It isn’t always the hormones.
Being sensitive sometimes has a negative connotation attached to it. People think “sensitive” and they automatically assume that person is easily offended and overly emotional. Though those traits may be the case for some people, being sensitive doesn’t always have to be seen in a negative light when it comes to parenthood.
It sometimes simply means you care – a lot.
When it comes to finding a parenting style that works well for you and your family, personal traits and personalities play a big role. If you are a sensitive person, incorporating that sensitivity into your parenting style can help guide you when trying to figure out how you want to discipline, encourage and praise your children. Being an emotional, sensitive mother is something to embrace – not something to be embarrassed about.
Read on to find out more about "sensitive" moms. We all have moments of sensitivity, so moms, please remember that you are not alone. Moms all over the world are going through the same emotional rollercoaster.
17 Anxiety Sometimes Takes Over
Sensitive people sometimes worry easily. They may find themselves worrying about every little thing their little one does – even if their actions are completely normal. Worrying can often mean caring, in some light, but when it comes to feeling that constant, continuous feeling of worry – that’s when worry switches over to anxiety.
Postpartum depression is a struggle for many moms after delivering their child. However, anxiety is not always discussed when it comes to the postpartum blues that some parents deal with. No one wants to really admit they are feeling any kind of postpartum stress – they want to come off as the strong, well-balanced mama they planned to be all along.
Being a strong and well-balanced mama is not an immediate title a woman is given. It is a title they grow into as they proceed through parenthood and for sensitive people, not having that immediate control can cause anxiety. Seeking professional guidance and using the self-talk method can provide new moms with some of the anxiety-relief they may need as their parenthood adventure progresses.
16 Everything Makes You Cry
Being an overly emotional person is not a bad thing (again, it is NOT a bad thing). You may find the tears to start rolling when your little one coos for the first time or sleeps through the night or even snuggles up close to you. Tears prove you are human and after the birth of a child, hormones are already racing rapidly through your system. If you have always been an emotional person, you are probably bound to continue this trend into motherhood.
And that’s absolutely okay.
Women sometimes get a bad reputation, especially after having a baby, for being criers. The thing is, it is not a bad thing and it shows that you are someone who genuinely feels everything going on around you. You see every moment, good or bad, as having a deep impact on your life and the baby’s life.
15 You Overthink Everything
According to The Health Site, overthinking can affect a person’s digestive system, brain, heart functioning, skin, suppress your immune system. Though overthinking may be linked to anxiety, it also can stand alone. Overthinking means paying attention to every detail in every scenario, re-thinking every pro and con and, before coming up with a response, replaying the situation over-and-over in your head.
Talk about tiring.
Sensitive moms tend to overthink everything because they don’t want anything to go wrong for their child – and that makes sense. Nobody wants their baby to get sick or injured or put in an uncomfortable position. However, sometimes being spontaneous can be a healthy change for both Mama and baby. It shows the child that not everything needs to be set-in-stone (even though routine is important) and that Mom can also branch out.
14 You Wake Up At The Drop Of A Pin
Many moms say that most dads have similar sleep patterns – they snore away as the baby screams and cries in the middle of the night. Though this isn’t the case for all Dads, Moms tend to be the ones to hear every little noise going on in the nursery. If the baby is bedside in a swing or bassinet, Mom often has difficulty sleeping because if the baby breathes heavily or twitches, her eyelids shoot open.
Obviously, it is important to hear a newborn when they wake up at night, but sometimes being sensitive to every sound and movement can be exhausting – especially when you’re a new parent. Since sleep is already a rare activity, it can be frustrating when you are just starting to fall into that REM sleep when your baby sniffles and breaks that focus. Finding a good pre-sleep schedule that works for you can help provide a better night’s sleep while still keeping that ability to hear when baby needs help at night.
And for a sensitive mama, that ability to hear everything won’t go away all that quickly.
13 “Mama Bear Syndrome”
Most parents tend to have that one natural instinct engrained into their brains: Keep baby safe. For a sensitive person, the fear of your little one getting hurt, emotionally or physically, is an incredibly present fear. When visualizing what could happen to your child, you also visualize how you would react if that scenario were to come to life.
And more times than not, Mama Bear takes over.
Mama Bear will always protect her cubs. Sensitive people tend to visualize the worst and immediately focus on the negatives that could happen, making Mama Bear appear before an incident even occurs. One little thing could bring out the claws and even though parents should always be protective of their children’s safety, it’s healthy to find some sort of balance. You want your children to learn and succeed in a positive light rather than a state of worry or what-if. Focusing on positive scenarios before the negative ones can prevent those claws from making an appearance prematurely.
12 The Fear Of Making Bad Decisions Is Real
No matter how many classes you take or books you read, no one person is every fully prepared for parenthood. They plan to make certain decisions and stick to a specific style of parenting and while those are great goals, it often doesn’t always happen exactly as planned. No mother wants to make decisions that others may see as wrong. Even if the decisions a sensitive mama makes are true to her beliefs, she may still fear what others think about those decisions.
Even though these fears are natural, they can sometimes completely take over. If this fear gets in the way of too much, rational thinking can be put at jeopardy. When living and learning alongside a newborn, rational thinking is critical. Fears can easily jeopardize rational thinking and it’s important try to take a moment to step back and ask yourself some questions: What is worth stressing about? Is this stress a health or safety risk? Do the thoughts of others really matter that much?
11 You Constantly Check In With The Pediatrician
You see them in the movies and you read about them in books, but you never expect to become one of those characters. Calling the doctor about a weird-sounding sniffle, a funny looking rash or the color of your baby’s poo (new moms know that baby poo becomes a household discussion) are not always worries just for the characters in stories.
Real moms worry about these things too.
Most pediatricians are often very open and available to new parents when it comes to the mudslide of questions that arise once home with a new baby. It is normal for new moms to get concerned about little things that may not seem like bid problems to others. Offices typically have nurse’s lines and after-hours phone lines with an on-call doctor available who can answer any questions. Being sensitive to those little concerns is a good thing, but it is also important to sit back and take a good look at the situation before making that call.
10 You Have Difficulty Letting Your Baby “Cry It Out”
Sleep training is often a dreaded part of parenthood. No one wants to hear their little one scream and cry and fight sleep. Maternal instincts often click into full-gear when it comes to hearing their baby cry and they want to soothe them and cuddle them so they don’t feel any discomfort. Sleep training is the first step in your baby becoming as independent as an infant can get and sensitive moms sometimes have difficulty letting their baby “cry it out”.
Another truth is that most moms also can’t sleep when their baby is crying, so it also cuts into their sacred sleep time.
A pediatric sleep specialist told Women’s Health that “by not immediately taking action, your son or daughter should learn how to self-soothe.” Though this method can sometimes be controversial for parents, it is important that your little one learn the method of self-soothing. Sensitive parents often have trouble with this method because they want to the be seen as the ultimate soother. Parents will always be the almighty person-of-comfort in their child’s eyes, but giving them the opportunity to self-sooth is important.
9 You Notice Every Detail
Being a detailed-oriented person is a talent you should truly take to heart. Being able to focus on intricate details is something that can be helpful even outside of motherhood. It helps when it comes to strengthening your memory and getting those creative juices flowing. When it comes to the health and safety of your child, you will be especially grateful for remembering and noticing the little details that not everyone else might have.
However, sometimes noticing every detail can bring on quite the headache.
When a sensitive person automatically views the details of every situation, they can become overwhelmed. While some detailed-oriented people can separate themselves from the anxiety-ridden factors, a sensitive mother may see all the negative details to a situation rather than the positive details. Unfortunately, it is human nature to view negatives before positives and it is important to try to reverse this automatic instinct.
8 The Opinions of Others Are Sometimes Hard To Hear
New parents need to hear compliments and praise. They need to feel supported and uplifted by those around them since motherhood can be such an overwhelming, emotional time. While most people surround themselves with people who are supportive and loving, some friends or family members may be brutally honest people. With differing personalities comes differing opinions and sometimes facing those blunt voices can be tough – especially when you’re hormonal and sensitive.
People can be mean. Plain and simple that is the truth. Some people don’t realize what they’re saying can be hurtful and to someone with a sensitive mind and personality, some words or actions can truly hit hard. The opinions of others when it comes to breastfeeding, pumping, c-sections, binkies, swaddling, and co-sleeping can be quite controversial and if you’re a sensitive person, you take what they say to heart every time.
Be the stronger individual and open yourself up to their point-of-view, even if they aren’t willing to do the same. Once you prove to yourself that you are able to push through your emotions, you will find you can push past the intense opinions of others without them hitting so hard.
7 You Deeply Feel The Feelings Of Others
Merriam-Webster states that “sympathy is when you share the feelings of another.” Many sensitive people sympathize easily with the emotions of others and if you are an overly sensitive person, you are more than likely to be sympathetic. You deeply feel how others feel on a genuine, emotional level. This sometimes gets in the way of your own emotions or even replaces them, weirdly enough. Though being sensitive and sympathetic are incredibly good traits to have, if you feel how others feel to this magnitude, it can sometimes get distracting.
If you are a sympathetic person, you are probably able to physically and emotionally feel the pain and discomfort your baby is feeling when they are crying out. You want to immediately coddle and soothe your little one and you’d do everything in your power to stop their pain.
Feeling deeply for others is a powerful trait to have. However, like all powers, it comes with a price.
6 You Will Fight For Your Loved Ones
Being sensitive means caring genuinely for almost everyone you know – unless they have given you clear reason not to. You reach out to people and often are the one putting forth the effort in friendships and relationships. If someone you know is feeling bullied or emotionally hurt, you will be the one to make sure they do not feel that way.
This means you will stand up for everyone and anyone (even if they don’t need you to).
This truly is a good trait for a parent to have. Being able to show your child there are healthy ways to fight for the ones you care most about (without making it a physical fight) sculpts your child into a well-rounded, strong individual. It is important to make sure your child learns how to safely take a stand and protect their loved ones without becoming reckless - especially in this reckless world we live in.
5 Those Creative Juices Are Overflowing
Children are becoming so attached to their devices. They are becoming so connected with their smartphones and tablets and video games that human communication has become a distant thought. However, being sensitive often means understanding the importance of creativity and how unhealthy it is when someone lacks it.
According to TIME, “inventiveness occurs when kids have time for curiosity and exploration. With children spending up to eight hours a day on media devices and additional hours engaging in scheduled activities, opportunities for growth are stifled.” If you are a sensitive mom, you more-than-likely know this already and plan to keep you children’s imaginations open and active. However – it is easier said than done, especially with schools utilizing technology more and more. Making sure you take time to be creative with your child will provide them with this important growth while also allowing you bonding time with them – before those devices fully take over.
4 You’re A “People Pleaser”
No one wants to disappoint others. Keeping others happy often keeps you happy – especially if you are a sensitive person. You go out of your way to get gifts for loved ones and squeeze extra time in your already hectic schedule to be with family simply because they will appreciate it. If someone makes a negative comment, you will find a way to put a positive spin on it so it can be seen in a better light.
You also may quietly enjoy when people praise your dedication just as much as you praise theirs, but that’s something you will not easily admit.
However, making others happy is something that genuinely makes you happy. Sensitive mamas do everything in their power to make sure their little one is comfortable, healthy, happy and secure – the way any baby should feel. Even though that can’t be the case for babies at all times, you do your very best to make sure everything is as close to perfect as possible for them.
This can sometimes include the nursery décor, room temperature, bottle temperature, sound machine music and routine – but hey, if the baby is happy, so are you.
3 Every Milestone Is Emotional
Reaching milestones are always exciting moments for a new parent. Watching your little one grab their toes or roll over for the first time can bring forward lots of happy emotions when other pieces of parenthood may bring forward more stressful ones (like doing laundry or too many dirty diapers). However, for a sensitive mama, each specific milestone may come with a price.
And that price may be the falling of tears.
Yes, it’s practically a known fact that women are emotional when it comes to their babies. True love (and hormones) will do that to a person. For the sensitive mom, milestones become a little bit more than just a step towards independence – they become steps towards “not needing Mom anymore.” Milestones shouldn’t be seen in the light. Hitting an important milestone should be a moment of extreme excitement because your little one is growing beautifully. Don’t cry because your little one no longer needs you to rock them to sleep. If you become emotional, become emotional because of how proud you are of them.
2 You Tend To Apologize – A Lot
You probably need a “Sorry Jar.” This means, every time you say, “I’m Sorry” you put five dollars into a jar (and no – you don’t keep the money). If you are a sensitive mom, your jar may already be overflowing even when it has only just been a week since you gave birth. You may have apologized for things you can’t even remember. You may have said “I’m sorry” when the nurse came into to clean you up after delivery or when you had a hard time walking after the c-section.
Were any of these apologies actually your fault? Nope.
Sensitive people often apologize for actions that should not be apologized for. This sometimes occurs out of embarrassment or fear of being disliked. Psychology Today make a list of ways to replace the over said phrase that could help people who fall into this category: Say “thank you” instead, try not to mess up in the first place, know where to draw the line, save it, embrace your imperfections, and get support. By thinking about these options before immediately going for the unneeded apology, you are more likely to sound confident and certain when facing many situations.
1 You Love Hard
When your baby is handed over to you for the first time, you can’t help but fall instantly in love. Even the world’s most horrible human being probably couldn’t help but get slightly emotional when coming face-to-face with their own newborn son or daughter. It is a connection unlike any other and a bond that can never be broken.
Once you become a mom, you officially have the world’s most difficult, yet satisfying job.
When you’re a sensitive person, you feel these feelings hard. Your heart beats a little harder and you cry a few extra (probably unnecessary) tears. However, it’s worth every additional emotion because it is for your child – your own flesh and blood. You shouldn’t be embarrassed to love the way you love because not many people have this genuine ability.
The strength behind your love is true and can’t be ignored – and you wouldn’t want to ignore it.
References: The Health Site, Women’s Health, Merriam-Webster, TIME, Psychology Today