Tom Cruise has had a lot of comments thrown his way over the years because of his different parenting approaches. He is a mega-star who has had multiple divorces over the years, and no one said it was easy raising children in Hollywood. He raised Isabella and Connor on his own for the most part because of that divorce, and his beliefs changed the manner in which he interacted with his older children.
He has three children now, two adopted with Nicole Kidman and a biological daughter, Suri, he had when he was married to Katie Holmes. He is pretty famous, and with that comes a lot of responsibility to produce movies that continue to be box office gold. It’s not easy. We’ve seen him over the years do some pretty cool things as a parent, and we have also seen him do some questionable things.
He’s been called out at times for his bizarre parenting methods, but he barely blinks an eye at what people have to say. He is Tom Cruise after all. He loves his children — there is no denying that — and we’re sure he didn’t anticipate what happened with Suri. Check out these 15 pics of Tom Cruise’s sick parenting skills (and 5 that K-Holmes won’t approve).
Let's start with the 16 photos that show Tom Cruise has sick parenting skills...
20 He Takes Them To Ballgames
There is no doubt about it, Tom loves his sports, and we often see him at ballgames with his family. Connor Cruise is a big fan of them as well and you will likely see them having father/son moments like this regularly. Now that Connor is an adult, he can hang out with his dad whenever he wants to. Tom believes in providing his children with a good time and he certainly has the money to do it. “If you have kids, it is the most important thing to create good times.”
19 He Lets His Daughter Wear High Heels
There is no doubt about it, Suri Cruise looks adorable in dresses and high heels but are they the best for a child of her age? Cruise is known to be an indulgent father over the years and with a net worth of around $550 million he can buy his kids whatever they want. Katie Holmes has always been into fashion so it’s likely her influence that had her daughter in elegant dresses and high heels. Fans didn’t always approve of the style for a child but we think she looks adorable. Holmes was quick to tell people to chill out.
18 He Loves To Carry Them
We know that Tom loves his kids because he’s been carrying them for a long time. Suri certainly used to be a daddy’s girl because it seemed wherever they went, she was always wrapped in his arms. It may have also had a lot to do with her being protected from the paparazzi. When it comes to his family, he does try to put them first and when he’s working, he loves having them on set with him. “I've always had the same values. Family for me has always been important. When I shoot, everybody comes.”
17 Lots Of Hugs
Tom Cruise loves affection and when Katie Holmes was dating him, she stated that he was one of the most romantic men that she had ever met. Kids need lots of hugs and kisses and it’s sweet to see pictures like this of Tom and his daughter. With Tom, he believes that he’s doing the best possible thing for his kids all the time. “Whether it's making a film or raising my children, personally I'm striving to do the right things and to learn.” Parenting is definitely something that we are all constantly striving to learn more and be better at.
16 Father-Son Time
These two definitely have a strong bond together as they are often seen photographed. Tom likely spends more time with Connor than he does with any of his other children. It might have something to do with Connor being a man but Connor also embraces the lifestyle that Tom has while Bella will avoid the spotlight. They also spend a lot of time within the same organized belief system. Connor is often seen on set with Cruise or at ballgames. The two know the value of quality time together. “I love kids. I was a kid myself, once.” Well, he’s not lying.
15 He Watched Their Sports Games
Throughout the years we have often seen Tom Cruise at his children’s sporting events. Connor was involved in football while Bella was in soccer. We have seen him on the sidelines watching and cheering his children on. He does have a very intense work schedule but he seems to find the time to do things that are important to him like his children’s lives. When he’s not working, he is definitely more of a family man and you see that in these pictures. Katie Holmes was always a supportive stepmother when it came to going to the games as well.
14 At The Park With His Daughter
Quality time with his family is very important and it’s kind of crushing when you think about how many times a marriage has failed for Tom. Hollywood will do that to you though and it proves that Tom still believes in love. We haven’t seen him with anyone special for a long time and it might be because losing Katie was quite rough for him. There was a lot of speculation that he didn’t see the divorce coming at all because she literally slipped out in the night and announced the divorce without him knowing. It’s likely to make anyone shy away from getting involved with someone again.
13 Promotes Physical Activity
Tom Cruise is super fit and active he always has been. It’s still hard to believe that he’s in his 50’s; the guy looks great for his age. Well, let’s be honest, he always looks great. One thing he promotes in his family is staying fit and we saw him often going jogging a lot with Katie when they were married. He’s also seen jogging with Connor as well who follows his dad’s footsteps in many areas in his life. “I've gotten very good at scheduling my life, scheduling the scene and preparing myself for knowing, saving the energy, consuming the energy, knowing when to go for it and having the available reserves to be able to do that. You have to think about that, because it's endurance.”
12 Choosing To Adopt
We love, love, love this photo of Nicole Kidman and Tom Cruise. Not only does it bring us back to the beginning but we love how protective Tom looks in this photo. He is holding his daughter’s head as they make their way into the courthouse to finish up the adoption proceedings. “From the minute Tom and I were married, I wanted to have babies,” Kidman previously told Marie Claire magazine in 2007. “And we lost a baby early on, so that was really very traumatic.” It affected Kidman a lot. “There’s an enormous amount of pain and an enormous amount of joy on the other side of it,” Kidman told the Tatler.
11 Having A Family Day
We once again see little Suri in Tom’s arms and we remember back to when they were a happy family. Tom’s with all his children in this photo and it’s a heartwarming scene. Tom puts his all into every aspect of his life whether that’s his family, acting or his physical health. Some may even call him obsessed but maybe that’s why he’s so successful. “I'm an all-or-nothing kind of person, and when I become interested in something, I give it my all.” He’s definitely someone you can get inspiration from as he’s had a very full and exciting life.
10 He’s The Fun Dad
Tom Cruise is known to be an adrenaline junkie and that’s why we see him always having fun with his kids. Whether that’s going on trips, getting ready to go fishing with Connor or taking them to the race track. He loves excitement and joy in his life, but he’s also learned to relax over the years. “I've learned to relax more. Everybody feels pressure in what they do, maybe mine is just a little different because there doesn't seem to be enough hours in the day to accomplish what I want to.” You rarely see him without his children during his off time.
9 He Takes Them To Carnivals
Even Tom Cruise goes to carnivals because they are so much fun. We have to wonder how he keeps people from constantly asking for autographs when he’s in regular places like this. “I've been... chased by paparazzi, and they run lights, and they chase you and [bug] you the whole time. It happens all over the world, and it has certainly gotten worse. You don't know what it's like being chased by them.” He clearly makes something work however and he looks like he’s enjoying a fun day with Suri. He may be having more fun than she is.
8 Trying To Create A Family
Tom Cruise has been married three times over the years and as much as he wants to create that perfect family picture, it’s something that he’s struggled with over time. This is a picture-perfect wedding shot of the couple and you would think with a picture like this that things would have lasted, but alas they did not. Katie Holmes was the perfect stepmother for Isabella and Connor because she loved being involved in their lives which you don’t always see in blended marriages. Only time will tell if Tom decided to head down the aisle for the fourth time.
7 He Goes Racing
Who wouldn’t love to spend the day at the race track with Tom Cruise? His son, Connor is lucky enough to be able to go with his dad who loves things like this. He’s an adrenaline junkie and nothing is better for Tom than a day racing cars. He once went to Top Gear’s racing track and put the race car on two wheels. According to Roger French, an SCCA regional champion he gives his opinion on Tom. "In the car, he was very aggressive. I was trying to hold him back so he could learn in stages, but he wanted to go fast. It's in his nature... His attitude was go fast all the time.”
6 Taking Kids To Work Day
One of Cruise’s best qualities is that he loves taking his kids to work. It can be hard to make a Hollywood marriage work because actors have to be on set for months at a time. But Tom encourages his family to travel with him and visit him while he’s on the set. It definitely helps in keeping the family connected in the most important ways. This picture is adorable as Tom tries to encourage Suri to come on the bike with him and Cameron Diaz. This was while he was filming Knight and Day with the gorgeous actress.
5 Fatherly Love
This is another amazing picture of Tom Cruise showing his love for his children. He’s kissing Connor in this photo and it’s pretty obvious that the two are very close. Nicole Kidman spoke about their relationship with their children in the best possible way. “And I am an example of that tolerance and that’s what I believe — that no matter what your child does, the child has love and the child has to know there is available love and I’m open here. I think that’s so important because if that is taken away from a child, to sever that in any child, in any relationship, in any family — I believe it’s wrong. So that’s our job as a parent, to always offer unconditional love.”
And here are 4 photos Katie Holmes would not approve of...
4 Suri Is Excluded
It must be painful for Katie Holmes to see pictures like this because of the absence of Suri or maybe she prefers things the way that they are as she moves on with Jamie Foxx. His two adopted children are all grown up and one lives close to him while the other fled the country. He still tries to see them both as much as he can but he lives close to Connor so it's likely he sees him more than his daughter. Tom makes sure that he always has a good time with his kids which is a great quality to have in a father.
3 Not Going To The Wedding
Bella got married in a small ceremony and oddly enough neither of her parents were in attendance. It’s a peculiar thing because most of us couldn’t imagine missing our child’s wedding. We all want to see the epic walk down the aisle. For a father, there is also the father/daughter dance and giving away your daughter as you walk her down the aisle. We know that Nicole Kidman hasn’t been as close to her children since the divorce but there should be no reason why Tom would no attend Bella’s wedding. There was a lot of talk that it was his movie schedule that prevented him and other talk that he didn’t approve of the groom and didn’t want to put a damper on her day. But he did foot the bill for the wedding.
There’s no way around it, Tom spends a lot of time with Connor, more so than any of his other children. Now, he may have no control over what happens with him and Suri but we don’t see nearly as many photos with him and Bella than we do with him and Connor. That may also have a lot to do with Bella wanting to avoid the spotlight at all costs. Since her marriage, Bella now lives in England in a small semi-detached home and its known that she has refused money from her parents. She seems to just want to live a quiet life.
1 Not Spending Time With Suri
As per the separation agreement that Katie Holmes has, Tom Cruise gets to see his daughter ten days out of every month. So, where has he been? We’re sure that the situation has not only been hard on Suri, who probably doesn’t understand the complications of a divorce, or where her dad is, but it’s also hard on Katie who has to see her daughter in pain. She likely doesn’t approve of the fact that Tom has chosen to stay out of his daughter’s life. It’s also surprising considering Tom was raised by women and has a strong connection to women: “I'm always around my mother and sisters. I always wanted to be a father, a husband.”