Proposal That Never Ends On A Good Note
"Why aren't you guys married yet?" was the question Neal's (from San Francisco) niece asked him when his girlfriend was visiting his family for the first time. For once, a kid's embarrassing question saved this man's life and actually got him married! He elaborated on the incident: "I brought my girlfriend with me to visit my large, close-knit family. My four-year-old niece asked my girlfriend point-blank, 'Why aren't you guys married yet?' (I'm guessing she overheard her parents discussing it, as my family was always bugging me about it). I jokingly turned to her and said, 'You know that's not a bad idea.' Then my girlfriend surprised us both with her own question, asking my niece if she would be the flower girl at our wedding. It wasn't the most elegant proposal, but it worked!"
The 'why aren't you married yet' part may get slightly more embarrassing if you are a single mom or dad, with someone you have been seriously dating.
It is best, in that case, to sit down and talk to your child about how your relationship makes him or her feel, and ask if he or she is they comfortable with the idea of you dating someone. And yes, be honest. Your child will absolutely appreciate that.
9 The Birds And The Bees, Tomorrow Please
"Did you swallow another baby?" asked 40-year-old Angie's oldest son. "When I got pregnant with my third child, my oldest was very curious about everything related to the baby. One day at the doctor's office, she poked my bulging tummy and asked, 'Did you swallow another baby? Is that how it got in there?' The doctor was like, 'No that's not how this works.' It was then I realized the time had come for The Talk."
But, how do you answer such a question or any question that your child brings up about pregnancy? There's no guide or book that will direct you to the exact and most logical answers that you can give to satisfy the child's queries. If your kid is barely one, all the kid may need to hear is that there is a baby in your tummy and, one day, it will come out to be a younger brother or sister. But, if your curious little one is anywhere between two and six years of age, they may jump the gun to ask you all sorts of questions about the baby including, 'Can you cut your tummy open? I want to see the baby now please.'
8 We're Not Crying, You're Crying
"Is my daddy going to pick me up?" - Serena, 4, whose father died eight months prior.
Didn't your heart just break a bit? Sometimes, kids are simply innocent and blunt with their questions, unlike adults who love to mask their pain or worries.
The concept of separation or events that lead to separation, such as divorce or death, are concepts children struggle with.
It is natural. Even if you may have repeatedly told your baby girl that daddy is not around anymore and that he is in heaven, and your girl still brings up a question like this over and over again, you ought to be patient and answer it as simply as you can. All the kid may want to hear is some reassurance that you are still going to be there for him or her and that you care a lot. "How did Grandpa go up to heaven?," "Why is Aunt Sally crying. Is it because Uncle Sam left her here?" or "Was it my fault that the dog died?" are similar questions that may come up depending on the situation. But, the common thing to remember is that there is no perfect answer to any of these questions.
7 What's The Difference Between A Baby And A Spiritual God
"Why do they have a statue of a baby in a diaper on the counter?" This is no ordinary question. This is a question that will probably change your perspective on how to view things differently in your mundane and monotonous world. When you hear the story behind this question, you would be stumped and amazed at how observant children are.
When Heather H, 37, from St.Petersburg Florida, was getting a pedicure done and her son was lost staring at something that amused him. She narrated, "I was sitting in my favorite nail shop getting a pedicure while my three-year-old son sat nearby. The shop is owned by a lovely Asian family and they have a statue of Buddha on the counter up front. I'd never thought to explain it to him until he loudly asked, 'Mommy, why do they have a statue of a baby in a diaper on the counter?' Oops."
If you probably can't picture what Heather's son may have seen, it's a statue of a Laughing Buddha who is usually seen wearing a robe around his waist and is bald and has a big tummy.
But, the bigger question is, how did that kid learn to draw that comparison of a laughing Buddha statue to a baby in a diaper? Often times, there are these weirdly clever questions your preschooler might end up asking you and they do so, by simply observing the environment they are in.
How did you even get there, kid?
6 The Stink Makes All Kids Laugh... In Public
"What stinks? Mom, did you fart?" That definitely seemed like the end of the world for Stacey L, 27 from North Dakota. "My three-year-old and I were sitting in church together and as everyone was coming in and sitting down he yells, 'What's that smell, mom? It smells like someone farted! Did you fart, mom? Mom did you FART??' Everyone around us started laughing. I did not fart, for the record. Not that anyone would believe me after all that."
Why aren't these perpetually questioning toddlers investigative agents already? What mystery are they trying to solve at the age of three? Grow up now!
When you think you can't get enough of your mother-in-law embarrassing you in front of her relatives, or your uncle talking about how he used to see you dance in diapers, there arrives your little boy, whom you are technically supposed to be proud of, but instead he tries to tell everyone that you have farted.
5 A Child's Perception Of Life Will Make Us All Wonder
"Does everybody's skin start to fall off like yours when they get old?" - Michael, 6, to his great-grandmother. Ouch, that may have hurt a bit. But, coming from an adorable 6-year-old rather makes you wonder, how did the kid add up skin falling and aging together to even construct that question. Maybe this is still okay because, sometimes, kids can explore far too deep into their brains and may make us feel a wee bit unaccomplished. Here's a list of questions we found from different social media communities. Enjoy feeling ridiculous now!
Kelly's kid threw this at her- “Why do we have to be born young and grow old, why can’t we be born old and get young?”
“Why do I have two eyes if I only see one thing?” asked this 6-year-old whiz kid, Aaron, to his mum.
A Redditor's 5-year-old daughter came to him and said, "Daddy, I have a problem and maybe you can help me out with it. How do I know that I'm real and not just a dream of someone else?"
Another parent on a forum shared this: "My five-year-old daughter asked my wife and I this about her three-month-old brother the other day.'Dad, does Mikey know he's alive yet?' 'why do you ask that?" I said. She replied with 'well, he doesn't know his name yet, and I know that because when I call him he doesn't turn to look at me. I think that if you don't know who you are, you must not know you are alive.' My wife and I didn't know how to respond."
4 Just Ignore This Question Altogether
Heather K, 37, from Phoenix was in Walmart with her four-year-old when he yelled, "Hey, mom, is that one of those huge people (on spotting a large woman) from that show you always watch?" Heather was obviously put in a spot by her son and she said, "I never miss an episode of My 600 lb. Life...but maybe I should start waiting until after bedtime to watch!"
In this case, a simple "no" from the parent would suffice!
Sometimes kids ask questions that may tend to bother you either because they are uncomfortable to answer or because they infringe on your privacy. You can't lecture your kid about such things running through their mind. However, you can choose to ignore the question or be crisp with your answers. But, never let your child pick up that you are feeling discomfort or are trying to be dishonest. Some parenting blogs suggest real-life examples of how parents tell their children statements like- 'No, I don't want to talk about it' or 'I don't have the answer yet, I'll let you know when I do'- work like magic.
Choosing to ignore questions, parents are actually helping the child learn to be independent and figure the answers to the questions they asked, by themselves.
Sample this- a five-year-old went on incessantly rambling to his dad, Finch, about why flies get attracted by dirty smelling food and driven away by the good smelling food. Of course, Finch didn't know what to say, because he had no answer. A day later, the little boy came up with this explanation- 'We smell good things and get attracted to them. Flies smell bad things and get attracted to them. Obviously, their lungs are upside down.'
Well now, who has all the answers?
3 Questions Only Geniuses Could Answer
Tyler, 32, from Westminster, clearly seemed to be having a bad day when his daughter decided to make it even worse. He narrates the incident- "I took my four-year-old daughter to the doctors for her checkup. Just as we sat down, in the packed waiting room, she loudly blurted, "Are we here so the doctor can make your diarrhea go away?' I changed doctors that next day."
A study from a few years ago concluded that mums are asked more questions in an hour than a teacher or doctor. How is that possible? Well, the research further noted that four-year-old girls were typically more curious and asked about 390 questions a day, taking the average to one question every minuter and 56 seconds.
When Shauna, mother of a three-year-old, was listening to the radio one fine day, her son asked, “Mama, how small are the people on the radio?” Shauna took a few seconds to ask that to herself and wondered what she would have expected as an answer, as a three-year-old herself. She pinched her fingers together and showed her son, “About this big.” We thought that was a perfect answer, wasn't that?
2 Questions That Make Moms Want To Pull Out Their Hair
"I was grocery shopping with my four-year-old and we came across a group of little people, also shopping. She immediately jumped up, pointed, and started hollering, 'Are those real elves, mom? Why are they so short? Can I touch them?' I was so embarrassed and tried to quiet her immediately while explaining it's rude to point at people and say things about their bodies. I moved to a different aisle as fast as I could. That worked until we saw them again as we were leaving and she just had to yell at them, 'Hi little people! Hi! You're so little!' I wanted to die." - Angie J, 40, Murrieta.
Why is the sky blue?
A survey conducted in the United Kingdom, that involved 2,000 parents of kids who asked them tough questions, revealed that there were 5 common questions which almost always got the parents stuck – Why is the moon sometimes out during the day? Why is the sky blue? Will we ever discover aliens? How much does the Earth weigh? How do airplanes stay up?
Of course, another revealing bit of the survey pointed out that one-fifth of the parents admitted making up answers, or pretending that no one ever knows the answer, to questions they found extremely difficult.
1 The Baby Got In There How, Exactly?
Rocco, 5: "How does a baby get into a Mommy's tummy?"Mom: "A daddy puts it there."Rocco: "Where does a daddy get the baby?"Mom: "From God."Rocco: "Daddy, when did you meet God?"
Can you imagine where this conversation would have led to and wondered, just like us, whether Rocco ended up going to sleep that night? Out of all things in the world, and even the list of questions they may be imagining about, children sure have themselves stuck upon unraveling every ounce of details about babies and pregnancies. Somehow, it becomes the dinner table conversation every night, doesn't it?
For kids between the ages of three and seven, practically everyone with a big belly is pregnant- man or woman, doesn't matter. But let's say this kid decided to play it safe- "Did you know you have a big belly?" - Sam, three, to his overweight uncle. And this incessant obsession about questioning is bound to keep going on and on. The ideal way to keep your sanity and tackle with your kids' questions about pregnancy is to frankly list down everything the kid might possibly end up asking you.
We have three right here to get you started- Can I put the baby back in? Will your belly go back to becoming small? Will it cry a lot?
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